tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post7691051963874282808..comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00Comments on My ASD Child: Job Interview Skills for Young People with AspergersUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-85735511257220416272012-07-04T06:53:27.191-07:002012-07-04T06:53:27.191-07:00Asperger females should minimalise make-up and jew...Asperger females should minimalise make-up and jewelery and not wear anything too revealing?<br /><br />Uhh... you're kidding, right? Itchy make-up? Chafing jewelery? I'm 26 and it still takes a fight to the death for my mom to get me to wear a bra. Revealing clothing? Shoot me, please.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-40886043620398404802010-11-18T08:10:34.131-08:002010-11-18T08:10:34.131-08:00Dear Mark
I came across your site while trying to...Dear Mark<br /><br />I came across your site while trying to gather information that would enable us to help our baffling 20 year old son to help himself. I'll try to keep this as brief as possible but the key points are these. I've always known that my son had difficulties that other children weren't experiencing but I was never able to get any professional help through either the education system or the family doctor route. Unlike many autistic children he was never disruptive in class and always applied himself academically. Socially, he has always had extreme difficulty making friends and joining in and we moved him twice in his early school years because he was being bullied. All this led to extreme anxiety and self consciousness and at the age of 16 he had a full blown mental breakdown and ended up in a young person's psychiatric institution for 7 months. All the professionals seemed baffled as to what label to put on him although one of the nurses did bring up the possibility of Aspergers. This was never pursued by any of the senior staff. In the end we insisted on withdrawing him whether he had a specific diagnosis or not and they hurriedly came up with a diagnosis of bi-polar. For reasons too complex to enumerate here my husband and I think this is highly unlikely. He went back to college just after his 17th birthday while still in the throes of a severe depression, (we were assured by the professionals that this was the best thing for him) and came away with a clutch of disappointing exam results.<br /><br /> We have now moved to Scotland where he is under the care of another psychiatrist and another round of pointless chats with no practical and focussed strategies offered. A family friend told me bluntly that she thought our son had Aspergers and I subsequently did masses of research and it was like the lights all came on at once after the longest ever power cut. Unfortunately, because our son is now over the age of 18 there is no obligation on him to involve us in his care. We did however email the psychiatrist with our suspicions and received a categorical reply that our son did not have aspergers and that you could tell when someone had it because, "it's like a barn door slamming in your face. You can't miss it." This was on the basis of two half hour meetings with him and no questions to us as to why we were thinking this.<br /><br />So, my son has no diagnosis and we're very unsure as to whether we could get him to undertake one. He's very hostile to us and blames us for everything that's ever gone wrong in his life from not buying him all the electronic toys he asked for, (he thinks he would have had more friends), to making him too polite to fit in with his peers (!) More seriously he cannot forgive us for, as he sees it, 'imprisoning him in a mental hospital.' I feel that things are deteriorating rapidly on all fronts. The arguments and stress at home are escalating and I find myself simply avoiding all contact and barely communicating. He's settled for a very low skill call centre job because it avoids all need for contact with the public. His friends are drawn from a very limited and ,as far as I can tell, intellectually undemanding group. He's also embraced alcohol, smoking and junk food with a vengeance.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com