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Best and Worst Jobs for Aspergers Adults

80% of grown-ups with Aspergers do not have full-time jobs – not because they can’t do the work, but because they can’t manage to be socially acceptable while they get the work done.

Countless studies show individuals would rather have pleasant and personable co-workers than a co-worker who is always right. One Aspie states, “I try to keep this in mind each day, and consequently, I spend a lot of time planning my interactions. But sometimes my plans fail.”

Jobs need to be chosen that make use of the strengths of individuals with Aspergers. Both high and low functioning individuals have very poor short-term working memory, but they often have a better long-term memory than most normal individuals. One Aspie states, “I have great difficulty with tasks that put high demands on short-term working memory. I cannot handle multiple tasks at the same time.”

Some job tips for individuals with Aspergers:

• The boss must recognize your social limitations.
• Sell your work, not your personality. Make a portfolio of your work.
• Jobs should have a well-defined goal or endpoint.

It is important that Aspergers individuals pick a college major in an area where they can get jobs. Computer science is a good choice because it is very likely that many of the best programmers have either Aspergers or some of its traits. Other good majors are: accounting, engineering, library science, and art with an emphasis on commercial art and drafting. Majors in history, political science, business, English or pure math should be avoided. However, one could major in library science with a minor in history, but the library science degree makes it easier to get a good job.

Some individuals, while they are still in high school, should be encouraged to take courses at a local college in drafting, computer programming or commercial art. This will help keep them motivated and serve as a refuge from teasing. Families with low income may be wondering how they can afford computers for their child to learn programming or computer aided drafting. Used computers can often be obtained for free or at a very low cost when a business or an engineering company upgrades their equipment. Many individuals do not realize that there are many usable older computers sitting in storerooms at schools, banks, factories and other businesses. It will not be the latest new thing, but it is more than adequate for a student to learn on.

A man/woman with Aspergers has to compensate for poor social skills by making themselves so good in a specialized field that individuals will be willing to "buy" their skill even though social skills are poor. This is why making a portfolio of your work is so important. You need to learn a few social survival skills, but you will make friends at work by sharing your shared interest with the other individuals who work in your specialty. One Aspie states, “My social life is almost all work related. I am friends with individuals I do interesting work with.”

Bad Jobs for Individuals with Aspergers—

• Air traffic controller -- Information overload and stress
• Airline ticket agent -- Deal with angry individuals when flights are cancelled
• Cashier -- making change quickly puts too much demand on short-term working memory
• Casino dealer -- Too many things to keep track of
• Futures market trader -- Totally impossible
• Receptionist and telephone operator -- Would have problems when the switch board got busy
• Short order cook -- Have to keep track of many orders and cook many different things at the same time
• Taking oral dictation -- Difficult due to auditory processing problems
• Taxi dispatcher -- Too many things to keep track of
• Waitress -- Especially difficult if have to keep track of many different tables

Good Jobs for Visual Thinkers—

• Animal trainer or veterinary technician -- Dog obedience trainer, behavior problem consultant
• Automobile mechanic -- Can visualize how the entire car works
• Building maintenance -- Fixes broken pipes, windows and other things in an apartment complex, hotel or office building
• Building trades -- Carpenter or welder. These jobs make good use of visual skills but some individuals will not be able to do them well due to motor and coordination problems.
• Commercial art -- Advertising and magazine layout can be done as freelance work
• Computer animation -- Visual thinkers would be very good at this field, but there is more competition in this field than in business or industrial computer programming. Businesses are recruiting immigrants from overseas because there is a shortage of good programmers in business and industrial fields.
• Computer programming -- Wide-open field with many jobs available especially in industrial automation, software design, business computers, communications and network systems
• Computer-troubleshooter and repair -- Can visualize problems in computers and networks
• Drafting -- Engineering drawings and computer aided drafting. This job can offer many opportunities. Drafting is an excellent portal of entry for many interesting technical jobs. I know individuals who started out at a company doing drafting and then moved into designing and laying out entire factories. To become really skilled at drafting, one needs to learn how to draw by hand first. I have observed that most of the individuals who draw beautiful drawings on a computer learned to draw by hand first. Individuals who never learn to draw by hand first tend to leave important details out of their drawings.
• Equipment designing -- Many industries, often a person starts as a draftsman and then moves into designing factory equipment
• Factory maintenance -- Repairs and fixes factory equipment
• Handcrafts of many different types such as wood carving, jewelry making, ceramics, etc.
• Laboratory technician -- Who modifies and builds specialized lab equipment
• Photography -- Still and video, TV cameraman can be done as freelance work
• Small appliance and lawnmower repair -- Can make a nice local business
• Video game designer -- Stay out of this field. Jobs are scarce and the field is overcrowded. There are many more jobs in industrial, communications business and software design computer programming. Another bad thing about this job is exposure to violent images.
• Web page design -- Find a good niche market can be done as freelance work

Good Jobs for Non-Visual Thinkers—

• Accounting -- Get very good in a specialized field such as income taxes
• Bank Teller -- Very accurate money counting, much less demand on short-term working memory than a busy cashier who mostly makes change quickly
• Clerk and filing jobs -- knows where every file is
• Computer programming -- Less visual types can be done as freelance work
• Copy editor -- Corrects manuscripts. Many individuals freelance for larger publishers
• Engineering -- Electrical, electronic and chemical engineering
• Inventory control -- Keeps track of merchandise stocked in a store
• Journalist -- Very accurate facts, can be done as freelance
• Laboratory technician -- Running laboratory equipment
• Library science -- reference librarian. Help individuals find information in the library or on the Internet.
• Physicist or mathematician -- There are very few jobs in these fields. Only the very brilliant can get and keep jobs. Jobs are much more plentiful in computer programming and accounting.
• Statistician -- Work in many different fields such as research, census bureau, industrial quality control, U.S. Dept. of Agriculture, etc.
• Taxi driver -- Knows where every street is
• Telemarketing -- Get to repeat the same thing over and over, selling on the telephone. Noisy environment may be a problem. In telephone sales, you avoid many social problems.
• Tuning pianos and other musical instruments, can be done as freelance work

Jobs for Nonverbal Individuals with Aspergers—

• Copy shop -- Running photocopies. Printing jobs should be lined up by somebody else
• Data entry -- If the person has fine motor problems, this would be a bad job
• Factory assembly work -- Especially if the environment is quiet
• Fast food restaurant -- Cleaning and cooking jobs with little demand on short-term memory
• Janitor jobs -- Cleaning floors, toilets, windows and offices
• Lawn and garden work -- Mowing lawns and landscaping work
• Plant care -- Water plants in a large office building
• Recycling plant -- Sorting jobs
• Re-shelving library books -- Can memorize the entire numbering system and shelf locations
• Restocking shelves -- In many types of stores
• Warehouse -- Loading trucks, stacking boxes

Adults with Aspergers have a hard time finding jobs now. What will the jobless rate be for that group when — if current statistics are correct — the 1 in 110 children who have Aspergers try to become employed? As it is now, lots of adults with Aspergers are looking for full-time jobs, but their gifts are not recognized.


