tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post1558002556916021300..comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00Comments on My ASD Child: Children on the Autism Spectrum and Video Game ObsessionsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-38938294941502793542016-05-14T14:34:15.336-07:002016-05-14T14:34:15.336-07:00I've dealt with this so long, I finally set ho...I've dealt with this so long, I finally set hours on my rooter for each electronic that accesses the Internet. I use Microsoft Family Safety to limit the number of hours he can use the computer he takes when he visits his father. This doesn't cover everything, but it has taught him that I mean business. Also, when homework backs up, hours shorten until specific items are completed. I tell him he is 13 and I won't always be around to be the rule enforcer. He might find that automatic tools will help him as an adult. <br />Multiple Me'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17630172464224920852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-83886724701609962292015-05-15T15:41:58.112-07:002015-05-15T15:41:58.112-07:00Be careful of the video games they play! My new st...Be careful of the video games they play! My new stepson who is now 14, was allowed to play the same games as his older brother ( who is 5 years older) in his old household. The older brother was allowed to play violent, Mature rated zombie death games ( I never allowed my own son to play M rated games till he was 17). The 10-12 year old aspie was allowed to watch and play these horrible games. What happened was this young aspie believed that zombies were real and would go up to people at school or scouts, and tell them the zombies were outside and were going to eat them. The child truly believed what he played on the games was real. I banned ALL games for even 14 and up in our new home period. It took a long time to get the understanding in him that these are games, and movies are not real either. Be careful if you have a second home, or after school place, or friends home your child goes to. A parent does not know what level of games other parents let their children play or even watch. He is 14 now and developed an obsession with murder war movies so we had to put a stop to that too.Lynettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10412364337879076109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-67519104849690571342012-08-31T08:45:18.472-07:002012-08-31T08:45:18.472-07:00It's funny, but I have the same problem with m...It's funny, but I have the same problem with my husband, who was diagnosed this year with Asperger's Syndrome and Nonverbal Learning Disorder (NLD slightly stronger). He likes to spend hours on the computer playing (mostly old) games like MegaMan, Star Wars, LOTR, Narnia... He had to shut down his Facebook account because he was spending too much time gaming on it and was spending money on the games behind my back. Thankfully he also likes drawing and music - though he also loves to watch the TV (DVDs/VHS tapes) which is a problem limiting. One of the things I have noticed about him is that he has difficulty exercising impulse control unless there are severe consequences for his not doing so. If you're having trouble with your child now, it's much harder when they're adults. Help them find a creative outlet for their interest in computers and games.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-13089243305573832692012-06-11T15:54:12.464-07:002012-06-11T15:54:12.464-07:00I think it's a waste of time to force your Asp...I think it's a waste of time to force your Asperger's Child to trade time outside with time on the computer ESPECIALLY if you're doing a ratio of 3:1 outside to computer time.<br /><br />You'd be much better off (in my biased opinion) trying to get him interested in web design, creating videos, drawing on the computer, etcetera.<br /><br />When I was young my parents didn't have a problem getting me to go outside. But we moved so much I kept having to remake friends, and if my friends were into gaming, I didn't care about the outside.<br /><br />As far as weight you address that with proper eating habits, not with arbitrarily raising exercise levels. He's not going to be getting a high paying job by going outside and playing, especially if you do move every few years, so you'd be much better off getting him interested in programming, or something else that will give him a heads up in the business world when they get older.<br /><br />Plus people are horrible. I don't make friends anymore because they all exploit, steal, and lie in order to get what they want and they're never there when I need help. All of my siblings (none of which seem to have any autistic traits) have friends who ruin their lives. My mom has friends who ruin her life. The only one whose life doesn't get ruined by friends, is my dad, whose quite wealthy (parents are divorced)<br /><br />So really, what are you teaching them by enticing them to go out and frolic that you expect them to benefit from later on in life.<br /><br />Then again my parents didn't know I had Asperger's they still may not know, so, take my advice with the inherent bias' I have.<br /><br />I just think that 3 hours on a computer can benefit them much more than 12 hours outside playing. They already have struggles with socializing. With the way society is going with cellphones, computers, tablets, and social networks, how would they really benefit. <br /><br />I spent a lot of time playing in the sun. Can't really come up with any benefits it had. Even though I'd play with friends and neighbors a lot as a child I ended up Obese because my parents didn't have a healthy diet and proportions. We're talking chunky baby falling asleep into a cake kind of stuff.<br /><br />So from someone with Asperger's I'd really like to know what the benefit really is, considering that the jobs are going to computer techs. Would you rather them LARP?Patrick M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14805787712017253197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-18907612529366796922012-06-11T15:45:35.492-07:002012-06-11T15:45:35.492-07:00I think it's a waste of time to force your Asp...I think it's a waste of time to force your Asperger's Child to trade time outside with time on the computer ESPECIALLY if you're doing a ratio of 3:1 outside to computer time.