Education and Counseling for Individuals Affected by Autism Spectrum Disorders


Behavior Management for Aspergers Kids

"Should I discipline my Aspergers son the same way I do my other children, or do I need to make adjustments based on his disorder?"

Children with Aspergers and High Functioning Autism have no greater permission to run amok and misbehave than your other children. However, the way you gain control over your kids' behavior will likely differ with an Aspergers child as opposed to other children, mostly because of differences in how he thinks and how he perceives rewards and sanctions.

Aspergers children, similar to other children, do not respond well to negative reinforcement (e.g., spanking, yelling, etc.). Aspergers children really don’t respond negatively to isolation, so the command, “Go to your room!” may be seen as a positive thing instead of a negative thing. This means that parents need to be more creative in defining which things will be seen as rewards and which things will be seen as sanctions by the child.

Positive rewards may include being able to play with a preferred toy, being allowed watch a preferred television program or listen to preferred music. Rewarding a child with computer game time may be enough to alter his or her behavior accordingly.

These particular rewards are often offered because Aspergers children respond more to the presence or absence of “things” and less to human contact or even human praise. The rewards can be offered along with human praise, but praise alone often falls flat and doesn’t affect self-esteem in the same way it might another child.

Sanctions involve removing preferred items, including television, toys, computer games or movies—anything the child prefers. All sanctions and rewards must come with clear reasons explained to the child as to why the sanction or reward is being given. Only then can the child match the reward or sanction with the behavior he has done -- and only then can change take place

Spanking should NOT be used as a last resort with Aspergers kids. The child could easily be traumatized and often won’t be able to tie the “behavior” with the “punishment,” leaving you back at square one. 


Anonymous said...

I treat both of our kids the same. If I know he's acting out in a way that he can't control because of the disorder, than I adjust appropriately. It's actually helped us discipline our non-aspergers child better because we try to keep the discipline the same so no one feels singled out.
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Anonymous said...

Loss of computer time or wii time usually does help. Although not without the added tantrum over losing "said" item. Sometimes I give in which I know doesn't solve the problem. We are just learning of all of this and it makes a lot of sense looking over the last few years. (Our son is now 8).

Anonymous said...

I don't know, both my kids are different ages and therefore get different disciplines anyway. What's fair for one isn't fair for the other just because they are both so different. Both of my kids have different dynamics, but are both on the ASD spectrum... so there are concessions made for each child. I would venture to say that you should always discipline to the child, not in comparison. Example being that you cannot discipline a child who is 8 who has a mental capacity of a 5 yr old at the same way that you discipline a child who is normal functioning. You still have to make concession in order for the discipline to be effective.

Anonymous said...

I haven't read the replies but my tuppence worth is that I have the same expectations in terms of behaviour of both of my children but the way in which I reinforce them are different.

Anonymous said...

Each child is different and I think each child should be disciplined in a way that is effective for each child.

anita thomson said...

I would like to learn more about praise falling flat as regards self esteem. I think this is key for teachers.

Easton CROP Hunger Walk said...

I find it is critical that my son (9 yrs) have the chance to earn back his lost computer time. He usually is given the chance to do "make ups" - to help me with a chore I would usually do or give me comfort in or whomever he has wronged. We negotiate these things depending. This week - he freaked out that the shirt likes to wear to church each week was dirty and he yelled at his dad for 20 minutes - he picked up 50 sticks in the yard. He had a meltdown in public with me - he had to play an anger management game with me or empty the dishwasher. Make ups have to be approved by the offended. If we're fighting over homework and he's had a punishment given - it might simply be that he finishes the rest of the work without any more arguing and foregoes a break or agrees to work ahead on something.

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