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Is it true that you shouldn't push someone who has ASD to be more independent?

"My brother has ASD and dyspraxia. I can’t help but feeling that my Dad is halting his independence. My brother has traveled to London with my dad on average every month to spend the weekend with our mum since he was 6 my mum met them in London as the half way point and took him to her home on the Isle of Wight. Since my brother was fifteen he has traveled to the Isle of Wight from London alone (thanks to my mum encouraging his independence) this involves a coach and then getting onto a cat across to the island. He is now 20 and my dad still say's that he is not ready to travel to London alone (1 train, no changes, no underground) "London is a scary place" he said. I think my brother is capable of doing this alone easily. I asked my dad when was the last time he asked my brother if he thought he could do it alone and he replied the last time they went my brother said he preferred to have dad with him. My dad said he doesn't want to push him to do something that he's not comfortable with. I replied that sometimes everyone needs to be pushed a little, he replied "EVERYONE DOESN'T HAVE AUTISM". My brother was pushed slightly to do the second part of the journey alone and is fine with it. Is it true that you shouldn't push someone who has ASD to be more independent?"
 
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4 comments:

Anonymous said...

I want my Aspie to be as independent from me as he can. He is 10 how and I have worked hard to achieve this and his teachers have said its working....how can this be bad !!!

Anonymous said...

I agree. My daughter is 13 and although middle school has been very difficult I know she will have to learn to function in difficult situations and that this is preparing her for the future. I have seen great improvements in her. The more she is pushed the harder she tries to get by.

Anonymous said...

I want my 15 year old son to be as independent as possible. He has made great strides in accomplishing this. I will not always be here to help him. He does have an older sister who will watch out for him after I am gone, but if he can do it for himself, then I want him to be able to.

Anonymous said...

I have every reason to believe my son will be successful & be on his own & go to college! He believe`s he can do anything because I tell him he can. He is 4 & has come leaps & bounds from where he was a year ago. He can identify every letter of the alphabet. Cant say his ABC`s, who cares, if he knows the letters & words that start with the letters.....I could go on forever, I never get tired of talking about Vance. He just turned 4 in Nov. So he is on the right track. He also has ADD & AD/HD.......a lot going on with him. One day at a time :) he does learn different, but by God he is SMART!

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