“My high functioning autistic son continues to be bullied at school, but nobody there seems to take it seriously. His teach said that ‘he seems to start the arguments by annoying some of the other students.’ O.K. Fine. Maybe this is true, but that doesn’t justify bullying. How can I get the school to take this seriously?”
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My child has been rejected by his peers, ridiculed and bullied !!!
Social rejection has devastating effects in many areas of functioning. Because the ASD child tends to internalize how others treat him, rejection damages self-esteem and often causes anxiety and depression. As the child feels worse about himself and becomes more anxious and depressed – he performs worse, socially and intellectually.
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How to Prevent Meltdowns in Children on the Spectrum
Meltdowns are not a pretty sight. They are somewhat like overblown temper tantrums, but unlike tantrums, meltdowns can last anywhere from ten minutes to over an hour. When it starts, the Asperger's or HFA child is totally out-of-control. When it ends, both you and your child are totally exhausted. But... don’t breathe a sigh of relief yet. At the least provocation, for the remainder of that day -- and sometimes into the next - the meltdown can return in full force.
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Parenting Defiant Teens on the Spectrum
Although Aspergers [high-functioning autism] is at the milder end of the autism spectrum, the challenges parents face when disciplining a teenager on the spectrum are more difficult than they would be with an average teen. Complicated by defiant behavior, the teen is at risk for even greater difficulties on multiple levels – unless the parents’ disciplinary techniques are tailored to their child's special needs.
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Older Teens and Young Adult Children with ASD Still Living At Home
Your older teenager or young “adult child” isn’t sure what to do, and he is asking you for money every few days. How do you cut the purse strings and teach him to be independent? Parents of teens with ASD face many problems that other parents do not. Time is running out for teaching their adolescent how to become an independent adult. As one mother put it, "There's so little time, yet so much left to do."
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Parenting Children and Teens with High-Functioning Autism
Two traits often found in kids with High-Functioning Autism are “mind-blindness” (i.e., the inability to predict the beliefs and intentions of others) and “alexithymia” (i.e., the inability to identify and interpret emotional signals in others). These two traits reduce the youngster’s ability to empathize with peers. As a result, he or she may be perceived by adults and other children as selfish, insensitive and uncaring.
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Highly Effective Research-Based Parenting Strategies for Children with Asperger's and HFA
Become an expert in helping your child cope with his or her “out-of-control” emotions, inability to make and keep friends, stress, anger, thinking errors, and resistance to change.
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9 comments:
Sure it against the law to bully, but I live in Central VA and my son was bullied throughout high school and nothing was even done...even on the school bus. This area is full of redneck people with redneck kids who only like other gun-toting rednecks and don't have the slightest idea of what Aspergers is all about. Shame on this school system and these rednecks!
I live in Northern VA, and my 8 yr old son with Asperger's was the victim of bullying this past monday. Fortunately, the school has a zero-tolerance policy and suspended the boys, but still. What happens the next time? and the next time after that???
I agree with you Grace. same thing happened to me. And this time when he comes back form Easter recess. I will approach the principal this totally has to stop.
I'm 32 and STILL bullied for my Aspie tendencies. I had no luck in school and was often bullied just as much by teachers and school employees as I was by other students.
My son has been diagnosised with PTSD because of the bullying from two elementary schools in the same district. Now, there have been teachers bullying him.
How are we supposed to find lawyers? I've been looking for one. My son had to be operated on 3 times because of a bully incident. The school moved my son off the team and took away all field trips from him because he was "acting erratically" by calling things out in class that the other kids told him to. I even had an assistant principal tell me it was time to get a lawyer. There are no lawyers that help with this, not unless you can afford them.
It is a good idea to demand an anti-bullying clause in your youngster's Individual Education Plan (IEP) Please suggest the wording for an anti-bullying clause in the IEP.
We went through this last year with my son and I had to call the parents of the bullies and I threaten legal action. One of them had hit my son in front of other children and an adult. My youngest son told us what happened, the adult did not. I kindly informed the parents that if they didn't handle it and his child touched mine again I'm pressing charges. I told the school I would sue under the ADA as a violation of my child's civil rights. Amazingly, we never had another problem and magically they were able to find an aide to monitor the playground and cafeteria more closely.
We had a meeting after the 2nd incident of my son being held down and kicked in the stomach by other children. My son's teacher, the principal and a school psychologist, said, and I quote, "He asked for it." It's not only the kids, it's adults who should know better. Now that he's 14 & going into high school, I'm terrified.
He had an intervention education plan in place up until the end of this year. We had a meeting and against my better judgement, I was told that since he has a high IQ and tests well that there was no reason to keep it going in high school. I argued that he would get lost in the shuffle in a large high school. I know my son and this could really cripple any progress we have made. It took many years to undo the damage that occurred at "He Asked For It" Elementary School. I moved him to the school where I worked. He was blessed to have several teachers that worked to pull him out of his shell that he retreated into after such a bad experience.
Many people don't realize he has Asperger's. They just see him as annoying, moody or strange. Sometimes he tries too hard to be "normal". It's really a struggle for a child with Asperger's to put themselves out there. I know he would rather retreat and be by himself. Many times his attempts result in someone chastising him. So then, not only do you have a child that has to deal with the "Spectrum" disorder, you have a kid who gets depressed and turns further in on himself. I would too if someone told me I was rude or sounded stupid.
Kids like my son have a tendancy to totally shut down at times. Sudden change in every day can bring this about.
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