tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post6251844679591667783..comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00Comments on My ASD Child: Lying or Wishful Thinking: Which One Is Your Youngster Doing?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-64941289240430596592021-07-25T22:09:46.744-07:002021-07-25T22:09:46.744-07:00Sorry but a lying child is a lying child, ASD or o...Sorry but a lying child is a lying child, ASD or otherwise. Unless that child is currently experiencing a full-on psychotic break with reality, they know when they have (and have not) hit their brother. They are simply lying to protect themselves. <br /><br />How a parent reacts to that lie is the only variable. <br /><br />Most parents want their child to become an honorable member of society, which, liars are NOT. Sadly, most ASD parents are afraid to discipline an ASD child so, the lying never ends.<br /><br />Parents, you do your children no favors by failing to discipline liars. Others have mentioned the obvious consequence faced by undisciplined children: peer rejection. <br /><br />Do your job parents. D0 your lying children a favor and teach them to not lie. <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-73106372164227569412019-08-20T00:47:29.829-07:002019-08-20T00:47:29.829-07:00I have 2 one is extremely honest even if it gets t...I have 2 one is extremely honest even if it gets then in trouble. The other is 22 and is dangerous. It breaks me as they were the most wonderful kind hearted person and now scarey. Even if I show them the proof they still don't see it in their eyes and others now use them a d convince them of their lies to get them out of trouble and them into trouble. Sadly let down by services and did not ge the help they needed. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-13219479776079175922018-07-30T08:46:11.183-07:002018-07-30T08:46:11.183-07:00I have a 21 year old Aspie. In this youth he never...I have a 21 year old Aspie. In this youth he never lied but in the last several years he has taken up lying and making promises that he doesn’t keep almost like a hobby. I have read the article in this blog and most of the responses. I would disagree on not chastising for bad behaviour, such as lying, as that creates an environment where the Aspie knows he can get away with no real recourse for his/her actions and in fact may well foster a foundation for more lies. What the blog article misses entirely is that in REAL life, lying is not tolerated by the neurotypical world including future employers, friends or relationships. In my opinion, the SOONER an Aspie understands cause n effect, the sooner they will be able to be groomed for the REAL world. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07693920393956571558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-43797059116261249152016-12-27T09:42:31.691-08:002016-12-27T09:42:31.691-08:00I think I might be on the spectrum, and as a young...I think I might be on the spectrum, and as a youngster, I was prone to wishful thinking. There was one time when I told my teacher I had ten sisters, and that was only because I WANTED ten sisters. Now I'm pretty honest, but I don't really talk much, so I don't think it matters.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04939919257374210114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-53371875866043380602015-08-20T16:26:53.053-07:002015-08-20T16:26:53.053-07:00Very simple: Your son is not lying. You must try t...Very simple: Your son is not lying. You must try to see things from HIS perspective, and not your own. There is NOTHING you "know" about what your son perceives or in what way. Nothing at all. Remember that.<br />As in this example, your son may be the victim of multiple personality disorder, may be under some perceived threat you know nothing about, some form of compulsion.....you have NO IDEA what is actually going on.<br />I recommend you approach this situation with that in mind.<br />If you are fighting the urge to become defensive here, that is the most sure and certain indication that you need to learn what is and is not within your authority or purview. Your child, yes. But it is HIS world, vision, hearing, brain, etc.<br />Like it or not, you must admit that and work within the framework it provides.K80theSHADEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04566101988127432503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-71727670454420629542015-08-20T16:19:47.362-07:002015-08-20T16:19:47.362-07:00Very simple: Your son is not lying. You must try t...Very simple: Your son is not lying. You must try to see things from HIS perspective, and not your own. There is NOTHING you "know" about what your son perceives or in what way. Nothing at all. Remember that.K80theSHADEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04566101988127432503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-18959312918151482582015-08-20T12:30:46.076-07:002015-08-20T12:30:46.076-07:00This sounds like my son to a T. My question is how...This sounds like my son to a T. My question is how do I discipline him when I know he is lying. I will see him do something and he will swear he didn't do it, tears and all. But I know he did it. for example hitting his brother. <br />Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10689875897941629687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-88278498922847973432013-07-16T08:30:31.685-07:002013-07-16T08:30:31.685-07:00Born in 1981. Neither of my parents had ever heard...Born in 1981. Neither of my parents had ever heard of Aspergers. I was beaten often for lying. What I eventually discovered were all the subtle nuances of lying.<br />I grew up being told by every adult I met never to tell a lie...especially not to any of them. Yet every single one of those adults told lies before my eyes...sometimes in the very next sentence they spoke.<br />Eventually I found patterns in those lies. For someone whose first language was ROM BASIC(as opposed to a non-machine language), what for many is the simple task of posting to a blog somewhere is for me an incredibly involved, yet detached and compartmentalized process. I've had to memorize the shape of every word I know. Sometimes those shapes have colors if they are like numbers....So many times when I told people what I saw, I was treated like everyone knew I was just a liar. To this day, no one understands when I tell them I can fix things because I can <i>see</i> how they work. Even when I assure them this happens with the help of the eyes, but still works when they are closed. It's not <b>just</b> a visual thing.