My ASD Child

  Introduction: The Invisible Ripple Effect When one child in a family is autistic, the entire household feels the ripple. Life becomes a constant balancing act—between attention and fairness, structure and flexibility, peace and chaos. Parents find themselves stretched thin, trying to meet everyone’s needs while holding the family together. The autistic teen might need extra time, therapy appointments, emotional support, or crisis management. Meanwhile, siblings—who love their brother or sister but sometimes feel overlooked—can experience jealousy, guilt, or resentment. Parents may feel torn, guilty, and exhausted, trying to maintain balance in a home that often feels emotionally uneven. This chapter explores the delicate ecosystem of family life with an autistic teenager—how to nurture the sibling bond, protect each child’s sense of security, and preserve your own peace along the way. The Hidden Emotions Beneath the Surface When parents think about sibling relationships i...

Helping Parents Understand & Cope with Their Autistic Teenagers (Foundations + a 7-Day Starter Plan you can use tonight) Big Picture: What “autism in adolescence” actually looks like Autistic teenagers often have the same core profile as in childhood—differences in sensory processing, social communication, and cognitive flexibility—but puberty, new academic demands, and social complexity crank the intensity way up. What you see at home (shutdowns, meltdowns, “defiance,” school refusal, hours of gaming, refusal of hygiene, etc.) is often the nervous system saying “I’m overwhelmed,” not “I don’t care.” Key concepts to keep in mind: Nervous-system first, behavior second. Stress, prediction errors, and sensory load drive most “behavioral” moments. Monotropism. Many autistic teens focus deeply on a few interests. That focus is regulating—use it, don’t fight it. Alexithymia & interoceptive differences. Many teens struggle to identify internal states (e.g., “am I a...

Balancing the needs of an autistic child and a typical child can be a challenging but rewarding experience. It requires patience, understanding, and flexibility to ensure that both children receive the support and attention they require. One of the most beautiful aspects of balancing the needs of both children is the opportunity to recognize and respect their individual differences. Each child is a unique gift, with their own set of needs, interests, and abilities. It's a joy to acknowledge and celebrate these differences while providing tailored support for each child. Open and honest communication is a cornerstone in understanding and meeting the needs of both children. It's important to talk to both the autistic and typical child, explaining the needs of one to the other in a way they can understand. Encouraging them to express their feelings and concerns is key to fostering a supportive environment. Establishing routines and structure can be beneficial for both children. Wh...

A meltdown is a condition where the youngster with ASD level 1, or High Functioning Autism, temporarily loses control due to  emotional responses to environmental factors . It generally appears that the youngster has lost control over a single and specific issue, however this is very rarely the case.  Usually, the problem is the accumulation of a number of irritations which could span a fairly long period of time, particularly given the strong long-term memory abilities of young people on the autism spectrum. Wh y T he Problems Seem Hidden— ASD   kids don't tend to give a lot of clues that they are very irritated: Often ASD child-grievances are aired as part of their normal conversation and may even be interpreted by NTs (i.e., neurotypicals, or people without autism) as part of their standard whining. Some things which annoy ASD kids would not be considered annoying to NTs, and this makes NT's less likely to pick up on a potential problem. Their facial expressions v...