tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00My ASD ChildUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7021125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-77246401303169535152023-01-12T19:27:57.289-08:002023-01-12T19:27:57.289-08:00From working with autistic Children and adults, I ...From working with autistic Children and adults, I found this article very helpful. The behavior problems I see with several students of mine stem from zero discipline by the Parents. Watching a 35 year old have a tantrum and mistreat people without any consequences surprises me. <br />It’s as though the Parents have no moral compass. He’s placated never held a job and quite frankly the Parents are delusional to even suggest he will have a career. He cannot clean up for himself and spends most of his time on the computer in his messy room. Any time anyone makes an attempt to discipline him, they are thwarted by the parents. The program they have paid by Medicaid is a huge joke. <br />He can be physically and verbally abusive. <br />I believe this adult will eventually wind up in a mental institution and I can honestly state the parents are responsible. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-61539564920186907252023-01-12T18:50:02.959-08:002023-01-12T18:50:02.959-08:00My son is 16 non verbal severely autistic. Adhd an...My son is 16 non verbal severely autistic. Adhd and ptsd. I am a single mom he is in boarding school during the week but comes hone to me on the weekend. He gets so aggressive he has broken doors windows sinks cabinets dishes etc. I have to keep everything locked up for our safety. He kicks me punches me bites me pulls me over by pulling my hair. Tackles me to tge ground. I have tried everything my biggest problem is tgat I have no services I have tried to get help from all over and I'm still waiting for help. I have a feeling that help will come to late for us. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-48535829435188570402023-01-11T14:15:51.780-08:002023-01-11T14:15:51.780-08:00I would say it does exactly what you said. I'm...I would say it does exactly what you said. I'm 21 and been smoking weed since I was 13 14 and got diagnosed w aspergers at 17 however had pre cursors before such as anger management issues. I used weed recreational to fit in at first then to relieve my stress/anxiety/depression and now I'm basically dependent on it as go into a major low when run out. Also more likely to act out when sober such as breakdowns etcAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-67806549711283359112023-01-08T15:17:15.755-08:002023-01-08T15:17:15.755-08:00I ask him to go see a therapist. Unfortunately she...I ask him to go see a therapist. Unfortunately she is not trained in ASD and is not helping him in a way someone with ASD needs. She is telling him it's okay if he doesn't believe he has ASD and she isnt leaning towards it herself and in fact telling him he doesn't have to listen to me. I went to a session with him and he never looked at me or her. He just looked down at his lap 90 %. She believes he shy and probably thinks I've beaten him down as he thinks that. He was beaten down when I met him and I thought his ex wife did it. I now am getting that he starts with a perceptions before ome can be formed and it leans on the negative side. I have always tried to work it out so both us can be better and not ask him to do something that hes not comfortable with.. I know he has has limits. He put up so many road blocks. He questions my motive and then turns and blames me. She let him just say a statements and didn't ask him to explain more. He cleaver in his response, he's almost 60 and knows what to say to get by and hide the deeper issues. When she does probe a bit hes clever to get her to get to just leave it there and deflect her. She didn't realized he was just saying things I said before parroting me or something sounded like a good reponse. I went to 3 couples sessions and walked out crying because she wasn't seeing how lonely it is to be with a guy that has an underdeveloped social and emotional brain. She just thought I had usual couple communication problems and was like making a mountain out of a mole hill. Its isolation and emotional abuse without the intent. Is beyond your typical relationship problem when there's no reciprocity, he doesn't get where I'm coming from and can't relate to me or realize how what he says and does or do has a chain link effect. He can't see how he hurts me. I have tried to remind myself that he doesn't see it so he doesn't get me but I can only stuff it in and snuff it out so much when your emotional needs are ignored every day. I just want to be heard and try to be understood. He has been going to her for 7 months and is getting worse and more angry towards me. I can't bring any problems up. He get defensive and says don't say the words Autism or Aspergers when I haven't. He says I'm the only one that believers this then he goes out to his hobby shop or away to be alone and ignore me the whole day. Comes in and expects me to be in a good mood when I have essentially been told I'm crazy and left with issues he won't deal with or work on. I found his notes from a therapy session saying "my illnesses and pain complaints are just attention seeking, when I been in the ER I was faking it to get attention, I'm trying to control him with my emotions and crying wolf." All I want is to feel heard and worth his time to help me and the relationship . He doesn't talk about anything to work it out even if I don't bring up Aspergers. He says hes trying but only thinks about things but doesn't take any steps or my suggestions to help me be happier. Says every is fine as long as I don't make up problems. I know he can't relate to how I feel but I would atleast like him to acknowledge that I could have emotions