"Are there certain things that I should tell my Aspergers son's new teacher before he starts summer school next month in order to help the teacher make any necessary adjustments or accommodations?"
By the time your Aspergers child reaches the age where he is going to school, you’ll have several years of experience figuring-out what works and what doesn’t work in managing him. While your child’s teacher understands the fundamentals of teaching, he/she will be lacking in crucial information about Aspergers and what works best in certain circumstances. This means that you have information to share with the teacher -- and the time to do that is before (or very near) the time your son enters the classroom.
You’ll want to share information on your child’s diagnosis and his normal level of functioning. If your son has a normal or above normal IQ, tell the teacher that your child has the cognitive ability to succeed under the right circumstances. Talk about visual learning and the fact that children with Aspergers learn through pictures and are less likely to learn through auditory awareness or through letters and words.
You’ll also want to talk to the teacher about those things that set your son off, including any obsessions or compulsive behavior he exhibits. If your child still has temper tantrums, talk about how to manage them and how to avoid them, if possible. If he has meltdowns, be sure to talk about that too.
Tell the teacher that you can be available as a resource if needed. Try to have a phone number at which you can be reached for any impromptu issues that arise during the course of the day. Make a deal with the teacher that allows you to attend class on the first few days of summer school or when things get difficult. Not only will that help your son adjust to school, it will aid the teacher in the process of getting to know him.
Maintain that teacher-parent alliance throughout summer school in order to have the best chance of your child learning and thriving within the structure of the mainstream classroom.
Preventing Meltdowns and Tantrums at Home and School