tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post4541171405631758485..comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00Comments on My ASD Child: Coping Skills for Aspergers and HFA Teens: 40 Tips for ParentsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-37078140349277282302016-09-26T22:04:30.251-07:002016-09-26T22:04:30.251-07:00I'm a teenage girl, and I was diagnosed at 8 w...I'm a teenage girl, and I was diagnosed at 8 with high functioning Aspergers. I've dealt with anxiety, mood disorders, self harm, 3 overdoses, over a dozen inpatient hospitizations, multiple therapies, counselors,and psychiatrists and over 20 medications. My favorite colors are black and rainbow. I love screamo, punk, rock, and alternative/emo music, it's one of my best coping skills. My mom was hesitant about my music at first but then she realized it helped me alot, now she listens to me talk endlessly about my favorite songs and bands and we listen to classic rock together. I still have bad days and meltdowns, I probably always will, just on a smaller scale hopefully. If your child is going through similar problems talk to them, you both want to control everything because it feels like you don't have any. You will have to learn to cope with that together. If they exhibit signs of self harm or threaten it make sharps (knives, accord, razors, etc) in accessible to them for some time or during meltdowns. Talk to your child's Dr, therapist, and psychiatrist about it, and make sure to include your child. Don't shame them for the behaviors it only makes it worse. I used to pretend nothing happened because I was ashamed and mad at myself for messing up again. When you feel your child is calm gently bring up the meltdown and concerning behaviour, if they become upset or agitated again redirect their them to something good like a special interest of theirs and help use their coping skills. If you feel your child can handle it continue the conversation after they're calmer, maybe talking about a different behavioral concern or treatment. If they become upset again stop the upsetting conversation and maybe try again some other time. If you're worried about their health, eating, body, etc talk with your child. Do not shame, guilt them, or force them,they might already have negative feelings about these things too. Talk with their doctors and therapist about these concerns and develop a plan (include your child.) Do some of these changes with your child encourage them positively. If you don't approve of your child's friends try to get to know them better. try to have an open mind, and see them through your child's eyes. People with aspergers can see the world differently. Again talk with your child's therapist/doctors. Don't be afraid to change treatments if you or your child feels they aren't beneficial. Untraditional treatments can help slot. I'm currently not on medication, though I do use essential oils, I go to counseling once month (after not going for over a year.) I also take karate and ride horses. these have probably helped meore than any counselor or medication ever has. I've developed my first real friendships through these activities, and gained many social and life skills. I'm now in a pretty good place with my aspergers and other issues. Also talk to your child's school (this can be a very stressful thing/ environment) if you or your child feels it is causing severe problems make changes. If the school isn't accommodating your child properly you might need to consider different options. If your child goes to public school you should discuss changing classes/teachers, getting an aid, special education, or changing schools/homeschooling. If they struggle socially consider smaller classes or smaller school. Talk to your child, their teachers and counselor about changes to workload , schedule, or school. There are many options with treatment and school.i be been homeschooled for about 4 years and it's helped me alot, I'm actually more social now. Love and support your child together you will find what works eventually. The road will be rocky and and crazy in places but you'll the destination together if you have patience and support.A little late to the conversationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06449791558848880330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-41671138184366035272014-11-28T02:23:54.491-08:002014-11-28T02:23:54.491-08:00Hello there,
I have so much empathy and devotion f...Hello there,<br />I have so much empathy and devotion for youths with Aspergus and Autism. I have a direct line of communication with them, as I have being finding out lately. I am a Psychotherapist but there is also something a very Spiritual connection with these youths that can often be missed or misperceived as being delirious. I feel the main areas that need addressing are Self Esteem, over whelming emotions and the power of positive thinking to help with these emotions, and most of all how to deal with the isolation. Nature, Play and Music are key factors in helping the youths connect with themselves. Diet is also so important as they are so sensitive to toxic foods. I am now over 40 yrs of age and I can now relate to feeling autistic when I was a child. My whole life has helped me to adjust, study, grow and blossom into somebody who can help support Autistic and Aspergus Youths. I am available for counselling and support and empowerment for these youths at my centre in Lucan. Communicaton is the key, to meet them where they are and to unconditionally accept them. 'Normal is just a setting on a dryer' There must be a stop put to the need for these youths to Conform to societies expectations of the norm. My emal ph. no. is 0851262639 if you would like to contact me or if I can be of any help to you. God Bless CarolineThe Autistic Whispererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00735841028550643047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-20177785123412262242013-03-12T07:40:25.956-07:002013-03-12T07:40:25.956-07:00Stacy and Jett...