<br />I've heard many attempts to describe extra spacial dimensions....Tesseracts are interesting...but no one really could describe it in a way I could understand; or at least feel I could understand.<br />It is this same kind of problem describing in any way I know, how my world is assembled. I remember watching a movie once called, "Interview with a Vampire." (Based upon a MUCH better book) In it, there is a scene where the elder of two vampires is describing to the other, newly-turned, the experience of the night with "vampire eyes." Without the sinister predatory tinge, the Idea struck me well. "Same world=Different World" Altered: perception.<br />Anyway, all that was just to say it is not with regret for things past but acknowledgement of this page and gratitude for it, when I tell you; "Thanks" for posting it.<br />It is an occasional fun exercise to ponder what my life would have been like had more people understood me even a little. Not to say none did; there were some few.<br />Anyway: Thank you.K80theSHADEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04566101988127432503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-47364648082624097072012-02-12T09:05:41.741-08:002012-02-12T09:05:41.741-08:00My godson convinced himself that the Disney Electr...My godson convinced himself that the Disney Electrical Light Parade was coming down our street. He had the music ready on his laptop, had me stand in line...and he was really looking down the street like it was going to come! Usually when he is spinning a yarn for me I can give him a look and a smile and say "This is what you wish would happen..." but on this one I couldn't convince him that parade wasn't coming! He was recently diagnosed PDD-NOS at age 13. I think it is closer to Asperger's..does this sound like what you are talking about or is it a little beyond that?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-35986811480505051732012-02-09T20:58:23.869-08:002012-02-09T20:58:23.869-08:00My son is 17 and I have questioned for years about...My son is 17 and I have questioned for years about my son having autisim . My aunt was the first person who brought it to my attention that there could be a possibility of it . No matter how much I disipline my child he still does the samething over that he just got in trouble for . I have just been recently taking him to see a neuro physcologist in hopes of getting a correct diagnosis for him . I sat here and read your blog and it helps to know that I may be able to help my son get some kind of normal back in his life . Right now he is classified as a " lier " and " trouble maker " because no one understands him .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-16993150566920932842012-02-07T08:14:04.126-08:002012-02-07T08:14:04.126-08:00My son is 17 and always lies and fabricates storie...My son is 17 and always lies and fabricates stories. Yes this article does explain it but I can get him to stop.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-72269030703508331772012-02-07T07:28:08.816-08:002012-02-07T07:28:08.816-08:00I am just finding out my children might be autisti...I am just finding out my children might be autistic, but have speculated it for years now. My oldest doesn't lie much at all, and doesn't even like it when others do it. My daughter, who is the middle child lies all the time, and seems impervious that she's even doing it. Where when my youngest does it, he often knows he's doing it, but doesn't care.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-46630412181807698352012-02-07T07:28:00.362-08:002012-02-07T07:28:00.362-08:00my older two aspies are very straight forward trut...my older two aspies are very straight forward truth tellers, they say it as they see it... And if someone is hurt well they shouldnt be offended by the truth, my younger one tells me what i want to hear so he doesnt have to be in trouble, not exactly a lie, but not the whole truth...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-77444667384683751982012-02-07T07:27:51.973-08:002012-02-07T07:27:51.973-08:00His version of the truth often leaves out perspect...His version of the truth often leaves out perspective and all of the facts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-12730286918385981272012-02-06T18:06:54.960-08:002012-02-06T18:06:54.960-08:00This article answered so many nagging questions fo...This article answered so many nagging questions for me. It explains my almost 10-yr-old's behavior to a T. Thank you so much.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-79613144474698208392012-02-06T11:56:15.376-08:002012-02-06T11:56:15.376-08:00We have long had struggles with our son's (now...We have long had struggles with our son's (now 14) lying. He was recently diagnosed with Aspergers, and this article is really helpful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-50089744347635083422012-02-06T11:54:37.907-08:002012-02-06T11:54:37.907-08:00My son is 11 and does this all the time. I can tel...My son is 11 and does this all the time. I can tell the difference between lying and wishful thinking. It's something I struggle with from him. His peers don't understand him like I do and this is damaging relationships he could be forming. No one in our neighborhood wants to play with him because of this and his extreme reactions to things. It breaks my heart. I gently try to tell him but I don't want to make him feel self conscious. He'd rather play with the way younger kids, then he can be carefree.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-26981845885166571172012-02-06T11:54:24.491-08:002012-02-06T11:54:24.491-08:00My son is almost ten and never lies. He is brutall...My son is almost ten and never lies. He is brutally honest and does misinterpret situations though sometimes which could look like lying to someone who doesn't know him well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-37516554109738741482012-02-06T09:18:26.144-08:002012-02-06T09:18:26.144-08:00Thank you Thank you Thank you for this blog.Thank you Thank you Thank you for this blog.Truly Blessedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16413604425483982255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-15213263088720410812012-02-06T08:17:16.580-08:002012-02-06T08:17:16.580-08:00Vance is only 4......he doesnt lie.....but he will...Vance is only 4......he doesnt lie.....but he will tell you what you want to hear....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com