Question
Is there a way to stop aggressive behavior when my son with Aspergers is in the middle of a meltdown?
Answer

Here are a few specific reasons for aggressive meltdowns:
- Change of routine— Inability to handle unexpected changes in the daily schedule, such as a substitute teacher or a cancelled class period.
- Communication problems— Inability to recognize humor, sarcasm, or slang during conversations with peers.
- Sensory issues— Inability to handle the discomfort in his environment due to sights, sounds, smells, or other sensory dysfunction.
- Social struggles— Inability to understand social cues and gestures or to make and keep friends.
How can you stop your Aspergers child from becoming aggressive? Aspergers calls for a direct approach. Therapies such as cognitive-behavioral therapy, social skills training, and occupational therapy will help with levels of frustration and also touch on self-control – a necessary skill for all of us. However, there are several things moms and dads can do at home to lessen the impact of aggressive meltdowns:
• Teach children to recognize red light/green light behaviors, red being a poor choice and green being a good choice.
• Social stories are excellent for teaching Aspergers children about problem behaviors. These should be used during quiet moments and not during any stage of aggressiveness or frustration.
• Role-play appropriate responses to tricky situations with your youngster. Role-playing is an excellent option for teaching all types of social skills to kids with Aspergers.
• Removal from the situation is necessary once a meltdown has developed.
• Redirection can sometimes be used during the beginning stages of a meltdown to reduce the escalation.
Individual counseling may be beneficial if you are still struggling with aggressive Aspergers behaviors. Sometimes a caring professional specially trained to deal with the issues brought on by ASD can make a difference. Some schools are able to offer this counseling, but you can also find help through your doctor and your local Aspergers support groups.
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