and feelings that he doesn't. How can this be worked out if he can't see how his ASD does affect our relationship. Im so lost and confused. He has such good qualities and I've tried to love him over the tough ones for 9 years. I just realized it was ASD a1 1/2 years ago and it been actually worse. Im now more lonely and realize he really didn't do most of it intentionally. He can't be another way be another way because he can't see it and won't let there be possibly another way to help. I've stepped back for months but just get somone who is about him first and and I'm a bleep on his radar only to be noticed when he needs information from me or he needs attention. He doesn't want to hear about me or be interested in my life. Lonely and over my head and out of options I think just to live with it or leaveAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-30882820602089548172023-01-04T19:09:35.405-08:002023-01-04T19:09:35.405-08:00My 13 year old has recently been diagnosed with as...My 13 year old has recently been diagnosed with asd highly functioning and their behaviour is getting out of control . We are limiting the amount of time they get their phone as they can not cope with apps such as Snapchat however they are becoming more<br />Violent when their phone is removed. Has anyone advice or experienced this ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-77183687180017181592022-12-30T13:52:38.673-08:002022-12-30T13:52:38.673-08:00We have had great results with anger issues with R...We have had great results with anger issues with Risperdal Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-34166984239074455042022-12-30T04:43:40.447-08:002022-12-30T04:43:40.447-08:00I am interested to know what his eventual diagnosi...I am interested to know what his eventual diagnosis was as what you are describing sounds more like ADD or ADHD to meAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-68396173464410558582022-12-28T05:09:59.071-08:002022-12-28T05:09:59.071-08:00I am also working with my twelve year old in manag...I am also working with my twelve year old in managing his emotions. He has improved some but is still a work in progress.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-78706432449887135292022-12-22T18:02:17.468-08:002022-12-22T18:02:17.468-08:00Hey there - my name is Eugene and I’m 16 - I’m loo...Hey there - my name is Eugene and I’m 16 - I’m looking for a friend, gender doesn’t matter, as long as I have someone who understands my struggles and is a true friend - I am rlly serious about this as I had<br />‘friends’ who backstabbed me and lied in my face and masked their true self and left me in the dust and nvr talked to me again - so I automatically became wary of making new friends due to my past unhappy experiences - I am part of a group of friends but I don’t rlly feel a proper connection w them as they don’t have those struggles that I do, regarding my Asperger’s, ADHD/ADD, OCD, Anxiety, Depression, and mild stammer. I’ve nvr rlly had a girl show interest in me either, and I chatted to one in my yr who had a jerk asshole bf and our friendship ended pre badly and have nvr talked since - I’m certain I’ll be a virgin forever and that I’m an ugly nobody - girls have gossipped about me in the past, calling me ‘disgusting’ and ‘weird’. And also, most of the guys in my yr group at school make hitting on girls so ez, and I feel that any girl is out of my league coz of those boyz status socially. I feel I don’t belong and I feel different, and that no one understands me - if someone, boy or girl doesn’t matter, is interested in contacting me, I would rlly appreciate it - however I don’t want a person who acts like my friend and acts the opposite - if u rlly are interested and feel the same way or can relate to it in a similar way, feel free to send me an email so we can chat - my gmail is - gamergenie2022@gmail.com - looking forward to hearing from someoneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-34018834957197432802022-12-22T15:17:09.246-08:002022-12-22T15:17:09.246-08:00As are magic mushroomsAs are magic mushroomsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-1293420006763716302022-12-22T13:03:53.381-08:002022-12-22T13:03:53.381-08:00Mom of child with challenging son Mom of child with challenging son sharon Robinsonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-33688809102226611882022-12-22T13:01:48.447-08:002022-12-22T13:01:48.447-08:00I could cry I've found you both my son has epi...I could cry I've found you both my son has epilepsy autism challenging behaviour his 17 on boxing day yes was the first time he really assaulted me I love him so much so I couldn't get police his got a 2nd degree bun on hand if anyone touch it his so angry Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-40025569953244069252022-12-20T22:38:55.844-08:002022-12-20T22:38:55.844-08:00What is it if you read very early and above level,...What is it if you read very early and above level, but also are verbally precocious? Very deficient in math, social skills, motor skills beyond detailed artwork. Almost like the reading and art are splinter skills, but come with verbal. Serenstar75https://www.blogger.com/profile/16863324936459220771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-15119674380571554722022-12-17T22:43:51.594-08:002022-12-17T22:43:51.594-08:00I feel extremely similar to you, I have health iss...I feel extremely similar to you, I have health issues and at the moment, I cannot breath or think. My suspected autistic 8 year old has just lost his dad.. we were divorced and it was hit and miss over the years for contact as he didn't believe our son was on spectrum. He is, we just need the diagnosis, altough things are already going in to place as school are seeing his struggles now. I feel for my boy and I worry if I will be enough to help him live with autism. Ultravioletnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-8328506543082375352022-12-14T01:17:11.929-08:002022-12-14T01:17:11.929-08:00She may have an interest in ancient civilizations ...She may have an interest in ancient civilizations to find an old world in which she would feel at home.