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71 comments:

Anonymous said...

Wow this is a great resource.. I’m enjoying it.. good article

nerd said...

I can really relate to this article. I am a 30 y/o female with Asperger's. I am very intelligent and graduated from college 7 years ago with a BFA and I cannot find a job to save my life. I can't even get hired for a crappy minimum wage job. I wish I had seen this list (and been diagnosed with Asperger's) before I started college so that I could have made a better choice about what I studied. I'm obsessed with books and I think I would really like being a librarian. It's too late now though, I can't afford to go back to school, so I'll probably be unemployed for the rest of my life. I feel so much despair and hopelessness about this, I wish I would just drop dead.

Lorraine said...

Yah I made the mistake of majoring in pure math, which the author of the article had the good sense to put on the short list of majors to avoid. In 20/20 hindsight I should have seen that the 'Sputnik effect' was about creating math/science academic career opportunities specifically for the Baby Boom generation.

Anonymous said...

Re: "Nerd"
"It's too late now though, I can't afford to go back to school, so I'll probably be unemployed for the rest of my life."

Just wanted to offer words of encouragement. It's never too late. Although it may feel that way, I know you can accomplish anything you put your mind to. For example, you mentioned you love books. This has a plethora of opportunity. I believe many Aspies (my son included) have enhanced creative ability because of their ability to analyze things in-depth. I would encourage you to leverage your passion for books as they provide opportunity to learn new things and insight to changing your thought patterns to be more open and self-encouraging. You can use books to study on topics of interest and think of creative ways to offer your knowledge to people who may need it. I would look to online/digital publishing as an avenue to explore. I just know you can accomplish your passion. Don't believe you can't. Best of luck

Anonymous said...

I have aspergers traits and dyspraxia. My problem is not social skills but my communication skills are not excellent.

I live in the UK. I have a degree in Mathematics and Computer Science, PGDip in Actuarial Studies, professional qualification in Statistics.

I wanted to become in Statistician/Data Analyst.

I cannot work in sales. I think I may have trouble work in a client - facing role.

I have worked in a call centre as a telemarketer for a period of a year but it is an easy call centre. I could not work in a call centre permanently. I am not the best person. I cannot undertake manual work, shop work or administration work because I have dyspraxia(most people with AS have dyspraxia).

The real problem is the competitive nature of th economy across the world. IT and Engineering jobs have disappeared due to outsourcing.

I am over-qualified for non - graduate jobs.

Statisticians are in demand, few people want to be statisticians.

Support is primarily targeted at children and lower able adults.

No one knows how to support adults with AS.

Anonymous said...

Excellent article. One thing though, obedience trainer and veterinary tech might not be a good choice for some on the Autistic Spectrum. In these fields, it is important to have great social and people skills. A good part of training a dog is in training the owner how to train the dog. Also, if you have executive dysfunction, it may be hard to implement and follow steps to get to the ultimate goal - a very important thing in training. I worked in the animal care industry previously and it wasn't a good match for me. Too much social skill required. It was high stress and high pressure as well.

Lorraine said...

Virtually all jobs require social skills. That's the whole problem. For example, the only line of paid work I have ever really succeeded at is data entry. 'Back office' roles such as that are obviously the most trivially easy jobs to outsource. The key to autistic self-empowerment is changing that equation globally. The good news is that (as evidenced by this post in this blog) the autism parents care about the employment prospects of autistic adults. The question is, if we and our allies do succeed at creating an 'autistic friendly' (or more broadly, 'introvert friendly') labor market, will it be in some sense 'artificial;' involving subsidized jobs, make-work jobs, 'sheltered' jobs, etc. Personally, I don't think we should limit our options to things market fundamentalists would approve of. I also think at some point we will be living in a 'post-employment' economy, across the board. At that point, it makes a big difference whether the public is considered to have an equity share (i.e. a dividend) in the automation systems and other capital assets that make GDP possible and paid employment impossible. If not, society will consist of people with portfolios big enough to live on, living of course in gated communities or the equivalent, and the rest of us, for whom life will be nasty, brutish and short.

Lorraine said...

In other words, I would urge everyone to think of autistic workers (or worker wannabees, as the case may be) as a sort of canary in the coal mine.

Maureen said...

Thanks very much for this post. My son is 19 and struggling with this very issue. BTW, we are in the process of going through the Depart of Vocational Rehabilitation, which is supposedly very helpful or people with Asperger's. They even said that they might be able to help with college expenses. I'm not sure if the DOVR is a federal thing or if each state has their own such program with different names....

jazzy said...

Great article, this will be very helpful in steering my son when the time comes.

Nerd, sorry to hear you so disheartened. It can be hard when it feels like the whole world is wired to work against you. You love books but can't see yourself being able to complete a librarian course...what about a book store? Or have you ever thought about writing a book? Or working from home as a proof reader etc. There are correspondance courses that you can pay off over a period of time. You may also be able to get help with funding due to having a disability. There are a lot of options, it can seem overwhelming sometimes but it's worth exploring.

Good luck and many hugs. xox

Scott said...

I would focus on Asperger strengths rather than dwell on the negatives. I would read Dale Carnegie - "how to win friends and influence people". He provides a formula that is basic psychology, but highly effective.

Focus is an AS strength - find a subject and attack it. Start your own company, invent things, or use your brain capacity for good deeds.


I see AS like a video game. Some players are fast, and others are strong, but no one has booth.

Anonymous said...

As a librarian with Aspergers I would not recommend it for most people. There are actually major social and political aspects that are nigh unto impossible.

