tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post9186110721299217241..comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00Comments on My ASD Child: Parenting Adult Children with AspergersUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-88434137501264592852012-09-26T06:16:55.879-07:002012-09-26T06:16:55.879-07:00I am searching for help for my college son, Dan. ...I am searching for help for my college son, Dan. He is a junior at Beacon College in Leesburg FL. Although Beacon is the only accredited 4 year college in the US for kids with learning disabilities, I'm not sure they are truly equipped to provide the necessary structure for my son. <br /> <br />Dan is loving his freedom away from home and I just found out is not attending some classes and not turning in work. The same pattern happens every Fall and then he scrambles to pull it off but not with stellar grades. He doesn't see the future and does not delay gratification. Most of his time is spend (as is evident on Facebook) watching movies and writing movie reviews. He is an excellent writer but doesn't make schoolwork a priority. <br /> <br />With only 3 semesters left of school, I am very concerned about his lack of motivation and understanding of his future. He has "escaped" the rules and nagging from home to a place that is not really holding him accountable in a way that emulates the real world of work.<br /> <br />Not sure what to do at this point. He is 22 years old, a good person but involved in pre-teen risky behavior. How do I help him 400 miles away from home?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-20590044391443396772011-03-15T06:50:21.384-07:002011-03-15T06:50:21.384-07:00We are at wits end at the moment.
Fyi: (We are cu...We are at wits end at the moment.<br /><br />Fyi: (We are currently living in Ukraine where he attended an international school. Our home country is Australia. We lived in Holland until Tom was 7).<br /><br /> <br /><br />Last year, Tom has been recruited for his basketball skills to come to a boarding school in the US to do his graduate year there and hope to receive a scholarship for a college in the States so he can play basketball. The year is nearly over and it doesn’t look like he will be receiving a scholarship for neither his academics, nor his basketball skills.<br /><br /> <br /><br />He needs to deal with the consequences and come home to Australia with us by the end of this schoolyear and study there.<br /><br /> <br /><br />Last week he arrived home for a 3 week holiday.<br /><br />This is what I want to share with you. Life has been hell since he came home, for us and his two brothers. All of a sudden because he has been living in a dorm, he doesn’t allow us to parent him anymore and wants to do all by himself.<br /><br /> <br /><br />He started smoking and using his pocket money to go to the mc donalds and go out instead of making healthy choices. He is not in the position to work because of boarding school and the country we live in and therefor living off our money for everything. He doesn’t have enough money left to go through the last 2 months of school and yet he uses his money wrongly. (we are also paying for his driving lessons he is taking in those 3 weeks because it is easier and cheaper than in Australia). <br /><br /> <br /><br />We cannot say anything because he is turning 18 next month and there for thinks we cannot tell him what to do anymore.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com