tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post4276299874103260275..comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00Comments on My ASD Child: Coping With Adult AspergersUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-38913562785743980852021-02-24T20:47:34.294-08:002021-02-24T20:47:34.294-08:00I need help. 43 y
.o.son lives with me. No social ...I need help. 43 y<br />.o.son lives with me. No social skills. Hoards, get ssa, anger, forgetfulness.the list goes on.Ophelia58!https://www.blogger.com/profile/04163812038956904833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-1412720651791130372021-02-04T13:23:06.336-08:002021-02-04T13:23:06.336-08:00I have Asperger's, but that does not entitle m...I have Asperger's, but that does not entitle me to be an asshole. Please, look after yourself and get someone in to care for him so this is not solely your responsibility. Blessings. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-75901959088525132552016-05-19T10:44:03.359-07:002016-05-19T10:44:03.359-07:00Your letter was very thought provoking, thank you ...Your letter was very thought provoking, thank you for sharing it with us. My 50 year old brother was recently diagnosed with Aspergers although my mum and I have suspected for some time that he was in that spectrum. As a younger sister it is hard to watch him not embracing his life, but your letter has helped me to appreciate life through his eyes more. In the absence of a wife dies having a younger sister around help ? I hope so, anyway. <br />LindsayLindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04576853202700199181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-26704408439770381702015-12-04T19:00:01.730-08:002015-12-04T19:00:01.730-08:00Hi and thank you. I have a 27 year old son who may...Hi and thank you. I have a 27 year old son who may be on the spectrum. I feel so responsible as a mum as I feel it must have been my fault. I don't know how to help him. He is a singer and performer but blows all auditions I am sure as they don't see who he will be in the show. Auditions are like interviews and often it is hard to see the real person. When he does shows he is amazing as he is so focussed on perfection but he has to get there. I only can try to tell him what to do but I can't be there for him. I am spending my life totally stressed about him as he is so loved. A girl left him after a 5 year live-in relationship and I don't think he will ever move on from that too. I just want him to live his dream(even in a small way) but not knowing the industry he is in or how to find opportunities for him to perform I am so lost. I feel so depressed and lost as I can't help my son.Spudatoes' Journeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13626948361142576280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-91285991415676307362015-10-09T00:31:40.639-07:002015-10-09T00:31:40.639-07:00Thank You for this. I am glad I found this. Everyt...Thank You for this. I am glad I found this. Everything happens for a reason. Finding info about what I have been diagnosed with as an adult is hard because not many people can understand what is truly going on and why. We make mistakes we question this and that on a different frequency then most. Thanks for this. EdogWolfArvakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07084917801211754532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-47330295716719573232013-01-02T20:35:23.425-08:002013-01-02T20:35:23.425-08:00Thank you so much. I especially appreciate the le...Thank you so much. I especially appreciate the letter. Our 22 year old daughter has just recently been diagnosed with Asbergers after years of trying to figure out what was "wrong". It never occurred to us that this was the issue at any time during her childhood or teen years. Now it makes so much sense looking back. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02158090818457790504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-29539334579307034232012-09-30T20:19:27.688-07:002012-09-30T20:19:27.688-07:00Thank u for the info my son is going to be twenty...Thank u for the info my son is going to be twenty an has aspergers we found out when he was fourteen Im trying to learn all I can its very hard for us because I dont know much about this and im his step mom and have him only partime Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-20748441132559837612012-09-07T02:54:36.840-07:002012-09-07T02:54:36.840-07:00I read every word like the story was my own - and ...I read every word like the story was my own - and I don't even believe I have AS - my partner and counsellor want me tested. I don't have the social issues, don't experience anger, dont drink, smoke ... and have a three very close and dear friends - but I do find the way others view the world quite frustrating. I now know how difficult I must be to live with - or must have been - I now live on my own after 29 years and three lovely children. I wonder if I could have benefited from a little more self awareness of my own 'strangeness' when I was younger.