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Explaining "the Birds and the Bees" to Teens

"My son (high functioning) is 14. He knows he is different from other 'typical' teenagers, and he wants to know why. What do I say to him? Also, how would you start explaining sex and changes his body is going through?"

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5 comments:

Anonymous said...

This is very helpful information. Thank you for posting.

Anonymous said...

My daughter is 12 and wants to be "just like everyone else". We tell her that no one is exactly alike-we point out her strengths and tell her that she was "made special" because she is going to do special things with her life. We play upon the strengths and the "differences" we discuss how it makes her a stronger, better person who makes a huge difference and how those differences help her. I hope that makes sense.

Jokysu said...

We don't think of Asperger's as a disorder at our house. Our son is 13 and has known he has AS since 2nd grade. It is how is brain is built and it may be somewhat different than others - but it makes him who he is and we love all the parts of him. We explain how everyone has challenges in life and have to work through them regardless of what causes them. He is who he is - and if he didn't have Asperger's I cannot imagine what type of kid I would have. I love the boy I have as he is. As for the birds and the bees - We are open and honest - the only way to be - They can find information on their own if they just do a little searching on the internet - so you might as well be open and honest. Why hide it? It is a part of real life.

Anonymous said...

When my son was about 10 or 11 we were visiting a new therapist, and she asked him "have you ever heard of Aspergers?". I was so upset - we hadn't said anything to him because we didn't want him to feel labeled. But he surprised me by saying "Yes, and I think I might have it". He knew he was different, and had done some research. It's been a big relief to him to know there is a reason why he is the way he is.

Anonymous said...

My Aspergers son (now 13) was always questionning these things and I always gave him truthful, accurate answers - so much so that he actually ended up telling the other kids at school when they were all around 8 and no longer allowed to get changed for PE together, exactly why and what puberty was! His teacher says that he did it better than she could have. :) He knows all about it but cannot bear the thought of touching anyone that way - and kissing is disgusting as far as he concerns! He doesn't want to be like anyone else - he likes being him - he just wishes they would leave him alone.

My child has been rejected by his peers, ridiculed and bullied !!!

Social rejection has devastating effects in many areas of functioning. Because the Aspergers child tends to internalize how others treat him, rejection damages self-esteem and often causes anxiety and depression. As the child feels worse about himself and becomes more anxious and depressed – he performs worse, socially and intellectually.

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How to Prevent Meltdowns in Aspergers Children

Meltdowns are not a pretty sight. They are somewhat like overblown temper tantrums, but unlike tantrums, meltdowns can last anywhere from ten minutes to over an hour. When it starts, the Asperger's child is totally out-of-control. When it ends, both you and the Asperger’s child are totally exhausted. But... don’t breathe a sigh of relief yet. At the least provocation, for the remainder of that day -- and sometimes into the next - the meltdown can return in full force.

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Parenting Defiant Aspergers Teens

Although Aspergers is at the milder end of the autism spectrum, the challenges parents face when disciplining a teenager with Aspergers are more difficult than they would be with an average teen. Complicated by defiant behavior, the Aspergers teen is at risk for even greater difficulties on multiple levels – unless the parents’ disciplinary techniques are tailored to their child's special needs.

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Aspergers Children “Block-Out” Their Emotions

Parenting children with Aspergers and HFA can be a daunting task. In layman’s terms, Aspergers is a developmental disability that affects the way children develop and understand the world around them, and is directly linked to their senses and sensory processing. This means they often use certain behaviors to block out their emotions or response to pain.

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Older Teens and Young Adult Children With Aspergers Still Living At Home

Your older teenager or young “adult child” isn’t sure what to do, and he is asking you for money every few days. How do you cut the purse strings and teach him to be independent? Parents of teens with Aspergers face many problems that other parents do not. Time is running out for teaching their adolescent how to become an independent adult. As one mother put it, "There's so little time, yet so much left to do."

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Living with an Aspergers Spouse/Partner

Research reveals that the divorce rate for people with Aspergers is around 80%. Why so high!? The answer may be found in how the symptoms of Aspergers affect intimate relationships. People with Aspergers often find it difficult to understand others and express themselves. They may seem to lose interest in people over time, appear aloof, and are often mistaken as self-centered, vain individuals.

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Online Parent Coaching for Parents of Asperger's Children

If you’re the parent of a child with Aspergers or High-Functioning Autism, you know it can be a struggle from time to time. Your child may be experiencing: obsessive routines; problems coping in social situations; intense tantrums and meltdowns; over-sensitivity to sounds, tastes, smells and sights; preoccupation with one subject of interest; and being overwhelmed by even the smallest of changes.

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Parents, teachers, and the general public have a lot of misconceptions of Asperger's and High-Functioning Autism. Many myths abound, and the lack of knowledge is both disturbing and harmful to kids and teens who struggle with the disorder.

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Parenting Children and Teens with High-Functioning Autism

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Highly Effective Research-Based Parenting Strategies for Children with Asperger's and HFA

Become an expert in helping your child cope with his or her “out-of-control” emotions, inability to make and keep friends, stress, anger, thinking errors, and resistance to change.

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