tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post2319275050067795158..comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00Comments on My ASD Child: Poor Academic Performance & Behavioral Problems in Teens on the Autism SpectrumUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-56911011874403286772012-08-14T10:58:56.270-07:002012-08-14T10:58:56.270-07:00An IEP for school is a must. An IEP will determine...An IEP for school is a must. An IEP will determine what services the school offers your child according to their needs (OT, Speech, & other assistance). This is how we handle school & our 5 yr old ASD/OCD child: IEP & we're involved after the IEP is in place - ask for bi-weekly or monthly progress reports from the teachers, OT, Speech Therapists, etc. This will ensure your child's needs are met throughout the school year & not just the first few weeks of school. Meet w/all teachers & therapists to discuss specific sensitive issues that your child deals with (sounds, crowds, sudden changes, routines, etc.) This will help everyone involved know your child's specific melt-down detinators. Lastly, perform some simple therapies on your child before leaving for school... (back rubs, joint compressions, weighted vests, rolled in a tight blanket, etc.) do what your child loves & makes him/her feel good & relaxed. Each child is different & their preference may change as they get older, you'll have to adjust to their needs & preferences. We also see an OT (private) for 1 hr/week outside of school as the time allotted for OT in school is not sufficient for our son. Also, ask your OT about PCIT (Parent Child Interactive Therapy). It's made a huge positive impact with us & our son!! Good luck to all the kids this year!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-63861183569247686272012-03-09T11:17:17.798-08:002012-03-09T11:17:17.798-08:00I'm also a single working mom, with a son that...I'm also a single working mom, with a son that was diagnosed with Asperger's a couple of years ago. One of his teachers was great-- she had an extra desk (his office) that he could use when either he was being disruptive, or when he needed to get away from the bustle of the other students. However -- his other teachers were not nearly so creative. He started getting bullied. He started shutting down at school. I went through the IEP process with the school but they did not follow through with the accomidations they had agreed to. Most of the meetings with them were focused on how they did not like how I was as a parent. Being the only one in the room on my side was hard. I now have him in an online school which is going pretty good. They set up the curriculum so it isn't as much work as some home school programs. I can see what he has done and what he hasn't -- so no more of him playing his teachers and I off each other. I can also make him work on the areas that he is weak in, since as his mom I know what motivates him. And most importantly he likes the format. Do an IEP with the current school -- but if possible try to have someone come along with you (I wish I had had someone.) If you move to a different type of school the existing IEP will help them get his school year off to a good start.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-11823269877530788322012-02-19T07:00:24.627-08:002012-02-19T07:00:24.627-08:00...ahhh the battle with school. Find out what chan......ahhh the battle with school. Find out what changed and help him to accept it and make it his own. He may hate a change of seating or maybe they started working in groups. Call a meeting and lay down what is acceptable from the teachers and let them know what to expect from your child. My son was coming home stressed and started developing new tics. I was convinced it was the constant scrutiny and attention to his behavior. [his IEP had a behavior chart filled out every day, by every teacher]<br />I called a meeting to end the assessments [because over X-mas vacation we had managed to eliminate all of the tics]. We couldn't do away with the behavior charts because they were involved in his IEP, but I was able to convey to the teachers the importance of changing their approach to my son about them. Now he knows [because all of us are on the same page] that they are used for the grown ups so we can collect info in order to help the instructors to understand him, that they are not criticism and he can carry on being a good student with no worries about what the yellow sheet says.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-26831689298660794772012-02-16T04:15:24.357-08:002012-02-16T04:15:24.357-08:00Your situation has really been on my thoughts. I f...Your situation has really been on my thoughts. I feel for you.<br /><br />It occurred to me that you both need a break from the pressure. Take some time to just love on your child and not talk about schoolwork and homework. You can't get your child to "follow the rules" if you don't have a relationship first.Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12025222107584299929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-67092929391516019892012-02-15T07:22:45.548-08:002012-02-15T07:22:45.548-08:00Also, work with the child to realize that sometime...Also, work with the child to realize that sometimes things are not the way we like them, but we don't always get to choose. I am a big advocate for my 12 year old son when it comes to repititive assignments and homework overload on subjects he knows well, but I will take privileges away for not turning in homework that is due, not listening to the teacher, and also would do so if he was disrespectful. Living with AS may not be easy, but it also shouldn't be the crutch used to get away with bad behavior. I don't get to adapt my whole work life just because I don't want to do something. All kids should learn this message. Even if it isn't the fun message. On a positive note -work with your son to see if he just needs more challenging work, Look for GT classes not just the normally daily load. Have teachers adjust assignments to his interests. For our son early on was that he could read about trains and all writing could be about trains. The purpose wasn't the topic, but to get him to read and write. That helped alot. The kids who hated to write in 2nd grade is now in 7th and is working on a huge chapter book on his own.