My child has been rejected by his peers, ridiculed and bullied !!!
Social rejection has devastating effects in many areas of functioning. Because the Aspergers child tends to internalize how others treat him, rejection damages self-esteem and often causes anxiety and depression. As the child feels worse about himself and becomes more anxious and depressed – he performs worse, socially and intellectually.
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How to Prevent Meltdowns in Aspergers Children
Meltdowns are not a pretty sight. They are somewhat like overblown temper tantrums, but unlike tantrums, meltdowns can last anywhere from ten minutes to over an hour. When it starts, the Asperger's child is totally out-of-control. When it ends, both you and the Asperger’s child are totally exhausted. But... don’t breathe a sigh of relief yet. At the least provocation, for the remainder of that day -- and sometimes into the next - the meltdown can return in full force.
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Parenting Defiant Aspergers Teens
Although Aspergers is at the milder end of the autism spectrum, the challenges parents face when disciplining a teenager with Aspergers are more difficult than they would be with an average teen. Complicated by defiant behavior, the Aspergers teen is at risk for even greater difficulties on multiple levels – unless the parents’ disciplinary techniques are tailored to their child's special needs.
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Older Teens and Young Adult Children With Aspergers Still Living At Home
Your older teenager or young “adult child” isn’t sure what to do, and he is asking you for money every few days. How do you cut the purse strings and teach him to be independent? Parents of teens with Aspergers face many problems that other parents do not. Time is running out for teaching their adolescent how to become an independent adult. As one mother put it, "There's so little time, yet so much left to do."
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Parenting Children and Teens with High-Functioning Autism
Two traits often found in kids with High-Functioning Autism are “mind-blindness” (i.e., the inability to predict the beliefs and intentions of others) and “alexithymia” (i.e., the inability to identify and interpret emotional signals in others). These two traits reduce the youngster’s ability to empathize with peers. As a result, he or she may be perceived by adults and other children as selfish, insensitive and uncaring.
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Highly Effective Research-Based Parenting Strategies for Children with Asperger's and HFA
Become an expert in helping your child cope with his or her “out-of-control” emotions, inability to make and keep friends, stress, anger, thinking errors, and resistance to change.
7 comments:
My son has mild Aspergers but like the original post, is just to afraid to drive. I ended up moving with him to another state and made sure he got all his college studies finished. He has a brilliant mind for animals and I found Pikes Peak Community College in Colorado Springs has a great 2 year Zoo Keeper program. He has finished the coursework and still has 3 internships to earn his degree. He tried one internship but didn't feel he fit in and had some pretty bad supervisors. He has since worked a few months at Target and has a stronger work ethic so I think he will be more successful in his next internships. Unfortunatly since we live in Wyoming and it has no Zoo's, we will probabloy have to move again to complete the degree and find him perminate work.
Yeah, this would be useful if my instructor knew I was an aspie...
I am a person with autism who has been driving for 15 years. In fact, I drive a car with a manual transmission. Driving was not difficult for me. I have not had a speeding ticket. What helped me was two things:
1) Previous Knowledge of Physics (yes many of the drivers book rules are based on Physics)
2) Learning the rules of the road
3) Knowing the area at first. This was helpful. Although now I have enough experience to drive almost anywhere (About 4 months ago I did a 11 state road trip, driving from California to Illinois and back!).
4) Getting a good instructor. Unfortunately the person the disability system sent was not the right match for me, so I used someone else I found.
Driving is not anctiviy everyone must do. In my opinion, you should not force her but explain to her the benefits of driving. They all mature at a different pace and maybe she will be more prepared later. Forcing her would only create more stress on her . Maybe she is not ready, at this time. Let her relax and allow her to want to do it as another accomplishment rather than an obligation.
My 20 year old aspie son just failed his driving test yesterday. What a rocky 18 hours it's been! He blames the instructor, and feels violent toward him. He said he stands by the judgment call that caused him to fail (not making sure the way was clear before turning right at a stoplight), and that his life is completely off track now. Our DMV has a serious backlog and it will be a month or more until he can get on the schedule to try again. He doesn't see the point in trying again, and seems to have a personal vendetta out on the test-giver. :-( I know this will pass, but I'm thinking maybe he shouldn't try again, at least for a while. He's fine with the bus system, and is about to take a full term of college classes - stressful enough for now!
Just wondering if anyone has been in this situation my 17 yo aspie was driving to school and was in a head on collision with another teenage driver my son was not at fault and thankfully no one was seriously injured besides some minor cuts and burns from the airbag and glass the insurance company has offered 400 dollars for pain and suffering my husband and I both have medical backgrounds and after his initial er visit we watched him closely and did the follow up appointments I'm not happy with the 400 dollar offer it doesn't even pay for his smashed computer or him being a nervous wreck to drive but I'm scared if I push about it and they ll try to use his aspergers against him we didn't hire a lawyer because we just wanted things to go back to normal and we not trying to get something that's not owed I'm glad he didn't loose his legs I'm just don't want him being screwed because I didn't stick up for him
Insurance companies routinely offer a token amount. Nobody expects you to accept that amount. Has the insurance co. already assigned a compensation amount for the ER visit, computer replacement, & car replacement? If not, tally all that. If so, figure a dollar amount for your son's lost computer data, any PTSD/therapy, and lost time at school. Has he had a full physical, including tests for concussion? Do not settle right away. There could be delayed back or neck issues. You are not obligated to sign anything until you know what the true "pain and suffering" damage is. I'm answering because I was involved in a similar accident in high school, and they paid us $2,000 right away, but I suffered for years afterwards from migraines and lower back pain. My mom was warned not to settle, but she did anyway, without even countering their initial offer. Their client was at fault. They owe you reasonable compensation, regardless of your son's diagnosis. He has a licence to drive, and that's all they need to know. Best of luck to you, and do not let them belittle you.
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