Motivating Teens with Autism

I need to put drive in my 15 yr old son with autism. When I discipline him with taking things away ... nothing seems to work unless I TOTALLY get frustrated ... then he reacts. I would like him to CARE. 
 
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Anonymous said…
try not taking things away for a short length of time. Take them away for good, and tell him he has to 'earn' his things back (one at a time). Hope that works. If he's like my teen son, he'll get back the video game ... then not worry about the rest. I've heard some parents go as far as removing all furniture too, and have them earn back their bed & tv/radio. But I dont have the room to store all that.
November 29, 2011 at 1:30 PM
Anonymous said…
Hi I have a son going through the same At the moment he is nearly 15 and had started swearing in school and at home he says sorry but we know it's not sincere when we ignore him and send him to his room he bangs the floor and screams and cries and says he's sorry...taking games away etc have always worked in the past but now he gets so mad and frustrated he's taller than me now and uses his size to try and dominate the situation he even swore at his dad recently for the first time ever...week days r the worst as it's a school nights with more rules- bed times etc..
November 29, 2011 at 1:30 PM
Anonymous said…
My Aspie son is now almost 21 and my husband and I nearly didn't survive his teen years for these reasons. He would rather play his guitar more than anything (including chores and studying). Much to my dismay, he refused to go to college. Well, his band just signed with an agent and he's cutting a demo for a label in a few days. Try to breathe deeply and know that you will come through it. Set your standards but accept that much of the time, he just won't care. But when he does care, it will be magic. Good luck to you.
December 30, 2011 at 12:32 PM
Anonymous said…
Negotiation works as well as bribery, you have to show them whats in it for them & it has to be something that motivates them. My son loves gaming, ds, wii etc, he earns money to buy them by doing or trying things that I want him to do, taking away things/privileges ( negative reinforcement) does not work with aspies, offering them things to take part or do things (positive reinforcements) work really well.
December 31, 2011 at 6:10 AM
Anonymous said…
The only time taking something away from my 4 year old is when he had to give it up, for GOOD! Positive reinforcements can work too.....have to try different things. No 2 kids with Aspbergers, in my opinion, is the same.
January 1, 2012 at 7:48 AM
Anonymous said…
thats good to know. i recently started a sticker chart and when she reaches the goal she will get her fav thing in the world, a large purple bouncy ball.
January 2, 2012 at 5:09 PM
Anonymous said…
I have also found that the positive reinforcement is more effective than negative. My son (11) earns points for correct behavior. He still gets things taken away for the more extreme misbehavior, but the more minor issues we just don't give points.The points add up to an activity that he wants to do, like miniature golf. We tier it so that he can wait for something big or use the points sooner for something smaller.
January 3, 2012 at 1:17 PM
Unknown said…
If he raises a hand to you or your husband, call the police. He must know that there is a zero tolerance for violence.
January 11, 2018 at 5:44 PM
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