My ASD Child

“I have a 14-year-old son with high functioning autism who behaves in a way that mystifies me...I cannot do anything right, according to him. I had never heard of Oppositional Defiant Disorder, and after reading the symptoms, I think that he should be seeing a doctor about possibly having this disorder. I have noticed symptoms like the ones mentioned in him since he was very young.  I have tried to talk to him about it and he has told me that he feels out of control at times with his temper, especially when it comes to people of authority. I have learned to not talk about anything he might turn on. I e-mail him across the house and have learned to speak to him in his language. Is it possible for a child to have both disorders? What action should parents take in these cases?” Many parents have difficulty recognizing the difference between a strong-willed, emotional teen with High-Functioning Autism (HFA) or Aspergers’ (AS) and one with Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD). Clea...

"Nothing we have done to get our ASD teen to avoid the ups and downs of his behavior and mood swings has helped. We need help now!" Disciplining a teenager with Aspergers or High-Functioning Autism (HFA) is likely to bring out the best and the worst in a parent. Moms and dads try to help their “special needs” teenager make up for what's missing by increasing their love and attention, but he or she often triggers special frustrations in parents. Most teens go through predictable stages of development in adolescence. You know about when to expect what behavior and how long it will last. Knowing you don't have to weather this “difficult behavior” indefinitely helps you cope. But with many teens on the autism spectrum, stages seem to go on forever, as do the frustrations in both the teenager and the parent. Parenting an Aspergers or HFA son or daughter is a tough job. The ups and downs and joys and sorrows are magnified. You rejoice at each accomplishment, and you...

  School can be a battlefield for autistic teenagers—a place filled with noise, unpredictability, and social complexities that feel impossible to decode. For many parents, the school years bring a constant cycle of stress, advocacy, and exhaustion. You might wake up every morning wondering whether your teen will make it through the day without a meltdown, misunderstanding, or panic attack. Academic expectations add another layer. Teachers want progress. Schools demand compliance. Classmates notice differences. Meanwhile, your teen may be fighting invisible battles—sensory overload, communication fatigue, perfectionism, or fear of failure. This chapter will help you navigate school stress and academic pressure with calm strategy and compassion. You’ll learn how to decode your teen’s struggles, collaborate with teachers, and build a realistic plan for success that honors both your child’s needs and their potential. Understanding Why School Is So Stressful 1. The Social Labyrinth...

Navigating the tumultuous waters of adolescence is challenging for any teenager, but it can be particularly daunting for those with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). Aggressive behaviors may surface during this critical developmental phase for a variety of reasons, including difficulties in communication, sensory overload, significant changes in routine, and struggles with emotional regulation.  Understanding the roots of these aggressive tendencies and developing practical strategies to manage them can create a more harmonious environment for both teens and their families. Below is a comprehensive guide designed to assist parents, caregivers, and educators in addressing aggression in teens with ASD. Understanding the Roots of Aggression: The Key to Empowerment To effectively address aggressive outbursts, it’s crucial to identify and understand their underlying triggers: 1. **Communication Barriers**: Teens with ASD often experience challenges in articulating their feelings or needs ...

Introduction: The Screen as Sanctuary For many autistic teenagers, technology isn’t just entertainment—it’s oxygen. It’s how they decompress, communicate, explore interests, and feel competent in a world that often overwhelms them. Parents, however, frequently experience this relationship with technology as a battleground. You may watch your teen spend hours on their phone, scrolling, gaming, or coding, and wonder, Is this healthy? Should I limit it? Am I losing my child to a screen? Before answering those questions, it’s important to understand the unique role technology plays for autistic teens. Screens can serve as both refuge and risk, offering safety and stimulation while sometimes deepening isolation or anxiety. The goal isn’t to eliminate technology—it’s to help your teen use it in ways that soothe, connect, and empower rather than consume. This chapter explores the emotional, neurological, and relational functions of technology for autistic teens. We’ll examine how to transf...