My ASD Child

For many parents of autistic teenagers, technology and gaming are both a lifeline and a source of worry. Screens can offer structure, comfort, creativity, and connection—but they can also become battlegrounds of control, isolation, or obsession. Parents often ask, “Is my teen addicted to their device?” or “Should I limit their gaming time even if it helps them cope?” The truth is nuanced. Technology isn’t inherently harmful; it’s a tool—and like all tools, its impact depends on how it’s used, how it fits into daily routines, and whether it helps or hinders growth. In this chapter, we’ll explore how autistic teens engage with technology, what gaming provides emotionally and neurologically, and how to guide balance without constant conflict. You’ll find scripts, checklists, worksheets, and compassionate strategies to turn screens from stress points into supports for learning, creativity, and self-regulation. Understanding Why Technology Feels So Powerful for Autistic Teens 1. Predic...

  School can be a battlefield for autistic teenagers—a place filled with noise, unpredictability, and social complexities that feel impossible to decode. For many parents, the school years bring a constant cycle of stress, advocacy, and exhaustion. You might wake up every morning wondering whether your teen will make it through the day without a meltdown, misunderstanding, or panic attack. Academic expectations add another layer. Teachers want progress. Schools demand compliance. Classmates notice differences. Meanwhile, your teen may be fighting invisible battles—sensory overload, communication fatigue, perfectionism, or fear of failure. This chapter will help you navigate school stress and academic pressure with calm strategy and compassion. You’ll learn how to decode your teen’s struggles, collaborate with teachers, and build a realistic plan for success that honors both your child’s needs and their potential. Understanding Why School Is So Stressful 1. The Social Labyrinth...

Technology has become one of the defining features of teenage life. For autistic adolescents, screens, games, and online communities often carry even deeper significance. A video game may be more than just entertainment—it may be a structured world with clear rules that feels safer than unpredictable social interactions. Online platforms may be the first places where an autistic teen finds like‑minded friends who share their passions. But parents often feel caught between appreciation and alarm. Hours spent gaming can crowd out family time, homework, or sleep. Online risks, including cyberbullying or unsafe interactions, raise valid concerns. Parents may worry: “Is my child addicted to gaming? Or is this their way of coping and connecting?” This chapter explores how parents can understand their teen’s relationship with technology, set compassionate boundaries, and transform screens from a source of conflict into an opportunity for growth. Why Technology Holds Such Appeal for Autist...

Helping Parents Understand & Cope with Their Autistic Teenagers (Foundations + a 7-Day Starter Plan you can use tonight) Big Picture: What “autism in adolescence” actually looks like Autistic teenagers often have the same core profile as in childhood—differences in sensory processing, social communication, and cognitive flexibility—but puberty, new academic demands, and social complexity crank the intensity way up. What you see at home (shutdowns, meltdowns, “defiance,” school refusal, hours of gaming, refusal of hygiene, etc.) is often the nervous system saying “I’m overwhelmed,” not “I don’t care.” Key concepts to keep in mind: Nervous-system first, behavior second. Stress, prediction errors, and sensory load drive most “behavioral” moments. Monotropism. Many autistic teens focus deeply on a few interests. That focus is regulating—use it, don’t fight it. Alexithymia & interoceptive differences. Many teens struggle to identify internal states (e.g., “am I a...