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Your Asperger’s or HFA Child Is Not a Loner By Choice

Most children with Asperger’s and HFA are not loners by choice, and there is a tendency (as these young people develop towards adolescence) for despondency, negativism, and depression as a result of the child's increasing awareness of personal inadequacy in social situations and repeated experiences of failure to make and/or maintain relationships.

In this post, we will discuss the following:
  • teaching your child to monitor her or his own speech style
  • helping your child to recognize and use a range of different means to disagree, discuss, interact, mediate, negotiate, and persuade through verbal means
  • helping him or her to develop the ability to anticipate multiple outcomes, to explain motivation, to make inferences, and to predict
  • managing social situations
  • how to interpret other people's social behavior
  • training of the child's expressive skills

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    4 comments:

    usha said...

    Hi,
    I'm a mother of 5 year old boy, and i'm really worried about him. I just want to do my best to help him live a happy life. Could you please suggest me best social skill training classes offered in northern virginia.
    Thanks a ton...

    Tiontole Ehecatl said...

    Hello,
    I'm an 18 ear old teen who possibly has aspergers, I relate to a lot of the symptoms and from reading your blog have realised that it is very likely that I have aspergers. However my parents are the type who believe mental illnesses aren't real and if they are I as their daughter was not "raised to have them". They also seem to think they can just be gotten over or that people are failures for having them. I moved away from home about a year ago and now that I have space and a roof over my head I've been doing a lot of research and me having aspergers would explain so much.

    I suffered as a young teen from not knowing how to speak properly and still do sometimes, plus my motor skills are terrible. My writing for example is so bad it cramps my hand whenever I try to write, ball sports are a no go as are monkey bars and many other things I couldn't do as a kid.

    Plus I find a lot of comfort in things being placed in certain patterns and have trouble communicating socially especially with trying to maintain a conversation.

    What I'm stuck with is that I know getting an official diagnosis would be supremely helpful but I'm scared about my family plus whilst I live in England and it's against the law to discriminate about such things I know it will happen. People just cover that stuff up or don't realise they're doing it.

    I'm sorry this is so long but I wondered if you could give me any advice on whether I should get diagnosed or not. The most my family would do is shame me for it a lot, they won't physically harm me or disown me but I don't know if it would be worth it. What sort help would it give me etc?

    Thank you if you answer this and thank you for your blog, it's super helpful!

    Tiontole Ehecatl said...

    Hello,

    I'm an 18 year old with possible aspergers, I show a lot of the symptoms including really poor motor skills, trouble communicating and not knowing how to control my voice etc.

    My question is whether I should get officially checked out or not. The trouble is my parents are the type who have very negative views towards mental disabilities. If I tell them/get diagnosed there will be verbal abuse and denial.

    Luckily I have moved out so I'm not dependant on them for food/clothing/shelter however I don't want them to have this big negative view of my obviously.

    Trouble is a diagnosis would help to explain so much about myself but I don't know how beneficial it would be aside from that. Plus I'm aware that even though where I live they are not legally allowed to employers do often judge you as do ordinary people. Is there any way I can get help but keep it confidential, at least to my family and friends? If not do you think it would still be worth it for me. The pros and cons of it are never really explained especially as I don't know how much they can actually help me specifically.

    Sorry this was so long!

    Thank you for any help you may give me and also for running this awesome blog!

    Parent seeking help said...

    HELP - My 15 year old son is clearly struggling with many of the symptoms listed here and in other places I've researched.

    When he was younger we didn't recognize his sensitivities and 'odd behaviors' as an issue - we focused on his talents; was a highly ranked tennis player by 10 (but just withdrew) became an incredible self-taught guitarist, playing concerts etc. (but withdrew), and has become amazing with food, talking his way into working in the kitchens at multiple local restaurants even at the age of 12 & 13 (but then withdrew).
    Towards the end of middle school he really started to slide - going from honors classes to a complete inability to do any homework and when he hit high school it deteriorated rapidly. He was getting physically sick and missing large numbers of school days.

    I was able to get him into a county offered computer-based program but after about 6 weeks in that, he's stopped attending and his behaviors are aspie are taking over every aspect of his life.

    - Can't touch something because it's too sticky, or oily - incredible sensitivity to smell - 'the air is hurting my shoulder' and so on...

    It's been impossible to talk with him about these things w/o him getting very upset and cutting the conversation.

