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How to Deal with Obsessions and Rituals in Children and Teens on the Autism Spectrum

Question Dear Mr. Hutten, I appreciate all the newsletters, and have come to think that you might be able to offer advice. My son (KW- I will use his initials) is 14, and although my husband prefers to call him "normal", for me, it’s a little more reasonable to say that he has AS (as was diagnosed). I'm around him more. I see the tendency to rock, and the need to hold something in his hand, etc. There are a couple of symptoms that he does not have like having "meltdowns" in public or extreme reaction to loud noise. But he does have enough symptoms that generally I think he may have it. Whether he does or not, the advice for AS is right on the nose for him. This is my dilemma - KW saw spit coming out of my mouth when I was speaking forcefully about his homework, and from that time has developed a sort of theory that whenever I talk I spit. From there, he started spitting in order to get rid of the germs that he thought went into his mouth. (I real

Articles in Alphabetical Order: 2021

  Articles in Alphabetical Order: 2021   o    A Message to Older Teens and Young Adults with ASD o    Articles in Alphabetical Order: 2020 o    ASD [Level 1]: 15 Simple Strategies for Parents of... o    Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD o    Can my son with ASD truly understand love? o    Children on the Autism Spectrum and Behavioral Pro... o    Educating Students with ASD [Level 1]: Comprehensi... o    Employment Support for Employees with Autism Level 1 o    How Anxiety May Affect Your Autistic Child in Adul... o    How the Traits of ASD May Affect Relationships in ... o    How to Avoid "Negative Reinforcement": Tips for Pa... o    How to Create a Sensory Safe Haven for Your Child o    How to Diffuse Meltdowns in a Child on the Autism ... o    How to Help Your Adult Child to Find Employment o    How to Teach Organizational Skills to Kids on the ... o    Is ASD Just a Different Way of Thinking? o    Issues that Females on the Autism Spect

Kids with ASD and Their Problems with Perfectionism

“I'd like to ask you about a very big problem for our autistic (high functioning) son - his perfectionism! Can you give me some advice on what to do about this issue, because I believe it is a major contributing factor to his never-ending anxiety, especially when doing his homework?” Although it may be hard to completely change a "special needs" youngster’s perfectionist nature, there are many things that parents can do to help their child find a better balance and not be so hard on himself. Please consider these suggestions: 1. The pressure to be perfect may stem from school (or other areas where perfectionism is exhibited) being the only place from where your son derives self-worth. Try to expand your son’s notion of his identity by finding activities for him to participate in that do not involve scoring or competition (i.e., activities that simply exist to feel good and have fun). 2. Regularly remind your son to “keep it simple” and “make it fun.”