<br /><br />You'd be much better off (in my biased opinion) trying to get him interested in web design, creating videos, drawing on the computer, etcetera.<br /><br />When I was young my parents didn't have a problem getting me to go outside. But we moved so much I kept having to remake friends, and if my friends were into gaming, I didn't care about the outside.<br /><br />As far as weight you address that with proper eating habits, not with arbitrarily raising exercise levels. He's not going to be getting a high paying job by going outside and playing, especially if you do move every few years, so you'd be much better off getting him interested in programming, or something else that will give him a heads up in the business world when they get older.<br /><br />Plus people are horrible. I don't make friends anymore because they all exploit, steal, and lie in order to get what they want and they're never there when I need help. All of my siblings (none of which seem to have any autistic traits) have friends who ruin their lives. My mom has friends who ruin her life. The only one whose life doesn't get ruined by friends, is my dad, whose quite wealthy (parents are divorced)<br /><br />So really, what are you teaching them by enticing them to go out and frolic that you expect them to benefit from later on in life.<br /><br />Then again my parents didn't know I had Asperger's they still may not know, so, take my advice with the inherent bias' I have.<br /><br />I just think that 3 hours on a computer can benefit them much more than 12 hours outside playing. They already have struggles with socializing. With the way society is going with cellphones, computers, tablets, and social networks, how would they really benefit. <br /><br />I spent a lot of time playing in the sun. Can't really come up with any benefits it had. Even though I'd play with friends and neighbors a lot as a child I ended up Obese because my parents didn't have a healthy diet and proportions. We're talking chunky baby falling asleep into a cake kind of stuff.<br /><br />So from someone with Asperger's I'd really like to know what the benefit really is, considering that the jobs are going to computer techs. Would you rather them LARP?Patrick M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14805787712017253197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-23339254688081326742012-02-11T06:33:05.313-08:002012-02-11T06:33:05.313-08:00my son is 11yrs with a heart defect..add and just ...my son is 11yrs with a heart defect..add and just now aspergers. I am so depressed. And he video games and computer is his main activity because he cant play in sports or be outside during cold weather because of his heart condition. Now this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-76907543351599237032012-02-09T06:36:54.436-08:002012-02-09T06:36:54.436-08:00I can't relate to so many of these posts regar...I can't relate to so many of these posts regarding my 11 year old son. He would be perfectly happy to be on the computer or his games all day long and it definitely is a trigger for his anger sometimes because he doesn't want to be bothered by anything else. So nice to read we are not alone in this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-47590267184618827442012-02-08T16:38:39.576-08:002012-02-08T16:38:39.576-08:00We have a timer, when it goes off, so does the gam...We have a timer, when it goes off, so does the gameAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-81360899383983863272012-02-08T16:38:28.455-08:002012-02-08T16:38:28.455-08:00My little man is only 4 1/2, but this is him all o...My little man is only 4 1/2, but this is him all over! We try to limit TV & computor time, although it does calm him when hes not coping well as he can focus. Games make him agro already, gets too frustrated, even at other people playing them if they dont do it 'right'. We try to limit all screen time, & tend to use it as a reward. Needs coaxing to get outside, but loves his tramp & climbing equip & checking out nature.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-52069239372590863882012-02-08T16:38:08.450-08:002012-02-08T16:38:08.450-08:00remove the video games from the house, lure him ou...remove the video games from the house, lure him outside, Do soemthign with them not by yourself...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-21597158147475897102012-02-08T11:06:37.911-08:002012-02-08T11:06:37.911-08:00we limit the time everyday. and to boot he has to ...we limit the time everyday. and to boot he has to do his chores before getting on the computer. he may not want to do the homework or load the dishwasher or even pick up his toys but he will if we dont enter the password in the computer to let him have access. in some retrospect no kid wants to do anything but what interests them. might help to make it a RULE that its timed limit ect....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-73726769729083744502012-02-08T11:06:27.444-08:002012-02-08T11:06:27.444-08:00my son to a t,loves video games and computer,but b...my son to a t,loves video games and computer,but blue murder to get him off them,and goes mad on them,hes sixteen nevr wants to go out and in my face all day,except went he's in the gymn,is this games thing common wit aspiresAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-49076958988409655982012-02-08T11:06:16.091-08:002012-02-08T11:06:16.091-08:00My 11 year old son is the same way. We limit his c...My 11 year old son is the same way. We limit his computer and video game time.If he cant play games he will read or build legos. We have to force him to go outside and play. If he makes it ten minutes its a miracle! The only thing that will keep him outside is the promise of going to the pool in the summer. I wish I could find some kind of outdoor activity that he enjoys.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-45632332826356936562012-02-08T11:06:07.837-08:002012-02-08T11:06:07.837-08:00I sometimes wonder HOW Aspergian my guy really is....I sometimes wonder HOW Aspergian my guy really is. He LOVES to go outside, especially when the other kids are doing something else. Probably 2/3rds of the time, he goes to the basement. But at LEAST 1/3rd of the time, he's outdoors, even in very cold weather. Some of it may be missing our backwoods house when I was still married to his mom, but in general, I find the outdoors gives him peace.