y thoughts as a Therapist and As...Stacy and Jett...<br />y thoughts as a Therapist and Asperger's family member...<br /><br />Stacy,<br />I'm so sorry for the struggle your daughter is having. I know it is truly difficult to comprehend her feelings as they can be changed by hormones, depression, and any number of other reasons. As long as he is safe, I am assuming you were just adding the music and dress as part of her self expession (because those alone are a part of many teenager's style these days). <br />Unfortunately as a female, that recurring hormonal issue is going to remain.<br />As long as the serious depression, cutting, and suicidal thoughts happen, keep her mental health care team in place. Hang in there and know you are not alone.<br /><br />Jett,<br />You are correct about self expression, however, you have to look at the other issues. Cutting oneself and becoming suicidal are not self expression and need special help. Not everyone's story is the same. <br />As someone with Aspergers, I'm sure you know all too well that it depends where on the spectrum you land, what co-existing factors come into play, and how everything is affected by hormones and depression; even if you don't experience those factors. <br /><br />C. Morgan, M.S.W.Hissy_Fittshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00702418524365679617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-2818118808564534202012-05-11T11:59:27.442-07:002012-05-11T11:59:27.442-07:00Dear Stacy, as a 14 year old male with Aspergers, ...Dear Stacy, as a 14 year old male with Aspergers, you are an idiot.<br />Music is simply expression ("I never had the words to say, but I can quote them all") no matter the genre. <br />2 the fact that you stated things like 'emo' and 'screamo' shows nothing but bigoted ignorance. <br />Your child is coping via music, and non-verbal expression (I assume that you interpret that as visual [i.e. clothing] as well. <br />How about you back off? It just seems to me that you're over-controlling.Jetthttp://www.youtube.com/jettscythe13noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-73524971772407843132011-11-28T07:38:12.900-08:002011-11-28T07:38:12.900-08:00Hi , Everyone
My name is Stacy , I live in Calif...Hi , Everyone<br /> <br />My name is Stacy , I live in California and have a 14 year old daughter who just started Highschool. I had her diagnosed at age 8 . I was told she had Mild Aspergers , ADHD. She was always happy as child until she hit 6th grade . At this point she changed drastically she dressed all black, listening to screamo , emo music , I tried to control it she would have major meltdowns and this was without medication . She started cutting herself alot , got involved with social chat room guy wanted to set up meeting to meet her at the mall totally crazy stuff . I had to put her on medication now meltdowns are less but still has a lot of anxiety . I have to say I dont what the future holds for her but she is an A student and she cares about her grades but really likes the dark stuff the music she likes to be mischevious and test limits . I have her go to psychiatrist,pyschotherapy,social skills and she still gets crazy and wants to kill herself it depends on the time of the month she will scream and try to grab knives then in the morning wake up like everything is fine. I have noticed big changes after eating sugar looking into changing her diet for sure. I understand how hard it is to raise a child who seems to me most of the time never really happy .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-11089647094450103732011-09-27T21:34:33.754-07:002011-09-27T21:34:33.754-07:00I am performing a peculiar experiment. Instead of ...I am performing a peculiar experiment. Instead of trying to fit in(as I have in the best, with varying degrees of success), I am attempting a romantic relationship with a woman who is also an aspie. <br /><br />I wonder, what would happen, if there was a mass social meeting for aspies?<br /><br /><br />The best way to "coach" your son might just be to let him experience the awkwardness, and let it harden him. If you don't find his guts splattered on the wall, you're doing just fine.<br /><br />Learning to cope however, is faking it. Have you ever seen Showtime's Dexter? That's pretty much what it's like. Except without the homicidal urges.