    Logic and reason are useless. He's even stated regarding the simplest things, 'my mind's already made up, it's not going to change'.
    IE: 'I love that T-shirt but I can't wear it - it smells'.
    Well we can wash it and it will smell like the rest of the clothes you like.
    'no - it doesn't matter - my mind is made up and not going to change'.

    This is so dangerous - no information, no matter how logical etc. impacts him once his 'mind is made up' - and we're discovering just how deep seated this is in him. He thinks EVERYONE else is wrong and just doesn't understand. The more of his family circle that's tried to talk with him, the more he pushes them away and withdraws because 'they just don't understand'.

    I'm looking for suggestions on how to get him to accept going to get professional help. I've never mentioned Asperger's or Autism.

    Based on the move from high-school to the computer-based program I was able to get his to 2 psychologists and 1 psychiatrist provided by the county - they all mentioned that he acts fairly normally and won't open up to them.

    Based on the information we've provided to them, they all believe he has some level of autism and likely OCD, and is probably struggling with anxiety.

    My child has been rejected by his peers, ridiculed and bullied !!!

    Social rejection has devastating effects in many areas of functioning. Because the Aspergers child tends to internalize how others treat him, rejection damages self-esteem and often causes anxiety and depression. As the child feels worse about himself and becomes more anxious and depressed – he performs worse, socially and intellectually.

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    How to Prevent Meltdowns in Aspergers Children

    Meltdowns are not a pretty sight. They are somewhat like overblown temper tantrums, but unlike tantrums, meltdowns can last anywhere from ten minutes to over an hour. When it starts, the Asperger's child is totally out-of-control. When it ends, both you and the Asperger’s child are totally exhausted. But... don’t breathe a sigh of relief yet. At the least provocation, for the remainder of that day -- and sometimes into the next - the meltdown can return in full force.

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    Parenting Defiant Aspergers Teens

    Although Aspergers is at the milder end of the autism spectrum, the challenges parents face when disciplining a teenager with Aspergers are more difficult than they would be with an average teen. Complicated by defiant behavior, the Aspergers teen is at risk for even greater difficulties on multiple levels – unless the parents’ disciplinary techniques are tailored to their child's special needs.

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    Aspergers Children “Block-Out” Their Emotions

    Parenting children with Aspergers and HFA can be a daunting task. In layman’s terms, Aspergers is a developmental disability that affects the way children develop and understand the world around them, and is directly linked to their senses and sensory processing. This means they often use certain behaviors to block out their emotions or response to pain.

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    Older Teens and Young Adult Children With Aspergers Still Living At Home

    Your older teenager or young “adult child” isn’t sure what to do, and he is asking you for money every few days. How do you cut the purse strings and teach him to be independent? Parents of teens with Aspergers face many problems that other parents do not. Time is running out for teaching their adolescent how to become an independent adult. As one mother put it, "There's so little time, yet so much left to do."

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    Living with an Aspergers Spouse/Partner

    Research reveals that the divorce rate for people with Aspergers is around 80%. Why so high!? The answer may be found in how the symptoms of Aspergers affect intimate relationships. People with Aspergers often find it difficult to understand others and express themselves. They may seem to lose interest in people over time, appear aloof, and are often mistaken as self-centered, vain individuals.

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    Online Parent Coaching for Parents of Asperger's Children

    If you’re the parent of a child with Aspergers or High-Functioning Autism, you know it can be a struggle from time to time. Your child may be experiencing: obsessive routines; problems coping in social situations; intense tantrums and meltdowns; over-sensitivity to sounds, tastes, smells and sights; preoccupation with one subject of interest; and being overwhelmed by even the smallest of changes.

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    Unraveling The Mystery Behind Asperger's and High-Functioning Autism

    Parents, teachers, and the general public have a lot of misconceptions of Asperger's and High-Functioning Autism. Many myths abound, and the lack of knowledge is both disturbing and harmful to kids and teens who struggle with the disorder.

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    Parenting Children and Teens with High-Functioning Autism

    Two traits often found in kids with High-Functioning Autism are “mind-blindness” (i.e., the inability to predict the beliefs and intentions of others) and “alexithymia” (i.e., the inability to identify and interpret emotional signals in others). These two traits reduce the youngster’s ability to empathize with peers. As a result, he or she may be perceived by adults and other children as selfish, insensitive and uncaring.

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    Highly Effective Research-Based Parenting Strategies for Children with Asperger's and HFA

    Become an expert in helping your child cope with his or her “out-of-control” emotions, inability to make and keep friends, stress, anger, thinking errors, and resistance to change.

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