Pure "cataloging" with no public contact such as possibly at a large univerisity or maybe the Library of Congress. Also there is now a strong information science component. Check out the School of Information Science at the University of Michigan for an example.

Liking books is actually only part of succeeding in libraries. Most of us now spend much little time at work reading and much time interacting.

So far I usually get away with being considered eccentric by most people but it is not anything to count on.

peter j rowley said...

i have only recently discovered i have adult aspergers since march 2011, i did have a job in retail for 26 years. As i have short term memory problem as today i was trying to train as a forklift truck driver but i kept forgetting how to drive correctly so i failed.
you've given me new idea's for what jobs to lookout for..
peter Rowley UK 17th May 2011

Keith Miller said...

As an adult with Asperger's who DOES have a job, and has had a job since I left university (and even when I was studying), I have to say that I see too many sob stories here. No one, no god and no world owes you anything so suck it up. Maybe I have been lucky enough that my dubious social skills have been tolerated due to my reasonable work skills, but somehow I have always been able to find work and get in the door. I now earn well over 6 figures a year in software and engineering and I am only in my mid 30's, married and two daughters one of which also has Asperger's.

As per another post by Scott if you can't find work it's probably not your Asperger's, but just general negative outlook and looking to blame someone or something. Start looking at the positives and work with those. Come up with ways to sell your positive traits.

Specifically to "Nerd" wishing you would drop dead isn't going to get you anywhere; only *you* can make positive changes in your life.

If this post seems somewhat harsh then I apologize, but sometimes people need a little encouragement to pull out that proverbial finger do they not?

As for me I still have a lot of bad social skills and I've found the best way to handle that is to let it out when at home (although I'm trying to reign those in a little too) and keep as best a lid on it when out in public. Lucky for me my wife is very understanding and maybe even luckier as things turned out I now work from home. Due to this the typical comment when I do go out is "You don't get out much, do you?"

Anyway I have said enough... I hope at least one person is motivated to turn things around for themselves after reading my drivel. Thanks.

Erin Muise said...

I have Asperger's, but I don't fit the image some still have of the disorder. Not all Aspie's love math and computers, drawing, drafting etc. I personally need more interaction than some of these jobs you recommend or I would be very bored.
I am 36, female, and happily married for almost 3 yrs. to a security guard who is a self-described nerd. We have no kids yet, and we will have to get more organized (one of my weaknesses is I'm not) if we ever do.
Also, I can't drive due to clumsiness. Yes, gym class was a huge nightmare!! I also get lost easily and have trouble using a map (visio-spatial processing problems).
I have a BA- French literature major- was originally an English major. I hate computers and would have found computer and accounting intolerable and difficult. I have probably gotten over most of the social aspects of Asperger's as I have quite a few friends (but am no social butterfly).
I enjoy gardening, kids, and writing. I earn some money writing at Helium.com
I love learning to cook and bake better. We are learning some money saving strategies and love reward programs, too. I like to take part in psych research surveys for $/incentives, and am a member of a number of survey panels online. Since I have never worked more than part time, this comes in handy.

Anonymous said...

Dear "Nerd",
Please don't lose hope. Sometimes things seem hopeless...but keep focused on finding a solution. Unemployment is a problem many (including those without disorders) now face.

My dad was mid-program at a University--wanted to be a teacher. Had 2 kids and a wife and realized he couldn't make enough money. So he switched programs and got a degree in business instead...Then out of school, he could only find retail sales jobs.

His heart was in teaching so he delivered newspapers and made pizzas while supporting his now family of 5--so he could go back and finish his teaching degree.

Like many others, he made sacrifices, was creative and persistent...and you can too.

God will open up doors if you look to Him. He loves you and made you unique and special. You have so much to offer others; it just may take time to discover your path.

God bless you, Michelle

peter j rowley said...

Peter Rowley from UK.

I have just started a new job as a parttime traffic marshal, i wear hi-viz uniform & direct traffic at sporting events & pop concerts. I have been told that we will be needed at the olympics in London 2012.

Iran Freedom said...

I have Asperger's. I love math and languages - but I found tax accounting to be deathly boring and very unappealing. I am much happier doing language translation work. I am currently fluent in Spanish and am gradually becoming fluent in Russian. I believe you should add document translation work to the list of good jobs for people with Asperger's.

You should also indicate some qualifications with regard to accounting and tax because I found social skills were more important than intellectual ones in tax and accounting / auditing alike. I have a masters in taxation that I don't use because of it. I don't think accounting or tax work is highly suitable for folks like me with Aspergers.

Anonymous said...

I highly recommend "Be Different", thew new book by John Elder Robison. He talks about how he worked hard to obtain some social skills to work with others - to a degree. While recognizing that Asperger's is a spectrum condition, it is refreshingly positive overall, and focuses on what "Aspergians" CAN do, not what they can't.

Incidentally, has anyone seen more complex tics in children with Asperger's? My 6-year old daughter is on the very low spectrum - is pretty social overall with an advanced vocabulary and reading level but shows a complex motor tic when she's particularly engaged with her imagination (drawing, playing dolls with her sister.) The hand that is not busy kind of dances, or paints in the air (it's actually quite beautiful, sometimes, but attracts stares and questions from others and I'm worried about teasing and mostly worried about unqualified and misguided guidance counselors pouncing on this as representative as something more serious than it is.) It's never when she's agitated or upset, but, as she puts it, "My thoughts are so strong...", or "I'm making it move," (in context of drawing), and occurs only when her imagination is engaged. Anyone have experience with this, or leads to literature about it?

Many thanks!

Designs By Sarah said...

Wow Keith Miller, could you be a bit more offensive??? People are discouraged because life has been extra difficult. Saying "suck it up" doesn't help at all. Then again, I'm not really being nice either! As for me, I have been on anti-depressants and studying cognitive therapy and self-improvement for over a decade --- but that is only to help me be on the same level as "normal" people. I have about 4 years worth of college + university including a diploma in graphic arts. Unfortunately in this economy graphic design and web design are also being outsourced to India or idiots who charge like 5$ per month for a complete website or else people just do it themselves. But I do feel self-employment is the best route for me, whether it's illustration or lawn mowing or whatever. It saves you from the dreaded office politics!

Anonymous said...

