How can I explain Asperger’s to my child and her siblings?

Question

How can I explain Asperger’s to my child and her siblings?

Answer

Children with Asperger’s Syndrome are intelligent and inquisitive individuals. Their struggles are obvious to them, yet they may not be able to actually pinpoint the areas of weakness. If asked, kids with Asperger’s will tell you that they are different from their peers and siblings. The peers and siblings of children with Asperger’s also notice the differences. It can be difficult to live with and understand a child with Asperger’s. It can be tough for all involved.

You should be completely honest with your children about Asperger’s. The child who has Asperger’s needs to understand the condition in age-appropriate context. Your other children need to know about Asperger’s so that they will be able to support their sibling as much as possible.

Educate yourself on Asperger’s so you can share the details with your children. Contact your local Autism society chapter and ask for information on the condition and also about the events in your area that they sponsor. Ask about support group sessions and educational events for siblings.

Speak with the special education teachers at your children’s school about resources that can assist in explaining Asperger’s to your child and his siblings, as well as information that will help you discuss Asperger’s with your family.

You can find a lot of information on the Internet. The Autism Society and other Autism support organizations have websites chock-full of information and materials for families affected by Asperger’s. Other websites offer testimonials and products produced by individuals with Asperger’s, families affected by Asperger’s, and professionals trained to treat the challenges associated with Asperger’s.

Books and materials that will help you explain things to all of your children are available on the Internet. One such program is called “That’s What’s Different About Me! Helping Children Understand Autism Spectrum Disorders” by Heather McCracken.

This program is a puppet program that can be used to teach all children about kids with Asperger’s and what it is that makes them different. The DVD included showcases the puppet show, along with parent/teacher information and helpful tips. A program manual with instructions on implementing the program at home or at school is included. A children’s story and coloring book adapted from the puppet show rounds out the kit.

Your children will be more comfortable when they know exactly what having Asperger’s means. They will see that while there are challenges to overcome, there are also strengths associated with Asperger’s Syndrome.

The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide: A Complete
Resource Guide For Parents Who Have Children Diagnosed
With Aspergers Syndrome.