My ASD Child

I'm ashamed to admit that I can't stand living with my 20 yr (9-6) old son w aspergers. Everyone tells me to take him to homeless shelter, let him go. I m entitled to live a life. My son’s father has nothing to do w any of his children (narcissistic) unless he wants to hurt me. He tried to remove our son from IEP in 2007 while planning divorce (school called me)&ignored him for almost one year while favoring our daughter & keeping her from me& her brother. My ex saw him August 2010 and told him he doesn't have to listen to me when he's 18& there's nothing wrong with him, I just want to take care of him! Things got progressively worse & although psychiatrist, school helped some, it’s still like living in hell. Last summer, I moved my son to his own apt (not far from me) & he started community college. He also worked part time. I still checked on him, but things were getting better. This past march, my ex moved him out of his apt, left it for m