Keith Miller,

If you're trying to give people a little encouragement, you're doing it the wrong way. Someone who is discouraged and comes across your post is likely to become even more discouraged. People only become discouraged after the "positive thinking" approach and the "suck it up, get over it" approach that you advocate, as well as lots of other approaches, have already failed them. Your advice comes across as naive and, if someone who read your advice had the misfortune of thinking they should listen to you, it would probably make that person feel even more negative about themselves than they did before, thus reinforcing their negative outlook.

People who have reached the point of despair after years and years of struggling don't need to be berated for feeling frustrated. They need understanding. And you need to understand and appreciate that life is hard for most people out there, and you're one of the lucky ones if you can just "suck it up."

I only tell you this because it really does seem like you're trying to give good advice. If you want to give good advice, try to keep in mind that you've been blessed in your professional life and not everyone is as lucky.

Anonymous said...

I worked for nine years for a telecom company in their tier one support. I had to answer phones, so it involved a lot of verbal comm. but no eye contact needed. You do have to be able to access short term memory, but most of it is technical, more long term troubleshooting; it is not for every AS person for sure but I handled it well. I have not been dx'd with AS but I have two children who have and I fit their characteristics in many ways, having outgrown some of them as a child. One thing that has helped my suspected AS is having children with it. In order to be their mouthpiece I have HAD to put my anxiety about social stuff aside. My husband also has many AS qualities, probably why we hooked up. Haha.

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For people with this kind of disorder, the key to prevent suffering later on in life is early intervention.

downlowaspie said...

I was recently diagnosed with AS despite being outwardly successful. The best advice that I ever received is that we have to live in the real world. I understand Sartre's comment that hell is other people. Nonetheless, it does get better over time. Hang in there fellow Aspies. Sooner or later you will find a career at which you will succeed. All that it takes is the one chance for someone to see your talents

Anonymous said...

Like Anonymous, I have found call centre jobs to be great for Aspies - I work in a moderately techie finance call centre. It helps so much that there is no face-to-face contact with the clients. I'm sure my boss and workmates find me odd, but the callers like me and I havent been unemployed for 11 years.

Anonymous said...

My career is a PhD-level biomedical cancer researcher. Scientific research attracts a lot of people with Asperger's traits. However, as one commenter pointed out: social skills are important for nearly every job. My quirky social skills have definitely contributed to lost opportunities, closed doors, burned bridges, and an apparently stalled-out career trajectory. On the other hand, a lower level position not requiring me to supervise others allows me to be more, not less, productive and feels so much better. I can relate to John Elder Robison's story of leaving the executive suite and getting back to doing what one is good at--even if a paycut happens. Science is a good job for many with Asperger's--but do be aware of formally learning neurotypical social skills! It will help in any field.

Anonymous said...

I've got a job as an embedded programmer. But the workplace is just driving me crazy. It's a chaotic, messy, open-plan office with bad acoustics, and a very social group of people working there. Some of them are ADHD. Even many "normal" people complain about it. I spend my day drowning it out in music.

Anonymous said...

I would like to hear more about older teenage girls with aspergers, I have concerns about my daughter, who is aging out of school

FUTUREASPIEMA :) said...

Keith Miller,
Ok, I agree with everyone, if you are trying to give encouragement, you are doing it the wrong way. You must learn how to choose your words better and learn consideration for others and their feelings and opinions, you must learn to respect them. I know its a hard lesson to learn with Aspergers, but if you try to be more respectful and considerate, you will get a whole lot more respect. To Nerd, i hear you hunnie, but its never too late to pursue your future as a librarian,as to regards of finding a job, Im having a difficult time too, believe me. I got lucky i got another position at Popeyes as a lobby hostess for 5/days a week, 2-3 hours, It's not much, but i am also attending Keiser University studying for my associates in Science in Medical Assisting. Im 26 and was diagnosed with Aspergers when i was 15. My advice for you is to never give up, always keep your head held high. Every job interview you go to, be professional, respectful, and be as postitive and confident as you can, everytime i went to a job interview, they always loved that about me. I have a good feeling your future's going to be very bright, I hope my advice helps you!:)
To everyone else, I agree with all of you! Yes, people in the workforce do need to be more tolerant to work with people, not just only with Aspergers, but with all disabilities as well, and Colleges and Universities need to be more aware of that as well. People with AS/Autism should not have to be forced to be driven into:
1. Accepting the fact that they can only work minimum wage jobs, barely making it all their lives.
2.Filing for full disability just because much our american society and many corporations refuse to accept and work with a person with AS and Autism.
How people treat us in this country is totally unacceptable, none of us should tolerate it, you know what i mean guys? It's not that we cannot handle working, its the sole fact that People don't want to deal with people with disabilities, that is such a heartbreaking fact, it breaks my heart for all those looking for jobs, many cooperations not giving them a chance. Yeah, we have our limits and flaws, but everyone does. I love the article though so true and very helpful. Yeah, i tried fast food cashiering, NEVER AGAIN,LOL! I have problems with my short-term and social skills as well, it's really amazing how AS is being spoken of without fear. I wish all of you nothing but best wishes, the lords blessings to be upon all of you! Feel free to reply to my post my friends, especially if getting my associates in Medical Assisting's a good idea or not, or simply if you have any advice and encouragement from me. And to the one who posted about Vocational Rehab, the only thing i benefited from that was just getting a part-time minimal wage job, if they claim they can help your child with college, don't hold your breath. I say that due to the lengthy process of getting services from them and due to the status of our economy, thanks to our government for their careless actions. I would suggest you look into FASFA and Scholarships for your child, im just simply saying do not trust Vocational rehab pertaining to that. :) I hope all my advice and loving encouragement helps! :)

magnetite said...

I'm currently looking for a new job, and I'm glad I've come across this.

I have Aspergers with a mild brain injury (hydrocephalus). Pretty much the only thing is my short term memory, fine motor skills, and a couple other things.

Anyways, all these career tests say I'd be good at working in an office or some sort of IT job. I am A+ Certified, so I could get a computer tech job. I also went back to school and trained in Microsoft Excel and Word 2010 Advanced level.

As for office jobs, being a secretary or anything front office is out. I'm not really that sociable, so I'll take as little people contact as possible. Behind the scenes is where it's at for me.

I've heard a lot of talk about data entry being obsolete or outsourced, that was my next choice. Next think after that was something to do with filing or record keeping.

My mom has mentioned about having my own business, but I don't know that would turn out.

Anonymous said...

