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Girls with Aspergers

Do girls with Aspergers experience the same symptoms as boys?

The male to female ratio for referrals for a diagnostic assessment is about 10 males to each 1 female. However, the epidemiological evidence indicates the ratio is 4:1. This is the same ratio as occurs with Autism.

So far there have not been any studies that specifically investigate any variation in expression of features between males and females with Aspergers, but males tend to have a greater expression of social deficits with a very uneven profile of social skills and a propensity for disruptive or aggressive behavior, especially when frustrated or stressed. These characteristics are more likely to be noticed by moms/dads and educators who then seek advice as to why the youngster is unusual.

In contrast, females tend to be relatively more able in social play and have a more even profile of social skills. Females with Aspergers seem more able to follow social actions by delayed imitation. They observe the other kids and copy them, but their actions are not as well timed and spontaneous. There is some preliminary evidence to substantiate this distinction from a study of sex differences in Autism.

Females with this Aspergers are more likely to be considered immature rather than odd. Their special interests may not be as conspicuous and intense as occurs with males. Thus, they can be described as the "invisible" youngster (i.e., socially isolated), preoccupied by their imaginary world, but not a disruptive influence in the classroom. Although females are less likely to be diagnosed, they are more likely to suffer in silence.

An important issue for females is that during adolescence the usual basis for friendship changes. Instead of joint play with toys and games using imagination, teen friendship is based on conversation that is predominantly about experiences, relationships and feelings. The female teen with Aspergers may want to continue the playground games of the primary school and starts to reduce her contact with previous friends. They no longer share the same interests. There is also the new problem of coping with the amorous advances of teen males. Here conversation is acceptable, but concepts of romance and love as well as physical intimacy are confusing or objectionable.

In an attempt to be included in social activities, some Aspergers females have described how they have deliberately adopted a "mask-like” quality to their face. To others at school, they seem to continuously express a smile - but behind the mask – they are experiencing anxiety, fear and self doubt. They are desperate to be included and to please others, but cannot express their inner feelings in public.

Females with the classic signs of Aspergers in their primary school years usually progress along the Autism/Aspergers continuum to a point where the current diagnostic criteria are no longer sensitive to the more subtle problems they face. These females have a better long-term prognosis than males. They appear to be more able to learn how to socialize and to camouflage their difficulties at an early age.

More resources for parents of children and teens with High-Functioning Autism and Asperger's:

==> How To Prevent Meltdowns and Tantrums In Children With High-Functioning Autism and Asperger's

==> Parenting System that Significantly Reduces Defiant Behavior in Teens with Aspergers and High-Functioning Autism

==> Launching Adult Children with Asperger's and High-Functioning Autism: Guide for Parents Who Want to Promote Self-Reliance

==> Teaching Social Skills and Emotion Management to Children and Teens with Asperger's and High-Functioning Autism

==> Parenting Children and Teens with High-Functioning Autism: Comprehensive Handbook

==> Unraveling The Mystery Behind Asperger's and High-Functioning Autism: Audio Book

==> Parenting System that Reduces Problematic Behavior in Children with Asperger's and High-Functioning Autism


Anonymous said...

Probably not, since two BOYS with asperger's rarely experience the same symptoms. I wish researchers would focus more on the individuality of spectrum disorders rather than constantly trying to generalize . . .

Anonymous said...

I see a lot of the things talked about in the article in my daughter. This has led to people not agreeing with the diagnosis. I think that its more about awareness that girls can present differently. We went to her doctor numerous times with concerns, which were overlooked. If it wasn't for a good friend that suggested that we have her evaluated, she wouldn't be getting the help that she needs.

Anonymous said...

Im the same my little girl has aspergers and she is 8 im dreading her gettin older ill be watching her like a hawk
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Anonymous said...

My daughter with aspergers isn't like the "girl" they described she's like the " boy". I don't see a difference male or female.

Anonymous said...

Sounds a lot like my daughter, who is now 14.
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Anonymous said...

‎"if you've seen one kid with Aspergers, you've seen one kid with Aspergers".......... And since soooooo many aspies also have ADHD,OCD, anxiety, PTSD, etc no two kids will EVER present exactly alike

Anonymous said...

I'm well aware of my Asperger's now as an adult female in my thirties, but I wasn't growing up. The early years, I had a lot of friends, but by 6th I was an outcast. I tried lying about having boyfriends or a twin sister in order to fit in, but that was a major fail. A person here or there was nice, but I didn't know how to be a good friend. By high school, I was a major slut. I didn't know how to fit in with the girls, but I found my nitch with the guys. That behavior ostracized me from the girls more. Later on, I learned to join clubs which allowed me to be a part of something which was what I was looking for all along. But, I still remember after twirling during halftime, a few of us girls went for happy meals. I thought ordering happy meals was silly, and thought is this what h.s girls really do? I once took a course in college on Interpersonal Communications, and that came at a time that I was mature enough to grasp it. That changed my life. I learned the rules for communication, and the rules for friendship. I clearly grasped why middle school and high school were terrible experiences. I wish I could go back in time truly understanding that knowledge. I hope this helps someone..

Unknown said...

I'm nineteen almost twenty I only got diagnosed a year or so ago and bye then I already had my mask so to mom always had a feeling I had autism of some sort but because I was home schooled growing up it was difficult to do anything about it,I learnt all the social interaction stuff from watching my brothers.I always find it difficult to interact with girls my age and I tend to get along better with kids younger than me and adults.when I was getting diagnosed (well trying anyway) it was difficult because I cept doing well on the test they said they say I had aspergers for sure because the signs were mixed up it wasn't until I turned eighteen that I finally started getting somewhere.its actually quite common for people to not or get misdiagnosed so I was acually diagnosed fairly quickly it was a relief to finally get the help and support I needed and I'm much happier and getting on with my life.

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