Aspergers/HFA Children & Anger Control Problems

“My 8-year-old son with AS (high functioning) gets extremely frustrated and angry at various times throughout the day. There doesn’t seem to be a whole lot of rhyme or reason to these outbursts. They are as unpredictable as the weather. Please help me understand what can be done to either curb his temper, or better yet, prevent this from occurring in the first place.”

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  1. My son is 8 and we have a terrible time with his anger and fits of "rage". He hits me on a daily basis. Sometimes his fits last an hour. We go see a therapist on a regular basis and he is also on medication. Seems like everyone's ideas and suggestions are great but NOTHING works. It's very hard on me.

  2. My son has ADHD and is almost 11. Has definite signs of Aspergers but was never dx- until now- finally the professionals are thinking he def has it. His anger is awful and the other day he got mad at a friend bc he beat him in a wii game- he crushed a can and scratched the child on the face. I am so upset by this. How do you get the violence form getting worse?

  3. Heather Stokes My 6yr old has extreme fits as well and my 9yr old more emotional breakdowns. What seems to set them off more than anything is processed foods and I can always tell what they have eaten from how extreme the bad behavior is. It seems that after a wk/end of allowing processed foods it takes 3 to 4 days of going through every emotion (anger, rage, crying then exhaustion) before they're back to normal again.

  4. My son is 5 years old, in kindergarten, and was diagnosed the end of
    May. Here is the problem: He is very abusive, both physically and
    mentally, to me. He says he hates me, says I'm mean, that he wishes
    someone would kill me, that I would leave and live somewhere else, among
    a list about a mile long. I also have scars where he has scratched and
    bit me. He has also charged me like a bull, and buried his head in my
    gut. The only form of punishment we can use is sending him to his room.
    When he wont go to has room, by saying no or lying on the floor, I have
    to physically drag him to his room. Then he flies into a rage and
    attacks me. I can't win. I am tired of walking on eggshells around him
    because my legs hurt. Does anyone have any ideas on how I can deal with
    him besides ignoring him when he is being abusive. It tears my heart in
    two every time he says he hates me or he wishes I was dead or gone.
    Please help.

  5. How does one begin to deal with violent play themes? My husband and I are at a total loss. We do not allow any violent themes in our home,. however when our 6 year old boy visits his bio mom she allows him to watch inappropriate themes and play accordingly. At this very moment there is nothing we can do legally,.. so how do you recommend we tackle his violent play in our home? Each time we remove the toys he is being inappropriate with his attacks turn to my husband and I,... all advice welcome ♥ Thank you

  6. My name is Sara and I have a 16 month old that hasnt been diagnosed yet. But for the past couple weeks I have noticed his anger getting so bad. Everytime I show him affection he accepts it for a few seconds then attacks my face with such a serious look on his face. And if I say no-no or ow. He becomes very angry and does it again and then throws his self down. No one can get their face anywhere near him or he will either hit you or grab you with his nails and try to rip your face off and gets mad because he cant. This makes me so upset I just want to love on him so badly and every time I think about it I just cry. I dont know what to do.