I am a aspie attending a local community college, I have found that I do not really do not have creative skills such as art, but I do enjoy Science courses such as biology and chemistry.

In my first year I started a three year Biotechnology course from which I enjoyed but there was a tremendous work load so I reduced my course load, I still failed the semester, I found there was alot of research involved and I found this difficult.

This year I started a 1 year Medical lab technician course that I have found to be much more forgiving and more of a repitive learning experience which fit me much better.

It seems that there are different intelligence levels of aspies but it is the lack of social skills that binds us. One aspie could be computer programmer and have a brilliant I.Q. or another could be a custodian.

Every Job requires social skills but in these words I think as aspies we prefer actual work talk and instructions rather then workplace gossip or joking around.
If you find a job you like you will learn how to socialize well in that langauge.

I think some good jobs for aspies in the medical field would be:

-Medical Lab Assistant/Technician
-Madical Transcriptionist

I have found that all of the aspies I have met are attending college and are the most determined people you will ever meet. No disability will bring us down because we have something that can beat our diabilty; our drive to suceed!

Anonymous said...

My hubby has aspergers. He is a senior biomedical scientist, and works full time. :) I admire aspies for their intelligence!! Our older 2 sons r showing traits of aspergers, we r at the moment aiting for assessments.

concernedmum said...

reading this article makes me, a mum of a 13 year old aspie wonder how I can prepare him for the work world, he loves sport, I have been thinking about sports teaching, swimming teaching or umpire for soccer?

I keep thinking he might not make it to college so we need something practical.

It makes me sad to think about how important social and emotional skills are just to get through an interview, never mind how to get through every day at work.

Anonymous said...

I'm an aspie myself and I laughed so hard at some of the bad jobs. I can already see myself trying to deal cards at a casino and then finding out I'm standing at the roulettetable... I'd be teribble XD

I once made the mistake of getting a summerjob as a telemarketeer. I lasted for a whopping 24 hours before panicking and running out the door with the cord of the headset wrapped around my ankle. (Customer: "hey missy, are you being sarcastic?" me: "I dunno... are you?")

I now study to be a website designer and I'm writing sci-fi/horror novels in my free time. Much, much better! :)

Lori said...

I also now study to be a website designer. It looks like it might be an overcrowded field, but two things are in its favor:

1. My activities so far as an "enthusiast" (or "wannabee") developer/web designer give me profound joy.

2. Perhaps "portfolio" can be persuaded to substitute for such introvert filters as "resume," "interview," and "references."

Website designer being so 2002, I'm also trying to figure out how to write Android "apps."

Anonymous said...

My brother is 21 and my husband and I support him because he cannot find or hold down a job and is failing college. I am at my wits end and I do not know what to do. He doesn't seem to have any of the skills to get any of these jobs.

Anonymous said...

"concernedmum said...

reading this article makes me, a mum of a 13 year old aspie wonder how I can prepare him for the work world, he loves sport, I have been thinking about sports teaching, swimming teaching or umpire for soccer?"

Hi concernedmum, hope you still read these boards, if you do and your son has a chance at College, I'd suggest looking at Sports Science type courses; for a sport loving aspie, summat that involves sport, facts and figures seems heaven sent :-)

Josephine Smith said...

when i was looking for a job as a nurse once graduating from university, a nurse told me that no one could be a nurse with AS due to the social elements of nursing. what i learnt from this is Anyone can do anyjobs as long as it suits their needs and should not be held back from any condition or prejudice.
http://nurseteaspoons.blogspot.co.uk/

FUTUREASPIEMA :) said...

To the one who has a brother struggling through college and having a hard time maintaining and finding a job, my heart goes out to you, and your brother. Have you and/or your brother looked into Disability accomodations or any help he can get at his College? That could help with the educational aspect. Another thing that could help you out with the college is to see if you can somewhat observe a day in the classroom with your brother in it. You may not be able to do this in person, but maybe you can send a hidden video camcorder, or a hidden recorder and then listen to the observations when he gets home, maybe there could be bullying going on or triggers that could be setting him off during class, he could be in a Major that its not suited for him, academic struggles it could be a variety of things. I would also speak with your brother and husband about seeking Vocational Rehab services for your brother, they can help your brother find and maintain a job. They also can help assist him with typing up a job resume, cover letters, the whole ten yards, if he so needs it. But, don't do anything he's not comfortable with doing unless if it absolutely needs to be done. I hope my advice helps you. And to the one who suggested 2 jobs in regards to the Medical field, that does help and so does your positive,uplifting comment.To Nurse Joesphine, thank you for posting such a positive and uplifitng comment, you are so right. Remember you all, we can do all things through Christ that strengthens us. Lets keep proving society wrong!:)

Anonymous said...

Honestly all of you should think about this before starting families. You have a good chance of bringing another child into the world that will have to deal with these things and may never be able to work enough to support thereself comfortably or at all and not have to survive day to day on minimum wage. Min wage wouldn't even cover health insurance where I live. I just cringe when I hear someone with asperger's plan on starting a family just because they think that's what they are supposed to do to appear normal. Think about the other people instead of yourselves if you are able.

Lorraine said...

Well, Anonymous, there are God's plenty of "fully able" folk settling for low wage employment, so I blame the economy. If you want a competitive economic system, there will be losers. Eugenics will not change that. Or as Jesus prophesied: The poor you will always have with you. I don't accept that particular prophecy, but even in the War On Poverty (a legitimate target if there is one), there are weapons systems I won't deploy.

Anonymous said...

Mother of Adult Aspie with severe OCPD wonders if anyone who stuggles with this can share some hope. He is currently in a residential OCD treatment program but is not making much progress. It is his greatest challenge socially and in maintaining employement.

hurdahl said...

Programming - while that is not something for me (I've got AS too.. but I'm going to try for a librarian type job:D) - or similar types of jobs can be excelent for people with AS... as long as they are INTERESTED in it... actually - any job that demands throughout inspections, testing ++ could be perfect... In Scandinavia lots of businesses has found that people with AS can be far better than neurotypicals for some of the specialist jobs... and they've therefore become far more willing to 'adjust' the workplace for them. (as in giving them their own office/allowing them to eat on their own ++). Will say that if at all possible one should try to 'guide' the interest into something useful... So that if Computer is an interest... try to guide to programming ++ and how stuff works rather than just allowing the child to play games... Which is an interest that can't really be used for much in the long run.