<br /><br />My interest in ancient Egyptian civilization seems to be an example of this one!cansunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-21464149832345971922022-12-08T02:21:06.865-08:002022-12-08T02:21:06.865-08:00I agree partially with this article but Autism is ...I agree partially with this article but Autism is on a spectrum hence each individual with the condition will have a different degree of abilities in their functioning. Most people with ASD have anxiety which is a challenge in itself as it makes navigating the world for them for more challenging. ASD is a disability thus cannot be overlooked whilst contemplating throwing our children into the Lion's den. Adults without disabilities end up Iving on the streets without support from their families. There isn't a "real world' lesson to be taught to someone that has autism by throwing them into it because they are not neurotypical and see the world differently. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-10412393030486523492022-12-07T04:30:57.492-08:002022-12-07T04:30:57.492-08:00so sorry about your son and his troubles at school...so sorry about your son and his troubles at school. You are not alone. He has an IEP and everything is planned out for him for the year. I've never heard of isolation before. That sounds cruel and he's not learning how to work through the problems. I worked in special Ed for 25 years. I would request a meeting with the principal, teachers, psychologist, one on one aide, if he has an aide. Know your rights and request free services which you are intitled to. Speak up for your rights and expect more than just putting him in isolation.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-64868783407477043642022-12-06T20:28:48.503-08:002022-12-06T20:28:48.503-08:00As an Aspie, I can tell you that the6th grade is w...As an Aspie, I can tell you that the6th grade is when I realized that I wasn't like everyone else and the literature also says that this self awareness usually hits at around age 11. So your son's change tallies with this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-54780269873194814182022-12-01T12:49:00.807-08:002022-12-01T12:49:00.807-08:00Me too.
Me too.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-22346468489272980882022-12-01T10:12:12.053-08:002022-12-01T10:12:12.053-08:00I’m an adult and I also had this problem when I wa...I’m an adult and I also had this problem when I was younger. I’m trying to find out why. I used to pee on the floor while my mom was around. I didn’t do it to be bad. It made me feel guilty and I knew it was wrong and I felt bad and sad for doing it. Something was happening in my life that was causing severe issues over the bathroom and toilet. Kids experience things in strange ways and they don’t always have the skills and the words to convey what they are experiencing to you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-1659421376035197522022-11-30T02:21:10.748-08:002022-11-30T02:21:10.748-08:00I have the same problem. No, these kids don’t fin...I have the same problem. No, these kids don’t find something to do. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-4964829134152655702022-11-28T17:12:26.148-08:002022-11-28T17:12:26.148-08:00I wish I knew you because I feel like I’m in your ...I wish I knew you because I feel like I’m in your exact situation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-23112690103830411742022-11-27T02:30:26.179-08:002022-11-27T02:30:26.179-08:00I have a 19 year old that lives at home he has ad...I have a 19 year old that lives at home he has add, non verbal learning disorder and to a high degree OCD . He’s very lazy and won’t work but even if he were to work he would spend all his money on cannabis. I believe it calms him and helps him cope and I’ve given him money for weed because the house becomes unlivable.<br />He just badgers for money, gets verbally abusive , I believe he’s 19 in a number only very immature me and his mother are trying to advise him but he won’t do anything to better his life . <br />I want him to attend a day program and get on medication but he won’t go . He vapes cannabis that gives him headaches and heartburn but continues and deals with discomfort. When he runs out of pot or money the constant badgering starts it’s relentless. He smokes uncontrollably <br />He doesn’t make healthy decisions but trying to get medical assisted decision making in order to help him is a nightmare in my state. The relationship between me and his mother is ruined and I just want to live alone. Although I love my son I just can’t take no more . Any suggestions very desperate and can’t find answers in Rhode Island.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-73484627346365128252022-11-27T01:25:44.092-08:002022-11-27T01:25:44.092-08:00My daughter has Autism with PDA profile she is onl...My daughter has Autism with PDA profile she is only 6 and started having shutdowns around school, she has been sent home many time and does look sick, very pale, fever and sleepiness often falls asleep in school, but once she is home within an hour or so she is back to herself, it’s really strange how she makes herself was poorly with stress and burn up, it’s a battle every Sunday because school the next day she literally shuts down Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-85996970729485151762022-11-26T19:34:24.812-08:002022-11-26T19:34:24.812-08:00Feel this… so hard—- peayingFeel this… so hard—- peayingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com