tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post2592488713096317186..comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00Comments on My ASD Child: Depression in Moms with ASD ChildrenUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-62708179127181299052012-09-09T13:49:41.782-07:002012-09-09T13:49:41.782-07:00To kick ass dad.... I am also pissed at the world...To kick ass dad.... I am also pissed at the world a lot. Mostly kids at school and "friends" parents not understanding. It hurts a lot to see people being mean to your child!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-45697641101296465692012-09-09T13:45:53.592-07:002012-09-09T13:45:53.592-07:00My biggest fear that causes much of my anxiety and...My biggest fear that causes much of my anxiety and sadness is what will happen to my daughter when I die. No one knows her like<br />I do. She has her Dad, but what happens when we are gone? I had her in my late 30's. Besides he would never have the understanding or patience with her that I do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-21052321320987285442012-02-22T01:56:06.639-08:002012-02-22T01:56:06.639-08:00Not all Dads hide in the "Man Cave"....u...Not all Dads hide in the "Man Cave"....uncool.....Im a single dad of an Autistic 11 year old son....his "mom" split with the diagnosis at age 2 havent seen or heard from her since...I spend more time being pissed at the world than depressed....but I am giving my everything to raise my kid the best I can....and if he lives with me forever so be it......NEVER SURRENDER!kick ass autism DADhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12080376696949132432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-53665853951288093592012-02-22T01:49:23.373-08:002012-02-22T01:49:23.373-08:00I am a single dad with an 11 year old autistic son...I am a single dad with an 11 year old autistic son....I never hide in the "Man Cave". My ex split with the diagnosis when my son was 3.....Enough of the man bashing....moms split also...so get your acts together and help your kids.kick ass autism DADhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12080376696949132432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-11720629378041799722012-01-31T13:32:22.412-08:002012-01-31T13:32:22.412-08:00Being the mother of an aspie kid gives me amazing ...Being the mother of an aspie kid gives me amazing joy. Being the mom of an aspie kid in public can be excruciating. People stare and feel the need to comment, often openly, when the grocery store is too much for him, or he melts down because his clothes are itching or his food is too hot. I get so frustrated with them commenting that he is spoiled or immature. That I am somehow less of a parent for not being able to control him, when I know in my heart that I am a mommy warrior and my kid is the most incredible person I know. Also as an aspie mom, its hard to shift from being hypervigillant and planning everything to trying to relax and blend in in the little bit of scheduled down time I manage. My child feels completely "normal" in his own world. I often times do not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-36448583895631747972012-01-17T07:18:03.548-08:002012-01-17T07:18:03.548-08:00Oh yes the dreaded phone call . . . Had those on a...Oh yes the dreaded phone call . . . Had those on an almost daily basis for 2 years until they decided to expel my son instead due to his behaviour which is because of his aspie's. The school and teachers were never really interested in trying to understand him. They wanted 'normal' kids who didnt take up time, need teacher aide time or special attention and kids who dont cause mounds of paper work etc. I complained to human rights who agreed my 8 y.o son was being discriminated against due to his condition, but they said the most they could do would be arrange mediation which the school refused. As the school could not be forced into anything human rights dropped it. My boy was off school for nearly 6 months and was with me 24/7 until we recently moved and he starts a new school in a few weeks so keeping fingers crossed things are better here. Ive been threatened with court by the education dept and I told them to bring it, to take me to court. I had plenty of people who would stand up and say he was let down by the system and his school. So far ive heard nothing more from them. Ive been a single parent to my boy all his life, we have no family support and little outside support, our social lives are non existent and its very stressful being his mum sometimes, but I wouldnt trade him for anything. I love my son and I will continue to fight for him, for his right to live in a normal society and to try and educate the ignorant that in the world of an aspie, there are no shades of grey. In their world everything is black and white, and if u really listen and watch them, sometimes they let u peek into their world where the rules are theirs and everything is as it should be to them. Treasure those rare moments and remember that even tho its hard, every now and then that rare glimpse is worth it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-82513825923141671472012-01-10T07:45:25.964-08:002012-01-10T07:45:25.964-08:00I think it depends on which person is the main car...I think it depends on which person is the main caregiver. Most of the time it IS the mother, (and from what I see in some other groups, the male goes into hibernation mode in a man cave, and mothers do not have that luxury) I am not sure why that is... but it seems to be the norm.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-54222548746113383262012-01-08T15:25:55.728-08:002012-01-08T15:25:55.728-08:00Thank you for what you do for families. Our oldest...Thank you for what you do for families. Our oldest son, 9 yr old, Jack was just recently diagnosed this past summer with Asperger's (it only took about 15 professionals of various specialties-- GI dr, behavior "specialist", 2 neurologists, psychologist -- all said too good of "eye contact" and social" --- to finally come to that conclusion). We weren't looking for a "diagnosis" we just needed more tools in our toolbag to help with his rages and rigid/infatatic behavior to the extent NOTHING helped.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-81210381876994616072012-01-08T08:12:55.892-08:002012-01-08T08:12:55.892-08:00Although I am typically a very happy person, I fin...Although I am typically a very happy person, I find that I have so much anxiety worrying about getting "the call" from the school that I have great difficulty enjoying my day until he gets home. So, I could see how the incidents would be higher for parents of ASD children!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-41074579619183834172012-01-08T08:12:42.771-08:002012-01-08T08:12:42.771-08:00I was thinking the same thing. Oh, the things I...I was thinking the same thing. Oh, the things I've been through-plenty self-inflicted but many from society at large. I have obsessed too much about food issues and my son's ASD, but I will say the couple of things that have helped me be nearly depression-free for several years are finding an excellent chiropractor/healer and eating more good fats in my diet--including saturated fats like whole-fat dairy products and avocadoes. Just admitting to myself that I needed someone else to help me feel better (my chiro. in this instance worked for me) has been a huge step for me. A good psycho-therapist or other type of healer would work too. I do wish we could find more respite care for our 14-year old, though!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-45202320877307231202012-01-08T08:12:31.804-08:002012-01-08T08:12:31.804-08:00No brainer here! what causes me the most depressio...No brainer here! what causes me the most depression and anxiety is the lack of community inclusion (sure we've come a long way baby and I am grateful for the gains we've made! ) AND there is so much more to be done! I don't see enough being done at schools or communities to practice compassion and inclusion - what becomes of my child when I die? who will embrace his quirkiness, see his strengths and love him for the man he is?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-35816275665933931322012-01-08T08:12:20.376-08:002012-01-08T08:12:20.376-08:00You must have written this about me :)You must have written this about me :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-43610604836549098672012-01-08T08:02:27.457-08:002012-01-08T08:02:27.457-08:00My son aged 13 was excluded from school for 2 days...My son aged 13 was excluded from school for 2 days and then after a meeting excluded for good. Since then he has been nasty to me , trying to hurt me, he has trashed the home a number of times and its ongoing. In the meantime he has been offered 1 hours tuition at his grandparents home, that started last Thursday, we got to that one but not the the next as despite trying everything he has not been going to bed till the early hours of the morning. (He has adhd/aspergers). Last night it came to a head i sat with him on a rare nice occasion to watch a film. As soon as it had ended he started to play up resulting in yet another trashed home and doing his best to hurt me.I couldnt take anymore and retaliated resulting in him seeing he didnt any longer have the control and then he broke down and admitted he has been gutted over losing his friends and that i should have fought for him to get back into school. That is not possible by the way as he was disrupting the class, being violent etc. What i am asking i guess is where can i go from here? Do you think counselling would help tho i feel he needs something immediate to take place.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com