<br />I don't need a name for my behaviours, but I do wish I had some strategies to help me clarify why the world appears how it does to me - and that is not wrong, just different. <br />I think if I could get people to acknowledge that difference is OK, life would be somewhat easier.<br />I love how people with AS have shared their own suffering, because it seems to me, most of the compassion is reserved for the spouses - not for those living through it themselves. I have compassion for my spouse ... but I wouldn't mind some in return ... Anthonynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-19341710219973780082012-02-25T16:44:26.024-08:002012-02-25T16:44:26.024-08:00Thank you for sharing, the fact that you can do s...Thank you for sharing, the fact that you can do so is so good. I have been married for 27 years to someone who I now believe has aspergers - although for years I thought all the problems were my fault. Because he is disabled I also have to care for him 24/7. He is now quite old and bitterly resents the fact that he cannot do so many things and that he has to rely on me. Yet he attacks me verbally so often; and I find that my patience is far from inexhaustable and I am becoming like him - angry and frustrated. Now I fear he is showing signs of dementia too. He has always been one who has to be in charge and in control of any situation; and as he becomes less able to cope, and forgets things and makes mistakes he flies into rages. I try to remember it is not his fault, but that does not make things easier as I keep forgetting that I cannot be myself and natural, but have to watch everything I do and say. Sometimes all is well and I relax - and then I say something quite innocent and he is off again. My own health is suffering, but I cannot see a way to improve things.Veehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07479933964598487326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-33091875293001931872012-01-26T20:56:56.385-08:002012-01-26T20:56:56.385-08:00I am a 27 year old woman and believe I have Asperg...I am a 27 year old woman and believe I have Aspergers. Since being a child I have always had an extremely hard time socially. I hard a hard time making and keeping friends and to this day have no friends besides my husband who is my best friend.<br /><br />I have battled with depression, anxiety and substance abuse. I was only ever comfortable in social settings if I was drinking. <br /><br />I have always had a hard time being physically close to other people. I feel awkward, I feel like any attempt to have normal conversion is obviously forced and perceived as awkward. I always have a hard time reading people and cannot handle sarcasm. I can't read body language or facial expressions. My mind finds a way to twist the meaning of a smile. That sucks. Smiles are supposed to be universal. Compliments are hard for me to believe. I find them to be given out of pity or a joke to be laughed about by the parties present later.<br /><br />When I am at work, my husbands family's get togethers, graduate school, or anywhere other than home, I am constantly obsessed with my hygiene. Wondering if my breath stinks, if I have BO, clothes smell bad, if someone can smell my feet through my shoes and socks. I shower for a very long time. I brush my teeth, don't smoke, always chew gum or breath mints... It plays in my head any time anyone gets near me. <br /><br />I am sober, happily married, not on any kind of medication, and in graduate school for special education. I struggle with my battle everyday all day, but I have found peace and will not give up my fight. I am learning different methods of dealing with it, and have found comfort in putting a name to the symptoms. I needed that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-77926146179862807832011-11-30T15:36:49.459-08:002011-11-30T15:36:49.459-08:00I'm a mother of a 37 yr old son who I have rec...I'm a mother of a 37 yr old son who I have recently come to believe may have Aspergers. I feel the pain and hear it in him, and wonder how I might go about approaching him about Aspergers Syndrome and looking into getting help. I've read quite a bit online out of desperation to understand the disorder. I am so afraid of pushing him further into feelings of being different and alone. Would you be able to give me some guidance. Thank you for your letter which I found to be helpful and hopeful. BYAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-72219521876073790172010-10-24T09:09:24.994-07:002010-10-24T09:09:24.994-07:00Thank you so much for sharing so beautifully; I li...Thank you so much for sharing so beautifully; I live with an aspie and he sounds much like you...and he gives of himself through music and the computer as well. A "kind heart" and a smile helps others and hopefully - even if you don't feel it - you can learn to "see" it in the reaction of others.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-5426779080152401622010-10-19T20:39:50.890-07:002010-10-19T20:39:50.890-07:00Thanks for good stuffThanks for good stuffAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com