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-19832088198289820212012-02-15T05:05:27.892-08:002012-02-15T05:05:27.892-08:00My take on the situation is totally different. I h...My take on the situation is totally different. I have a 3rd grader with Aspergers and also very intelligent. My guess is that you have an additional diagnosis that needs to be addressed in the IEP--giftedness.<br /><br />Make sure the IEP team addresses things in the classroom in a positive way--give positive consequences. Negative consequences rarely work with Aspies. <br /><br />My child won't complete his schoolwork but aces his tests. My brother did the same thing (also has Aspergers). If that's the case for your son, have the teachers create a self-checklist where he records how many he completes out of the # total. Start by giving rewards for completing 50%. Then give rewards for completing 60% and so on.<br /><br />Email me at moonwaxing@att.net if you want more info about the self-checklist and about the reward system that we setup at home (because the school has yet to implement a reward system--I have called an IEP meeting!).Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12025222107584299929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-18087844419867000872012-02-14T23:22:01.511-08:002012-02-14T23:22:01.511-08:00Sadly, this is the same problem my son had from 1s...Sadly, this is the same problem my son had from 1st to 8th grade. He finally started getting appropriate support in 9th grade. He's in 10th grade now and is doing much better. We have many difficult days but we are working through them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-48285783073366686702012-02-14T10:44:31.501-08:002012-02-14T10:44:31.501-08:00You should talk to the teacher and first find out ...You should talk to the teacher and first find out what the problem is in the class room (maybe its the teacher)and take it from there .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-41745563372916954542012-02-14T10:44:22.804-08:002012-02-14T10:44:22.804-08:00My son is also 10, diagnosed at 7 with Aspergers p...My son is also 10, diagnosed at 7 with Aspergers plus ADHD, anxiety and OCD. My son hates school , but I have found he does ok as long as the teacher/team has a good understanding of why he reacts in certain ways. Maybe your son is not in the right class or even school for him...... All I can say is you need to be his biggest advocate. Don't accept something if you know it should be different.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-33180901916899640992012-02-14T10:44:14.268-08:002012-02-14T10:44:14.268-08:00I can't speak enough about how critical it is ...I can't speak enough about how critical it is to fight for every bit of support that will lead to success for your child. I have a 6 year old son with Asperger's . Even though I serve on my local school board. My wife and I still had to advocate hard for our son. The key was convincing the team that if we could address his needs early and if everyone understood his diagnosis and needs, then we could turn this into a win. I am happy to say my son has great support in school and our teamwork pays off at home as well. 99% of the time we have great days and that makes the 1% off days (because life happens) acceptable and tolerable. You CAN do this! You can create success for your child!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-75231743872803231832012-02-14T10:44:01.080-08:002012-02-14T10:44:01.080-08:00that is my daughter.. no issues in school but home...that is my daughter.. no issues in school but home, some days I just want to scream about that. If only we could divide up the behavior between home and school. I feel like she would get more help if they only saw half of what I do. :/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-49044652838431158672012-02-14T09:34:05.882-08:002012-02-14T09:34:05.882-08:00im not sure how long your child was suspended but ...im not sure how long your child was suspended but i do now that they are not allowed to suspend an child with special needs for no longer then 10 days at a time and not longer then 15 total days in a year during the time the are suspended they must sent the child to another school for schooling i was not aware of this til my friend was in college and taking a college course on special needs. i have a sister who has autism, where at school she would talk when she wasnt to be, get out of her set, and disrupt the class among other problems at home we would have melt down when thing didnt go the way they were to go or she didnt get what she needed. we had an IEP with the school putting together a plan for her that we followed at home and at school. this plan came with an award system, which she does very good with, we started out with the small things she needed to do and each month we would add more items to the list of things she had to do to get the reward. she now goes through a whole week of school with out lossing her mouth (which means no talking) her hand (which means keeping them to herself) her ears (which means she listens) and her eyes ( which means she is paying attention) and at home she rarely has a meltdown. she has got a routine down and that was she has to go with. now her rewards are just simple stuff that she likes to do like being picked up one day a week from school instead of riding the bus if she does good that week or geting special time with just her and mommy or going to the park if its nice. i would be more then happy to give you some other insights just email me at chefsissy2001@yahoo.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-60182828862043551412012-02-14T09:02:14.739-08:002012-02-14T09:02:14.739-08:00i feel like i'm reading about our own situatio...i feel like i'm reading about our own situation there. my son is 12 and has all issues mentioned. I've taken him out of school at the moment in the hope that i can get an IEP in place. it's very tough seeing bright young and intelligent kids shut down.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-44930630643984613782012-02-14T07:47:42.750-08:002012-02-14T07:47:42.750-08:00my son is 5 and has the same 3 diagnosis...plus oc...my son is 5 and has the same 3 diagnosis...plus ocd...he is the opposite, he will go to school and do his work but when it comes time to do his homework...we have issues..i really hope your son starts doing better....its hard i knowAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com