ASD Kids & Behavioral Problems at School
Question: I have a 7 year old son who has yet to be diagnosed but, it is looking as if he has ASD. He is having major behavioural problems at school which include hitting other children, staff etc. He is an only child and although there are some behaviour issues at home, the main problem is when he is in a group situation like school. Has anyone else had this experience and if so what did you do?
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My asperger boy has become increasing violent this year. Tripping students, shoving has evolved to threatening a teacher, trying to stab a teacher with a pencil, to punching another student in the face.
It is a balancing act of maintaining an environment he can handle and coping with daners to myself and the other students.
For striking another student in the face, he recieved one day out of school, but is making that up on Saturday. That was his only punishment. For attempting to stab me, he got no discipling because he was unsuccessful.
I don't mean to be negative. His parents are some of the best I have ever dealt with and I will continue to work hard if for no other reason than helping them, but what about the safety of the other students?
Here's my issue. She is to correct them at home. So, I am to allow her to correct them at home. To me, this is wrong because she is supposed to receive help with math and language arts work. If she doesn't still understand what is asked of her to do, she won't be able to raise her grade. And it would be up to me to help her here at home. When she is supposed to have "help" at school.
Just wondering how you would handle this. She is in 5th-grade and are doing a team-taught system now instead of being pulled for resource.
I would probably request she be put back into resource, assuming then (and having it stipulated in writing) that she would get the 1-1 support that she is needing. The reason you ask is obviously (to us anyway,lol) that this is not working. You just have to repeat that phrase constantly at the meeting. They set up a model of something and so everyone does it - whether it works for them or not. Well, it will take a bit of pushing to get her into something outside of the model they have going. But you have to work at it since she is just going to keep going along, failing, if left where she is. Sending her home with the work for you to deal with is so lazy and wrong. She SHOULD be getting help with what she is not getting at school. You can support at home, but not actually teach the concepts. That shows how it isn't working.
I understand the position you are in and have done it a million times, it feels like! The school has a specific way of doing things and you will walk in and ask for something different because "the way it's always done" or "The way we do it here" is not working for your dd. Stick with it, push and make it change for her. They CAN provide what she needs, they just may say otherwise unless you make it happen. My kids have had everything from 1-1 tutoring during school hours to providing a different text book for the material because they weren't learning with the new-fangled way it was being taught. You just have to keep focusing on what it is she needs to succeed and push for that.
And one more thing - this idea that she can correct it at home does not change the fact that she faces failure every single day. Nobody will even consider that part of the equation! Seeing a D or F daily is NOT a good thing and just reinforces to her mind that she is stupid. She has to be taught where she is currently at and move forward from there to gain confidence and improve. So if she needs a complete 1-1 pull out from Math to start actually learning, then that's what it takes. You have to think, "How can she learn the material?" and request that, no matter what model they have set up for everyone else. Keep their focus on the fact that this is not working. And when they say, "But she can correct them..." ugh, try not to smack anyone. lol. But do let them know that this is not learning anything but failure. I sometimes have no faith in the system. ugh......
A.s. he has been suspended 3 x and one in school suspension. They saY no kid want to play w him ,that they complain about him. Now they tKe the words of kids and suspend him. His teacher said to Baker act him over locking .me out the house how far out there can u get as teacher. He is in inclusion class w 11 other students. She suspended him for scratching on the cement something he saw on the history channel.im pulling my hair out .