The Mark Hutten Show

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  1. I am currently going through a situation with my son who is HFA. He is so smart and has a bright future. He is 23 years old. He was not liking to clean his room (it's atrocious), would not let me come in his room, he was having bad hygiene and body odor and this has been for years but he cannot take criticism or be told that he needs to correct something. Also, did not like to do chores. He has navigated his whole education path on his own. I think he tries to overachieve and then becomes overloaded/overwhelmed. About a week ago, he had a meltdown due to a rejection from Georgetown for the law school and the grad program. He became very despondent, projected on social media and Playstation Live and was being inappropriate. He was telling everyone we were racist and didn't understand his biracial (black/white) identity. I mean it was tough. I really am not doing well to help him. He left and didn't tell us where he was. His girlfriend is buying him a phone and taking control over him by not letting him talk to us. My daughter (age 29) and I met him across the street from the dorms and he had dinner with us. He seemed paranoid to be with us. He says he is checking into therapy. I told him I would come too. He has a lot of emotional distress right now and I don't know that his girlfriend really understands what or who she is dealing with. She babies him and buys him endless amounts of things. I am struggling because I failed to teach him some things as a single mother and now I fear that he may have a difficulty with basic life skills. I really tried but he just fought me. So now he is navigating for assistance saying he was kicked out of my home. He left and I didn't know where he was. Now he s acting and telling people I abused him, but I was there to support him when he was bullied for his what people said (particularly kids) as being "awkward" or "weird. He is a handsome kid and I just fear that he needs more guidance as an adult with HFA. I have had health challenges stemming from a fall so I have not been able to keep up with him. Before that, I was working as a social worker in a correctional facility, having to drive to Los Angeles or taking the train from our home 2 hours away. I have since left that job but due to my disability I am not working so I am trying to be supportive although very painful to watch him go through some questionable decisions he is making. I just don't know how to repair his distrust in me and his problems with his recent meltdown. What should I do?

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