Aspergers (high functioning autism) is a developmental disorder falling within the autistic spectrum affecting two-way social interaction, verbal and nonverbal communication and a reluctance to accept change, inflexibility of thought and to have all absorbing narrow areas of interest. Individuals are usually extremely good on rote memory skills (facts, figures, dates, times etc.) many excel in math and science. There is a range of severity of symptoms within the syndrome, the very mildly affected youngster often goes undiagnosed and may just appear odd or eccentric. While Aspergers is much more common than Autism it is still a rare condition and few people, including professionals, will know about it much less have experience of it. It seems to affect more boys than girls. In general terms they find making friends difficult, not understanding the subtle clues needed to do so. They often use language in a slightly odd way and take literal meanings from what is read or heard. They ...
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The big problem is that the parents still put his needs before his younger siblings which has lead to resentment and anger between others. So now in the middle of a pandemic, he wants to fly out and meet our newborn baby and stay ten days at his mom’s who has been helping out with the baby from time to time. My wife is still healing from giving birth and her moms help is appreciated, but with him being on a plane during the pandemic (and him being against masks) and staying with his mom for ten days, she’ll have to quarantine herself after he leaves. We asked him politely to reschedule and his mom even thinks he should reschedule, but she can never say no to him so she is Telling him to “do what his heart wants to do”. I told him
He can’t see the baby unless he is outside and wearing a mask and now everybody thinks we’re the jerks. This is a common move by both of his parents as they always put his selfish behaviors before the needs of his younger siblings. Usually it’s small Things like cleaning up his Mess or doing his errands or making everybody work around his schedule because he plays video games till 4am every night. But now it’s an actual health/safety related problem and they are still Putting his selfish behavior as a top priority. He has never had any friends and has poor social skills so I get that they feel bad for him and want to help him however they can, but I want to tell them that treating him Like a Baby forever probably harms him More than it helps him. Are there any articles, books, documentaries, or info on how to give tough love to adult ASD that I can research. I feel like the main problem is the parents, but they want to just sweep it under the rug and ignore it. I’d like to have some data that I can use to help us all make better decisions with him.