This type of job is not for me though... Cause even if I don't always understand them ... or have the energy to do so - I'm a 'people person'... and people fascinate me... myself too even.

... Will say that is is never too late - as long as you don't give up. Be open and talk to people... try to think of ways your obsession might be useful... just... specialist not generalist. (most of the time). .. I think that social time can be less stressful if the topic is something one is interested in/spesifict rather than 'small talk' which is mostly quite useless... Even being a teacher - can under some circumstances - be something one can do. Being a judge with football/soccer though... might be better than being a player. ... except for the whole 'players getting angry' thing...

Anonymous said...

Might I suggest some trade jobs. It is what I am doing. Usually, it only requires two years of school, if at that. Some trades, you just dive head first into an apprenticeship. Repetitive, pays well, and allows an aspie to own his work using all his skills.
Hvac
Electrician
Plumber
etc,

Marie said...

Re: "I just cringe when I hear someone with asperger's plan on starting a family", is about one of the most self-absorbed and unenlightened comments I've heard here. I can't imagine the world devoid of the DaVincis, Einsteins, Twains, Mozarts, not to mention George Washington, Isaac Newton, Henry Ford, Beethoven, Bobby Fischer, Kandinski, and Howard Hughes, just to name a few who are generally accepted as individuals who had Aspergers!! And the impressive list goes on. I hope we continue to be gifted with such people forever. Yes, their social skills may not be on par with the mainstream, but has anyone considered the greater difficulty has been the change in society's speed and expectations? All those people lived in a time where we were not all bombarded by visual and aural stimuli 24/7. People had a chance to ruminate, mentally explore, study independently at length without always "being on the clock". I would love to see all you people who have contributed above, be given the gift of being taken out of the barrage of societal drivel and demands as we see and hear daily on TV, radio — and yes on the web —and watch as you all unfold and take wing! What a blessing for us all that would be.

Anonymous said...

Ok, So my wife and I have just been informed (3 months ago) that our oldest has Aspergers. Upsetting, yes, but what was even more disturbing is that my wife is a TA for Autistic children which range from very low to high function. She was very upset that she hadn't realized it sooner. He is a great kid, very smart but low self esteem and a bit of a loner. He works part time at a sandwich shop and seems to be doing well handling customers but I sense his frustrations when the shop has been busy. I have been reading the post of others who have children with Aspergers and I am ashamed at how wrong I have been over the years and even more so lately now that I know he has AS. Our relationship is not great and I want terribly to improve it so I hope by coming back and reading more posts I will learn how he thinks and how best to handle different situations. There are a few books/e-books posted here as well, does anyone have any suggestions. I can not tolerate the disrespect toward his mother (or me) so we need to learn how to manage that. I am an active duty Navy Sailor that has spent a tremendous amount of time away from my family and just reported to shore duty (just about the same time he was diagnosed) which allows me to be home every night and weekend so I am sure that change has really thrown him off kilter as well. I appreciate any advice anyone has to offer.

meistersinger said...

Amen to that. Had I known almost 40 years ago I had Asperger's, I wouln't have bothered with college.

Anonymous said...

Navy Dad, your desire to form a closer relationship with your son is admirable. You don't say how old your son is, but since he's working part-time in a sandwich shop, I guessing he's at least an older teenager or young adult.

You note that you have difficulty tolerating his disrespect toward your wife or you. Sometimes aspies are rude just as sometimes "normal" people are rude. However, more often it's the case that aspies say things that come across as disrespectful, but they don't mean to be.

My 15-year-old son has AS. He is a really nice kid, and I feel very fortunate that I don't have to deal with some of the problems the parents of "normal" teenagers might face such as drug and alcohol abuse, or irresponsible sexual behavior.

I suppose the biggest challenges I face involve helping my son understand the nuances of social interactions. It's difficult to explain why it may be okay to speak one way with his friends at school, but the same language and topics are inappropriate around me, his dad, or other adults. Why is something funny or appropriate in one context but not in another? So often what is seen as disrespectful behavior is often a lack of understanding of social expectations. We spend a lot of time talking to our son about expected and unexpected behavior. He gets very frustrated because the social rules don't make since to him; they aren't consistent.

Social rules often seem arbitrary to my son. That often leads to feelings of frustration and anger. It's hard to usually be the one who doesn't fit with the group, who doesn't get the subtle messages that your behavior does not conform. It does not help him if I get angry when he says something disrespectful. Of course sometimes I do, but I learned that letting anger lead my response to his behavior only makes the situation worse. It's much more effective to ask him why he said what he said, and then help him to understand how I experienced it. Then we work together to come up with a better way for him to express himself. He's come a long way over the years in understanding social rules. Does he have lots more to learn? Yes. We will keep working on it. It was a major realization on our part that much of the behavior we were interpreting as stubborn refusal was really a complete lack of understanding of what was expected behavior.

I guess what I'm saying is that to form a closer relationship with your son, you need to learn how to understand the world through your son's eyes.

You asked for some suggested reading material. I found the books to be helpful in understanding AS:
The Complete Guide to Asperger;s Syndrome by Tony Attwood; and Freaks, Geeks, and Aspergers Syndrome: A User Guide to Adolescence by Luke Jackson

Anonymous said...

I'm a 21 year old girl with Aspergers and i'm really confused about what to do about my life. I'm currently studying law because my grades were good in high school and the pay is good etc. but i didn't know i had Aspergers.. Now i feel like i'm just wasting my time..

Anonymous said...

I'm a 21 year old girl with Aspergers and i have really no idea what i'm going to do with my life:/ I'm currently studying law because my grades were good in high school and the pay is good etc. but i didn't know i had Aspergers.. Also in my country Aspergers is not well known and there aren't even any social services or such so.. I don't even know..

Anonymous said...

How do you get your Son who was diagnoised with aspergers syndrome to actually come out of himself, and to have fait in his ability to do things? My son is so intelligent. However, he says he doesn't have aspergers syndrome, he has people faiulre syndrome. He is seeing a psychologist. THsi doesn't seem to be working out too well. I'm at wits end.

UNCOMMONSENSE IN JAX said...

