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Anger-Control Strategies for Children and Teens on the Autism Spectrum

If your youngster does not learn how to release his or her anger appropriately, it can fester and explode in inappropriate ways, or be internalized and damage his or her sense of self-worth. As a mother or father, dealing with an angry youngster is inevitable. Many of us have heard our own pre-parenting voice whisper to us, saying something like, “That will never be my child acting-out like that” (famous last words). Anger is learned, but so is composure!

In this post, we will discuss the following:
  • communicating angry feelings in a positive way
  • expressing anger nonviolently
  • learning how to avoid being a victim of someone else's angry actions
  • learning how to control angry impulses
  • learning how to problem solve
  • learning how to remove themselves from a violent or angry situation 
  • learning self-calming techniques
  • recognizing angry feelings in themselves and others

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Linda said...

Could you point me to resource suggestions for self-calming ways to help a 14-year-old boy who wants to punch when he gets angry.

pseudonym said...

As my son is getting older at the age of 16 now.I feel at times that he looks very lonely.He would be on his computer most of his time playing games,also he still at school.And works a part time job at our local shop stacking shelfs.He finds it hard at times at his job,but i say to him it will get easier
i am only doing this for him later on in life for another job.My son has mild Aspergers.He still at school and got eight GCSE.He loves playing the guitar.Very smart boy.And we love him i find art and music clams him down.

pseudonym said...

My son now at the age of 16 years old.Stayed on at school getting eight gcses hes very bright lad.On his 16 birthday he got a job stacking shelves at our local shop, he finds his job hard,but hes starting to talk to other people now after working there now for six months.I ask him do you like your job now,but replies back to me i hate it.I am only doing it for his benfit to help him to communicate with other people i do try to explain this to him.He loves playing his guitar and he is very good at it, think this is relaxing for him.Also he loves art spends a lot of time at art and is very good at art.Sometimes i look at him and he looks very on his own.My heart really goes out to him.He loves playing games on the computer and has his friends there chatting away which is great for him.We love our son very much he means the world to us.He has mild asperger.

Glastonburytor said...

My 11 year old gets frustrated every day whrn it comes tim to do his math homework. His teacher tells me he can do the work at school,but at home just jumps up and down and screams he can't do it, what do I do?

Full Spectrum Mama said...

We are finding the combination of puberty and difficulties with naming and processing feelings to be quite a potent one.
This post came at just the right time and I will return to it.
Thank you!

My child has been rejected by his peers, ridiculed and bullied !!!

Social rejection has devastating effects in many areas of functioning. Because the ASD child tends to internalize how others treat him, rejection damages self-esteem and often causes anxiety and depression. As the child feels worse about himself and becomes more anxious and depressed – he performs worse, socially and intellectually.

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How to Prevent Meltdowns in Children on the Spectrum

Meltdowns are not a pretty sight. They are somewhat like overblown temper tantrums, but unlike tantrums, meltdowns can last anywhere from ten minutes to over an hour. When it starts, the Asperger's or HFA child is totally out-of-control. When it ends, both you and your child are totally exhausted. But... don’t breathe a sigh of relief yet. At the least provocation, for the remainder of that day -- and sometimes into the next - the meltdown can return in full force.

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Parenting Defiant Teens on the Spectrum

Although Aspergers [high-functioning autism] is at the milder end of the autism spectrum, the challenges parents face when disciplining a teenager on the spectrum are more difficult than they would be with an average teen. Complicated by defiant behavior, the teen is at risk for even greater difficulties on multiple levels – unless the parents’ disciplinary techniques are tailored to their child's special needs.

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Older Teens and Young Adult Children with ASD Still Living At Home

Your older teenager or young “adult child” isn’t sure what to do, and he is asking you for money every few days. How do you cut the purse strings and teach him to be independent? Parents of teens with ASD face many problems that other parents do not. Time is running out for teaching their adolescent how to become an independent adult. As one mother put it, "There's so little time, yet so much left to do."

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Parenting Children and Teens with High-Functioning Autism

Two traits often found in kids with High-Functioning Autism are “mind-blindness” (i.e., the inability to predict the beliefs and intentions of others) and “alexithymia” (i.e., the inability to identify and interpret emotional signals in others). These two traits reduce the youngster’s ability to empathize with peers. As a result, he or she may be perceived by adults and other children as selfish, insensitive and uncaring.

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Highly Effective Research-Based Parenting Strategies for Children with Asperger's and HFA

Become an expert in helping your child cope with his or her “out-of-control” emotions, inability to make and keep friends, stress, anger, thinking errors, and resistance to change.

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