My ASD Child

Parenting any teenager comes with emotional ups and downs. But for parents of autistic teens, emotional outbursts and meltdowns can feel particularly intense, unpredictable, and exhausting. What may look like “overreaction” is often the visible tip of an iceberg—weeks of accumulated stress, sensory overload, or the fatigue of constant social effort. This chapter explores how to understand the roots of meltdowns, respond with compassion, and build preventive systems that reduce escalation. Parents cannot eliminate meltdowns entirely, but they can transform how their family experiences them. Understanding Emotional Outbursts in Autistic Teens Meltdown vs. tantrum: A tantrum is usually driven by a goal (to get something). A meltdown is a nervous system overload where self‑control is lost. Shutdowns: The quieter cousin of meltdowns—teens may withdraw, go non‑verbal, or seem “frozen.” Triggers: Common causes include sensory overload, unexpected changes, prolonged social mask...

The concept of "theory of mind" refers to the ability to understand that others have their own beliefs, desires, and intentions, which may differ from one's own. This cognitive skill is crucial for effective social interaction and communication. In children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD), deficits in theory of mind can sometimes manifest as behaviors that may be misinterpreted as misbehavior. Understanding these behaviors in the context of theory of mind can lead to more empathy and effective support for autistic children. 1. What Does Theory of Mind Look Like in Typical Development? Typically developing children begin to exhibit theory of mind skills around the age of 2 to 3 years. They start to understand that others can have different thoughts, feelings, and perspectives. By the time children reach preschool age, they are often able to engage in simple forms of pretend play, empathize, and navigate social situations with increasing complexity. 2. Theory of Mind De...

"I need some advice on how to handle behavior problems in my child with ASD, such as how to use the right discipline, dealing with his obsessions, sibling issues, sleep problems, school-related problems, and acting-out behavior in public. Thanks!" Disciplining kids displaying ASD-related behavior will often require an approach which is somewhat unique to that of "typical" kids. Finding the balance between understanding the needs of a youngster with ASD - and discipline which is age appropriate and situationally necessary - is achievable when applying some simple, yet effective strategies. These strategies can be implemented both at home and in more public settings. General Behavior Problems— Traditional discipline may fail to produce the desired results for kids with ASD level 1 ("high-functioning autism"), primarily because they are unable to appreciate the consequences of their actions. Consequently, punitive measures are apt to exacerbate the type of...

Question Our son has autism but it would appear to be a mild condition as he has developed very well and does not exhibit extreme symptoms of the syndrome. However my wife and I have become exasperated of late in trying to teach our child about inappropriate or naughty behaviour. He does not respond to sanctions or punishments and even when he does and the reason for a sanction is explained he does not seem to learn from the sanction so that the behaviour is often repeated again and again and the threat of the same or similar sanction has no effect. Can you make any suggestions? Sanctions include being sent to his room, removal of favourite toys or treats and although he responds/accepts the actual punishment he will not learn the lesson which we are trying to teach him.  Answer Disciplining kids displaying behavior consistent with ASD level 1 (high-functioning autism) will often require an approach which is somewhat unique compared to that of other kids. Finding...

Children with ASD (high functioning autism) will respond quite well to specific classroom adaptations. Here are the recommended methods teachers can employ with their "special needs" students:  Implement Creative Programming - Through the student’s IEP, educators can develop class schedules which will be motivating and challenging to the student while addressing his/her needs. Intervene Early - The earlier intervention begins, the earlier children can learn the needed skills for adulthood and friendship. Obtain In-Depth Training - Learn the differences among the kids with ASD in elementary, middle school and high school. Recognize Children’ Strengths - Many children with ASD will go on to make great contributions to society. However, we must tap into their strengths and offer support so that they do not drop out of school because academic and social demands are too high. Understand How Social Impairments Impact Learning and Peer Relationships - Some children require...