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-26727886064414815392012-02-08T11:05:59.008-08:002012-02-08T11:05:59.008-08:00Theres an easy answer to this Leah: take away the ...Theres an easy answer to this Leah: take away the ds and unplug the computer. A child his age needs the stimulation of being out and seeing things, he will get mad and upset but just let him throw his fit and ignore him while hes doing it, when the fit passes then ask him, "what would you like to go out and do today?" or get arts and crafts material kids at his age love to make things with there hands. Help him make art work for his room or decorate his own plates and cups. But make sure when he does get mad and throw fits you ignore it, alot of pediatricians will tell you if you dont acknowledge the fits they will stop throwing them over time cause the fits are just to get ur attention.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-83012094357163090112012-02-08T11:05:48.021-08:002012-02-08T11:05:48.021-08:00My 7 year old is exactly the same, although once h...My 7 year old is exactly the same, although once he's out he has a great time....its just a matter of convincing him to go out :-) I've made a rule that he can't play WII during the week (its called WII because it for the WII -kend :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-11623319463113020082012-02-08T11:05:39.998-08:002012-02-08T11:05:39.998-08:00My son is 11 and would love to play games and be o...My son is 11 and would love to play games and be on the computer all day too but I don't let him. He plays all weekend when he goes to his dad's and it turns his brain to mush. I suggest other things to do that are productive. Video games are a complete waste of time. He yells at them, gets so angry and worked up when he plays them. I don't understand how it could be enjoyable. I don't want to hear that or see that. Plus it can't be good for him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-17954536489517858142012-02-08T11:05:30.542-08:002012-02-08T11:05:30.542-08:00It's so nice and comforting to me to hear how ...It's so nice and comforting to me to hear how many others feel the same way as I do. It is so hard! My 11 yr. old son wants to be on the computer all the time. He researches toys that he likes to the extreme! Also , places he wants to go such as Disney, that he actually researches every park, knows that date we are going, which park will be first and do on. The thing is, we never discussed taking this trip. This is what happens when he gets on the computer. He becomes obsessed with things!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-68161995273960710622012-02-08T11:05:18.304-08:002012-02-08T11:05:18.304-08:00I can't wait to check back later...VERY bad da...I can't wait to check back later...VERY bad day today with our Aspie (12) and thankful he is at school so I have a break from the stress right now. This one hits home right now!!! ARGH...counting to ten and breathing a few million times while he is gone today!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-62997976269322343662012-02-08T11:05:07.727-08:002012-02-08T11:05:07.727-08:00I find that if you make him do something else, at ...I find that if you make him do something else, at first he won't want to, then he'll start doing the other activity and have fun and be glad he did that other thing. It's just a matter of getting him to start that other activity. If you can get him used to having fun when you tell him he has to do something else and he knows the video games will still be there waiting, he'll learn to put them down when you ask him to.<br />2 hours ago · Like · 2Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-38204514443881052692012-02-08T11:04:53.382-08:002012-02-08T11:04:53.382-08:00OMG! My son is dx'd Mod/severe ASD and THIS is...OMG! My son is dx'd Mod/severe ASD and THIS is soooo exactly him.<br />2 hours ago · LikeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-73842744423010709862012-02-08T11:04:42.627-08:002012-02-08T11:04:42.627-08:00I would withhold the video games and offer them as...I would withhold the video games and offer them as a reward for particpating in other activities. Playing video games tends to make my son angry if he can't complete a level. If he gets angry we make him turn it off immediately because he has to learn that it is a trigger for his meltdowns and the best thing to do is to walk away.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-60775345454259071642012-02-08T11:04:33.513-08:002012-02-08T11:04:33.513-08:00My son is pretty much the same way, it's the o...My son is pretty much the same way, it's the only thing he'd do if we let him (he's 11). So, instead we just limit the amount of time he's allowed to be on electronics. Only school work and Wii fit allowed on school days, and 2 hours per day on the others.<br /><br />He's taken to listening to audio books in his room while building legos. Not exactly the outdoor/activity thing I'd like, but at least it's not mindless!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-12049758776528546722012-02-08T11:04:24.374-08:002012-02-08T11:04:24.374-08:00I have a 16 year old and it's hard to pull him...I have a 16 year old and it's hard to pull him away from video time, but I've made a game out of chores he has to do (and on the stubborn days I give options, grounded or chores). He does sports (and loves them) and I tell him a week or two ahead of time if we are going to go to a play or a performance... sometimes he's reluctant, but I've talked about it so much that he goes and enjoys himself. On spontaneous days I just take him, reluctantly, and he may murmur for a while, but he ends up having a good time :O)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-60670974525744066412012-02-08T11:04:06.832-08:002012-02-08T11:04:06.832-08:00my six year old is mad on computers and would only...my six year old is mad on computers and would only do that if it was his choice...we have pictures of different things we want him to do and he gets to choose what order to do them in..helps a little..i think hes just gonna be interested in computer things though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com