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-16952499532101729642011-09-01T13:05:34.003-07:002011-09-01T13:05:34.003-07:00HI, in my rural area, we are having a hard time fi...HI, in my rural area, we are having a hard time finding anyone who can help coach my son and myself in how to grow with Aspbergers. He is a very intelligent, socially clueless kid, who is both dreading and excited to go back to high school for his junior year. Watching his interractions at an informational night for National Honors Society candidates was so painful, as he blushed to even talk to people, stood off to the side of his ‘friends’..it was gut wrenching. He is sad he won’t even be considered, because of the Leadership criteria demanding that he be a sports, editorial or some other ‘infront, motivational ’ position…he could never do it.<br /><br /> <br /><br />We had tried a local Autusim ‘expert’..who was very specialized in small children, and totally inappropriate for his age. We also check in with a psychiatrist about an hour away for a yearly talk..but she says to follow with the local gp..for celexa prescription for depression and ocd sypmptoms. <br /><br /> <br /><br />He is a great thinker, deeply emotional..deep thinker..should be a philosopher! His biggest issue now is lack of motivation to even begin his AP coursework, which he has procrastinated with all summer, due next week. It is a pattern held over from last year. Still an A student, but crunches all night to get work done. Insomnia does not help..he will sleep the entire day away, and be up all night playing video games..honestly, he outlasts me..I work the entire day and can’t come home and roll him out of bed!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-69200567234309622432011-06-03T05:47:37.012-07:002011-06-03T05:47:37.012-07:00Everyone here: Listen. If your child has high func...Everyone here: Listen. If your child has high functioning Asperger's and is a perfectionist - Listen. Our community just experienced a very tragic event last week when a teen in our neighborhood took her life because she could not deal or cope with her struggle with Asperger's and the depression that went along with it! Please learn the warning signs and get help, talk to them, be with them let them know you care and love them up! My son is also Asperger's and it's a hard time...and I am scared as hell for him because the spill-over of that event has hit our community hard. There are other factors that made this situation intense also, like the way she chose to end her life and the clues on the internet and at sites which indicated her state of mind, which seem all too familiar to me and my husband as it relates to our son. I love my son so much but I'm scared at this point and don't want to put any restrictions on him at the present time. It's preservation!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-26335066789148047332011-05-06T11:08:13.962-07:002011-05-06T11:08:13.962-07:00Mark,
I should be able to do this, i'm a paren...Mark,<br />I should be able to do this, i'm a parent of now grown children, i used charts and rewards with my sons. I have successfully taught preschool, severely developementally challenged children,and years of swimming to alllllll ages. But i need concrete ideas to help me in dealing with my 87 year old parent, whom i care for daily, hence a lot of past baggage, who i sincerely believe meets most , if not all the Asperger criteria, with OCD tendencies thrown in. Can you suggest adult ideas for dealing with the constant criticalness, the obstinate behaviors, the fears, etc<br />I frequently wear picture cards of emotions around my neck to convey my moods,especially if i am in pain or sad for some reason. I correct and explain inappropriate comments and why they are such, for things that have always hurt my feelings and those of others. He denies his past experiences, though his current experiences indicate this and has for since i was a teenage ( now i am 55). It is still an emotionally draining situation and my only salvation is i do not come and care for him on weekends.<br /><br />[The clincher to all, is that he hired me years ago with a decent enough salary so he believes he is the all benevolent BOSS " KING"---( as he likes to be treated as such)and i should do everything he says, wants, desires because of this salary!]No friends, no one would stay for any duration of time. if i quit, his net worth is so great that this is a concern to myself and my silbiing that prospective others would take advantage of this..................<br /><br />thanks for your time and suggestions in advance<br />KarenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com