I am 43 and I only recently discovered I have Aspergers. I served in the United States Navy and then had two sons: one with Down Syndrome and Autism and another with Aspergers. I began to work with adults with disabilities in various capacities. I am now employed part time as a receptionist in a counseling practice and I am also working independently providing advocacy, coaching for the parents, and mentoring for others on the spectrum. The disability work world needs skilled individuals preferably with a great understanding of what it is like to be different, how to best use your skills to achieve goals, and most importantly who understand how to be both well and on the spectrum. If you fit the bill, please look for opportunities in your community.

Anonymous said...

Don't give up!

Unknown said...

I am 56 years old and have recently been Dx'd ADHD, Aspergers, and Bipolar II. I have had 44 jobs and never knew why things were so hard at work. Bosses said I was a poor fit or had poor job performance, or other things that hurt my self-confidence. I have been fired or asked to leave a dozen or so times. I have a hard time with people criticizing me, and that's what supervizors seem to do, so now



I also don't have very good executive functioning, I think, because I have never been able to set goals, except with yard work. I am very bright and have a master's degree. Because of the disorder and maybe lack of life goal setting, I got an M.Ed. in Human Relations. It is not useful to me becauae it involved no coursework in Education, and I have trouble reading and being with people...Yikes

So, from these 44 mostly unrelated jobs, I can share that I did best as a proofreader, an assistant manager of a water store, and house sitter. The worst ones were Social Services and Mental Health agency jobs, because intereactions are non-stop, and the paperwork actually precipitated embarassing meltdowns. I still have nighmares about the waitressing and receptionint/cashier jobs. I cannot multi-task or do "fast-paced environment" jobs. No professional has ever recommended that I apply for Disability because I present well, I guess.

Interest Inventories showed I may have made a good Forester, Horse Breeder, Musician Rancher, Software Designer, or Psychiatrist. Yet Math trouble kept me away from Science and Technology.

So now I am a fit, versatile, playful 56-year-old woman who has NO income, and who has NO idea what to apply for. I do fill out random applications, and each one brings on an anxiety problem that includes huge grief, and trouble breathing.

So, YEAH, early intervention would have been really great!

Encouraging and humourous comments, and good ideas, would be welcome!

Lorraine said...

I feel your pain.

magnetite said...

I'm currently volunteering with my mom doing some office type jobs for her employer. I really like the job. Unfortunately, they were not hiring jobs for the duties I was doing (photocopying, scanning, and some computer work).

When it actually comes to finding a job though, as with a lot of people with Aspergers and socializing, the whole networking with people just sort of keeps me away from looking. You can look on job sites, but there's literally hundreds of people applying for the same position as you.

If I was to get an interview, I've heard some people don't get the job because they have a disability, in this case Aspergers. They believe that someone like me would be too much to handle.

When I was working with my mom, they basically told me what they needed me to do, and I pretty much did it for the entire time I was there.

They said I'm very efficient and that I did the same amount of work that could have taken someone months to do, I did in about 3 weeks. With it being volunteer, I only worked once a week.

See, I've got the skills and such. I just need the connections to help me get a job. However, like I said, for most people with Aspergers, trying to get a job or network with people, which is how most people find jobs, is like carrying a huge 100 lb weight on your back.

Worriedparent said...

My 15 yo son has high functioning aspergers, has friends ,is affectionate etc, he is doing ok in school by focusing on his homework and as someone said we have no worries re drugs/alcohol etc! He wants to join the air force as a defense guard (I'm in Australia) , anyone here had experience in the armed forces with aspergers?.

Blogger profile said...

Yes, I made the mistake of majoring in English in college. Ten years later, I am a housekeeper at a large hospital. I am very good at my job but find it dissatisfying. My degree has helped me not one iota in finding employment. Without the social skills to pursue anything related to my interests, manual labor is the life for me. P.S. I have learned to multi-task at my job by thinking circularly as well as linearaly. I believe this is related to practicing Tai Chi and Zen Buddhism.

Olivia said...

I was an H.R. Manager at my las job... and ended up quitting because I was not interested and I spent my time reading about things that did interest me... so now I am going back to school to be an engineer... because that is what I found to be interesting... I have found it hard for a job to really keep my intention, espeically an office job...

Darlene Luckins said...

I work in a library and do reference work. The majority of my job involves a LOT of complex social interaction with a diverse group of people. I had to learn what is the correct thing to say and how to interact. It's easy to be taken the wrong way if you don't have the right facial expression or body posture for the situation as well. You have to also deal with complaints and sometimes manage co-workers.

I don't know if being a reference librarian is a good choice for people who find social interaction difficult. Some libraries also get very busy and several people can also demand your attention at the same time.

Shelving books is a good idea as is a job behind the scenes like cataloging and, perhaps, administration. But, the latter jobs are very competitive.

carol blair said...

To Unknown with ADHD, Aspergers and Bipolar11.

I am now 60, I have ADD, and am medicated for depression and social anxiety, (which I personally think is aspergers related). I was also on Ritalin which helped DRAMATICALLY, but after damage to my nervous system I can on longer take it. I live alone, and have never been in a successful romantic relationship inspite of a great desire to be in one.

I also have a great deal of trouble setting goals , or of even thinking of the future. I am stuck in the eternal now, without any means, or knowledge of how to support myself. I think I understand at least something of where you are coming from.

I during my working career I was always the oddball who did not understand the office politics and how to make friends, which left me an easy target for others to tease or mistreat. I am very intelligent , talented, a quick study and a diligent worker.

Because of this I was pushed by therapists to strive for management jobs in fast paced environments Museum Exhibits Installations, where I failed utterly at the assistant manager level, and was traumatized in the process. Because of the tricky issue of social politics and how cut throat they can be in a specialized field. The politics of dating and relationships further damaged my self esteem.

For the past ten years ( following a spinal laminectomy, which left me with nerve damage), I have not worked. I tried to retrain as a landscape designer. This bombed because one to one client interactions terrify me. Even working with a Job Counselor for people with disabilities (including those with aspergers) did nothing but make me feel worse about myself because she could not see my limitations because of my talents, and appearance of "normalcy".

Early detection. At least this is now possible. At least now some counselors are aware and able to admit that being "close to neurotypical" doesn't always mean the individual will have no problems interacting in todays world. As the saying goes "close, but no cigar", it is the differences, even the seemingly small ones that can ultimately trip you up, and leave you without support. Financially and emotionally.

Desperate mum said...

I like what you said....i have a son who is probably an asperger too and is yet to be diagnosed soon.i am worried that he might not live a quality life when i am gone and he is already 14...what you said helps a lot...Marie.

