My child has been rejected by his peers, ridiculed and bullied !!!
Social rejection has devastating effects in many areas of functioning. Because the ASD child tends to internalize how others treat him, rejection damages self-esteem and often causes anxiety and depression. As the child feels worse about himself and becomes more anxious and depressed – he performs worse, socially and intellectually.
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How to Prevent Meltdowns in Children on the Spectrum
Meltdowns are not a pretty sight. They are somewhat like overblown temper tantrums, but unlike tantrums, meltdowns can last anywhere from ten minutes to over an hour. When it starts, the Asperger's or HFA child is totally out-of-control. When it ends, both you and your child are totally exhausted. But... don’t breathe a sigh of relief yet. At the least provocation, for the remainder of that day -- and sometimes into the next - the meltdown can return in full force.
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Parenting Defiant Teens on the Spectrum
Although Aspergers [high-functioning autism] is at the milder end of the autism spectrum, the challenges parents face when disciplining a teenager on the spectrum are more difficult than they would be with an average teen. Complicated by defiant behavior, the teen is at risk for even greater difficulties on multiple levels – unless the parents’ disciplinary techniques are tailored to their child's special needs.
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Older Teens and Young Adult Children with ASD Still Living At Home
Your older teenager or young “adult child” isn’t sure what to do, and he is asking you for money every few days. How do you cut the purse strings and teach him to be independent? Parents of teens with ASD face many problems that other parents do not. Time is running out for teaching their adolescent how to become an independent adult. As one mother put it, "There's so little time, yet so much left to do."
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Parenting Children and Teens with High-Functioning Autism
Two traits often found in kids with High-Functioning Autism are “mind-blindness” (i.e., the inability to predict the beliefs and intentions of others) and “alexithymia” (i.e., the inability to identify and interpret emotional signals in others). These two traits reduce the youngster’s ability to empathize with peers. As a result, he or she may be perceived by adults and other children as selfish, insensitive and uncaring.
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Highly Effective Research-Based Parenting Strategies for Children with Asperger's and HFA
Become an expert in helping your child cope with his or her “out-of-control” emotions, inability to make and keep friends, stress, anger, thinking errors, and resistance to change.
25 comments:
You just described my daughter to a tee ! On every single one...
How do I reduce the levels of cortisol in my little stressed four year old aspie? It's taking him hours to get to sleep in the evening and of course has moments during the day were he's completely deflated.
I have a question! My son has a lot of sensory problems at school. He gets bad migraines there and at home. We found a pair of sunglasses that he wears all the time to help control this. My question is would the school allow him to wear these if it helps control the amount of school he misses due to migraines??
Thats my 7 yr old son to a tea!only trouble is he doesnt reach criteria 4 diagnosis were i live despite him havin a half sister with same disorder! Camhs wont help and im at my wits end! Hes not even been to school 4 last 2 months either.
He had a scat test and ados assessment 18 months ago and the results proved inconclusive at this time but did suggest hyperkinetic behaviour both in school and at home but im told by camhs he aint got adhd either!
My 13 yr old daughter has severe dyslexia and has just had special tinted over lays put into normal frames via the doc referal to a specialist opthomologist at the hosp as she was getting similar probs. Has a special card she carrys now to let teachers kno she needs them if thats any help lemanda!x
Are you having problems with your school system with your son? I'm glad that your daughter seems to be getting support from her school! Thats so important for them :)
Am i avin problems with his school? Hell yes! Hes way behind his peers, has no friends, only gets 10hrs support a wk and his support i use that term lightly! Shouts at him so much he has refused to go back. At a stale mate at min as school refuse 2 change the support teacher.
I know what that is like. I have been fighting my sons school every since he started and he is 11 now. It is so bad that they avoid me as much as possible. I'm so sorry that your family is having to go through that. I'm here, if you ever need to talk.
I had to go to the top of the education board for my area to get the help I needed for my 8 yr old son. He's just now been offered a place in a specialist school but I had to fight for it, he can't tolerate school at all! He's been part time for the last six months which has helped his behaviour and his violent out bursts in school (maybe because he's not there much?) Just a shame we all need to fight so hard for the things our kids are entitled to and can't cope without.
Since joinin this group ive already found alot of support from various people in similar situations as myself! 4 that i say thanku! On the other hand it also opens my eyes to just how much parents and care givers have to fight for their kids to get what they need! Disgusts me to think how many more kids like my own are bein failed daily.
My 7yr old son w/aspergers struggles with failing at things, primarily sports because he has zero athletic ability. In gym the kids are asked to jump rope 15 times to make the "kangaroo club". When my son couldn't even complete ONE, he screamed outloud in gym. Same day he proceeded to lose in a simple classroom game and this was enough to put'him over the edge. On the bus ride home that day, he lashed out at the girl he was seated with and hit her in the face. His explanation "This was the WORST DAY EVER". It brought me to tears because I know how hard it is for him on a daily basis. The school offers absolutely no extra help for my son.
We have had success with melatonin and sleepy time tea. We also do yoga or meditation before bed.
We've used Neurexan (a homeopathic sleep aid) and are having very good results with this. Also added 1000 I.U. of liquid Vit. D (my son thrashes about while sleeping, and will either launch himself off the bed or headfirst into the wall, and this seems to be helping), and a weighted blanket is making a tremendous difference.
Yes all the time. My son gets worked up over the tiniest things and it's so hard trying to offer support when he pushes me away. He gets even more upset if I try console him and I feel pretty useless :-( xxx
I guess it is...my 9 year old son is worrying me so with his anger and unlike when he was little he does not want me to say one word to him or console him in anyway :(
wow,so accurate.However,some just do not get it.
that sounds just like my son. He is also 9. I'm hoping it's a hormonal thing as he hasn't always been this bad xxx
Having more than one in the same household can be quite interesting too.
Stay calm and rational, be consistent in your response, whatever it is. After 2,153 repetitions (seems like), 11yo will usually respond to a strategy reminder, i.e. "You need to breathe and count to 37 (always an funny #)" or "That's a SMALL thing, dude, regroup." Distract and break that mental lock as early as possible to prevent total meltdown. Good luck!
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My son is now almost 16, he more often than not storms out of his classrooms in a for of anger. When he does stay in class he usually exploded into angry verbal outburts. Often with foul language resulting in detentions/ suspensions. It's important to ensure your children's intsructors will help them develop skill sets needed to cope with neg feelings as well as a supportive environment too.
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yes all 3 of my a/s loved ones react differently to stress,husband only has meltdowns very rarely,less as he gets older,i have learnt to just walk away,if i try to calm him or talk him down,it makes it worse,oldest daughter has serious mental health issues too and in her teens and 20s became very agressive and confrontational,youngest aspergers daughter is very passive and quiet,all so different,
all the time. I'm learning how to deal with it better though. Be consistent, be firm.
17 hours ago · Like
yes i try to... as much as humanly possible when dealing with ASD use it as a teaching moment. We walk through and role play more appropriate responses to his outburst. It's a long hard road and there are many u turns on it and even dead ends :) Keep your faith my ASD teaches me everyday, and he has a HUGE heart, not sure what life would be like if he weren't ASD
Wow- this article sounds like it was written just for my son. It is so helpful to read these articles and learn that what we go thru on a daily basis with him is typical Aspie behavior.
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