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Aspergers/HFA Children & Anger Control Problems

“My 8-year-old son with AS (high functioning) gets extremely frustrated and angry at various times throughout the day. There doesn’t seem to be a whole lot of rhyme or reason to these outbursts. They are as unpredictable as the weather. Please help me understand what can be done to either curb his temper, or better yet, prevent this from occurring in the first place.”

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Anonymous said...

My son is 8 and we have a terrible time with his anger and fits of "rage". He hits me on a daily basis. Sometimes his fits last an hour. We go see a therapist on a regular basis and he is also on medication. Seems like everyone's ideas and suggestions are great but NOTHING works. It's very hard on me.

Anonymous said...

My son has ADHD and is almost 11. Has definite signs of Aspergers but was never dx- until now- finally the professionals are thinking he def has it. His anger is awful and the other day he got mad at a friend bc he beat him in a wii game- he crushed a can and scratched the child on the face. I am so upset by this. How do you get the violence form getting worse?

Anonymous said...

Heather Stokes My 6yr old has extreme fits as well and my 9yr old more emotional breakdowns. What seems to set them off more than anything is processed foods and I can always tell what they have eaten from how extreme the bad behavior is. It seems that after a wk/end of allowing processed foods it takes 3 to 4 days of going through every emotion (anger, rage, crying then exhaustion) before they're back to normal again.

Anonymous said...

My son is 5 years old, in kindergarten, and was diagnosed the end of
May. Here is the problem: He is very abusive, both physically and
mentally, to me. He says he hates me, says I'm mean, that he wishes
someone would kill me, that I would leave and live somewhere else, among
a list about a mile long. I also have scars where he has scratched and
bit me. He has also charged me like a bull, and buried his head in my
gut. The only form of punishment we can use is sending him to his room.
When he wont go to has room, by saying no or lying on the floor, I have
to physically drag him to his room. Then he flies into a rage and
attacks me. I can't win. I am tired of walking on eggshells around him
because my legs hurt. Does anyone have any ideas on how I can deal with
him besides ignoring him when he is being abusive. It tears my heart in
two every time he says he hates me or he wishes I was dead or gone.
Please help.

Anonymous said...

How does one begin to deal with violent play themes? My husband and I are at a total loss. We do not allow any violent themes in our home,. however when our 6 year old boy visits his bio mom she allows him to watch inappropriate themes and play accordingly. At this very moment there is nothing we can do legally,.. so how do you recommend we tackle his violent play in our home? Each time we remove the toys he is being inappropriate with his attacks turn to my husband and I,... all advice welcome ♥ Thank you

Anonymous said...

My name is Sara and I have a 16 month old that hasnt been diagnosed yet. But for the past couple weeks I have noticed his anger getting so bad. Everytime I show him affection he accepts it for a few seconds then attacks my face with such a serious look on his face. And if I say no-no or ow. He becomes very angry and does it again and then throws his self down. No one can get their face anywhere near him or he will either hit you or grab you with his nails and try to rip your face off and gets mad because he cant. This makes me so upset I just want to love on him so badly and every time I think about it I just cry. I dont know what to do.

My child has been rejected by his peers, ridiculed and bullied !!!

Social rejection has devastating effects in many areas of functioning. Because the ASD child tends to internalize how others treat him, rejection damages self-esteem and often causes anxiety and depression. As the child feels worse about himself and becomes more anxious and depressed – he performs worse, socially and intellectually.

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How to Prevent Meltdowns in Children on the Spectrum

Meltdowns are not a pretty sight. They are somewhat like overblown temper tantrums, but unlike tantrums, meltdowns can last anywhere from ten minutes to over an hour. When it starts, the Asperger's or HFA child is totally out-of-control. When it ends, both you and your child are totally exhausted. But... don’t breathe a sigh of relief yet. At the least provocation, for the remainder of that day -- and sometimes into the next - the meltdown can return in full force.

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Parenting Defiant Teens on the Spectrum

Although Aspergers [high-functioning autism] is at the milder end of the autism spectrum, the challenges parents face when disciplining a teenager on the spectrum are more difficult than they would be with an average teen. Complicated by defiant behavior, the teen is at risk for even greater difficulties on multiple levels – unless the parents’ disciplinary techniques are tailored to their child's special needs.

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Older Teens and Young Adult Children with ASD Still Living At Home

Your older teenager or young “adult child” isn’t sure what to do, and he is asking you for money every few days. How do you cut the purse strings and teach him to be independent? Parents of teens with ASD face many problems that other parents do not. Time is running out for teaching their adolescent how to become an independent adult. As one mother put it, "There's so little time, yet so much left to do."

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Parenting Children and Teens with High-Functioning Autism

Two traits often found in kids with High-Functioning Autism are “mind-blindness” (i.e., the inability to predict the beliefs and intentions of others) and “alexithymia” (i.e., the inability to identify and interpret emotional signals in others). These two traits reduce the youngster’s ability to empathize with peers. As a result, he or she may be perceived by adults and other children as selfish, insensitive and uncaring.

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Highly Effective Research-Based Parenting Strategies for Children with Asperger's and HFA

Become an expert in helping your child cope with his or her “out-of-control” emotions, inability to make and keep friends, stress, anger, thinking errors, and resistance to change.

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