“How do I set clear boundaries that I can enforce - and my child with high functioning autism will obey?” The key to setting effective boundaries is to involve the entire family in the process. Get everyone on the same page. This is accomplished by implementing a “family contract” in which the house rules - and the consequences for violating those rules - are clearly explained and written on an actual contract. In a family contract, parents agree to do certain things, for example: encourage the child to achieve in all areas of life hold the child accountable for the choices he makes, and ensure that he experiences privileges and unfortunate consequences that go with each choice listen, and not overreact or judge the child for things that don't make sense to her love the child for who she is make themselves available to the child whenever he or she needs them – even when they are “busy” never view the child as a failure, even when she makes mistakes provide a comforta