Stressarella said...

My son is 25 and was diagnosed with Aspergers about his 2nd year of college. It took him 5 years (which isn't unusual these days)to graduate with a double major in history and English (which I see is not a good fit for someone with Aspergers). Most of his time in college he spent in his dorm when he wasn't in class or in getting food in the dining hall and gained about 70 pounds during that time. While he was in college we found out that his school offered about 10 free sessions through the disability office with a counselor, he only went to three. He graduated 15 months ago and is still working 2 part time jobs- one in a retail store unloading trucks and stocking shelves and another one delivering pizzas. I don't know what to do for him and so very scared for his future. I have given him names of sights to go to for people with Aspergers, suggested and offered a name of a therapist to go to for help-especially since I think he has anxiety and maybe depression and suggested joining to a support/social group for young adults with Aspergers and he didn't want to go. It's as if he doesn't want to admit he has Aspergers. Unfortunately, while he was still in college my husband was transferred to another state with his job, so another hurdle. We now live in a state where he doesn't know anyone, not that he socialized or had many friends where we used to live, but at least it was familiar. He spends most of his time in his bedroom. We have pointed out to him Apergers groups that meet and suggested getting into something that interests him and joining a group that does that, like Archery since he liked it in high school and seemed good at it. He hasn't done any of it. He has had 3 job interviews over the phone and one in person and no job offer. I help him by looking for jobs and printing them out for him to review and apply and my husband and I have both referred him for jobs with our employers. He definitely has the social issue, he isn't afraid to socialize he just doesn't like to do it for very long or often, he has to back out of the situation by going to the bathroom to gather himself and get relief he as done this for years, since he was little- we didn't know what it was at the time. What else can we do, how do I reach him? I so worry that when my husband and I are gone he is going to be living in the streets. Also, worry about people taking advantage of him- he really is a wonderful, kind young man and honest young man - prey for assholes. I know during the process of getting diagnosed with Aspergers he expressed interest of meeting a nice girl and getting married, I fear he may never have this. I say a lot of prayers for him these days. Any advise or help would be appreciated. Thanks.

Megan said...

I'm 23, and I have AS. I tried looking for work and had a factory job at a place for disabled people, but they had to let me go because they ran out of funding. Then, I had a hotel job (housecleaner), but they fired me after the first day. :'( Then, I got on SSI. I don't have much stress, which is good, but I feel like I'm suppose to be working or going to college. The key words are "I feel like I'm suppose to". I failed at the jobs that normal people have.

Michael Douglas said...

I'm 21 and have an assosiate's degree in business administration and I have both aspergers and adhd. I don't know what I'm going to do. I studied business so that I could take care of myself financially and be able to afford anything that I could possibly need, but I didn't think it through. I wish I could start over and I'm about to study to get my bachelor's but I don't know what I should study anymore. I'm in deep trouble here. Somebody help me please.

Loneheart said...

Stressarella, your post almost made me cry because your son sounds just like me, especially the part about going to the bathroom to regroup after being around people for a while. I'm 29, I never even heard of this condition until 2 years ago, which sucks, I wish that I would have known about this when I was a child.

I started my own business when I was 22 with a business partner who was a "social butterfly" so we had the perfect partnership, he would do all the social stuff while I did everything else such as the paperwork, advertising, managing the books, etc. We became pretty successful at it too and enjoyed a great life. However, he became sick and died about a year and a half ago. Since then I lost my business and everything else since I could not fill the void left by his death. Now I am almost 30 back living with my parents with no idea of what to do next. I have a business degree which is pretty worthless for me at the moment, and I have no idea of what career I should even look into. Knowing about this ASD now, I wish that I would have stuck with my original goal of being an engineer instead of going into the business world where who you know is much more valuable than what you know.

hm said...

DO NOT become a reference librarian! They deal with the public constantly, often have to deal with long lines of angry people during busy times, and as one poster pointed out, there is a lot of nasty politics in libraries. Librarians often have to deal with angry complainers and unbalanced patrons. It can be quite stressful!

Oscar Martinez said...

Anonymous you have to be the most arrogant person I've seen online in a while. I'm an adult Aspie who was just diagnosed and I have three children whom I wouldn't change for the world... All three of them have some form of Autism. There are many people who are unemployed with the current economic crisis, people with disabilities moreso than the milieu. This fact doesn't mean that there aren't highly successful individuals and with the rate at which Asperger's and Autism is progressing, it's just a matter of time before society needs to make a majority of the concessions in terms of employment. Asperger's and Autism is a different way of looking at and processing the world and honestly, it's about time the world gains a new perspective. Employ-ability isn't what makes a human being valuable and everyone ; NT, those on the spectrum, and people with more debilitating issues, has their good and bad qualities that they have to learn to adapt to. I tell my children that life is going to be difficult for them and that their peers won't understand them, but that their family is always behind them and they will find a place to fit in. I don't sugarcoat their limitations and I don't negate any possibilities for them, because with early intervention and a solid support system, people on the spectrum can accomplish extraordinary feats. Your comments are ignorant and quite honestly I don't think you should procreate knowing the bias and ignorance you'll be passing onto your offspring.

Shelia Barrett said...

Hi. My son has aspergers. I would like to hear from you. I am praying for you. Please do not lose hope. I know it has been 3.5 yrs
since you wrote this response but I hope you
are truly OK. Jesus loves you and so do I.

PinkHibiscusFlowers said...

I have a had a job in various parts of the education field for 10 years, starting at 16 ( I'm 27 now) and have Aspergers. I find education to be a great field, especially working with younger kids. I have been successful in this field. The younger kids don't notice anything different with me and my only problem has been that the parents sometimes think me too blunt, as do co-workers but for the most part it seems to be acceptable. I occasionally have problems with filtering and volume control but I enjoy the job greatly. All my interests such as crochet, environmentalism, history and science is useful as children has a million questions.

Deborah Swaitkewich said...

I was diagnosed at 58 with Nonverbal Learning Disorder which sounds a lot like what is described here. I am looking for office work and most office jobs require a lot of multitasking. You have to provide reception, type documents, etc. all at the same time. Jobs where you only have to do one thing, such as a filing clerk, do not exit any more. It's the same in all fields of work. You have to be able to do many things at the same time. I have not seen a job opening that does not require multitasking.

My child has been rejected by his peers, ridiculed and bullied !!!

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