tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post771397343285461677..comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00Comments on My ASD Child: Mother "Hates" Her Autistic DaughterUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-52897079828671635162022-11-06T18:02:35.555-08:002022-11-06T18:02:35.555-08:00My daughter has pda and autism I do love her but I...My daughter has pda and autism I do love her but I often don't like her we clash in every way she doesn't live with me and my partner instead she lives with his mum and I he doesn't really say a lot or seem to notice where I struggle I wonder often if it's her autism or her upbringing that makes me dislike her at times my partners mum is also a person who I find extreamly frustrating his sister however I get on with very well she left home early and gets as frustrated with her mum as I do so I don't think it's just me my daughter is selfish rude argumentative and spoiled I also find her incredibly ungrateful and there's times I'd rather not have contact if I'm too sick to have her I do have thank f for that feelings now my son is autistic too he doesn't live here either I love seeing him i enjoy his company he's kind and tries to help with things does as hes told and he may not get everything right but compared to his half sibling he's an absolute joy for me so I often wonder is it the autism or is it her because of where and who she's lived with if it wasn't for my partner I hate to admit it but I'd honestly have walked away from her a long time ago I think I don't enjoy spending time with her I do love her but that because I gave birth to her I want to protect her but if it was another person my own age and not related to me I'd probably have knocked their teeth out if that makes sense Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-23518407300633293082022-08-10T09:04:37.516-07:002022-08-10T09:04:37.516-07:00I know how it feels, we have an Asperger's chi...I know how it feels, we have an Asperger's child, now 18 but emotionally immature for her age although very intelligent. We tried to help as much as we could and while not being perfect parents we still love our child. However, it is hard to accept that she may not be able to appreciate our care and our help, or fully appreciate it maybe ever. She lives at her uncle's house now, she wanted out, but it's too soon to know if it will do her good. She still lives on someone's else dime and not many responsibilities but they offered to give us a break from the stress. we'll see how it goes and it is what it is. The best way to cope for me is to "love from distance", meaning I told her I care, and helping her a bit (just basics, she'd have to work for extras) while pushing for accountability and hopefully one day she'll realize some things. I just had to lower my expectations and I feel a lot better about the situations. I used to have headaches and always stress from the issue but I learned to accept and it's a lot better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-89864042232834611632022-05-23T05:24:20.401-07:002022-05-23T05:24:20.401-07:00I do the same. I hate him. I wish i would die as s...I do the same. I hate him. I wish i would die as soon as possible. Leaving with him is a hell better to die . I hate myself Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-91197698622191311612015-12-22T13:32:53.407-08:002015-12-22T13:32:53.407-08:00You've obviouzly never been at the receiving e...You've obviouzly never been at the receiving end of their coldness.<br />Pammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07406597822329025597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-70624456234140408392015-12-22T13:30:37.814-08:002015-12-22T13:30:37.814-08:00My daughtr is now 26 and it has torn me apart. She...My daughtr is now 26 and it has torn me apart. She is just like her biogical father who abused me. So .any times I've been hurt by her ut keep giving because she's my daughter. I ha e so .any heakth problems now: it's killing me. She was diagnosed with Aspergers at age 15.<br /><br />Pammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07406597822329025597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-37813205444275851122015-12-16T21:01:16.508-08:002015-12-16T21:01:16.508-08:00Nana, what an ignorant thing to say! Asperger'...Nana, what an ignorant thing to say! Asperger's is not necessarily a hateful thing; if there's anything hateful out there, then that's this mother and ableism in general. If you don't want an autistic child or if you only want to have a kid who is not autistic/disabled, then DO NOT GET ONE! Just give them up for adoption, let them get adopted by someone why really cares and who also actually deserves to be a parent and, meanwhile, put yourself into therapy. Your ignorance is definitely showing and I bet you donate to (or at the very least, support) Auti$m $peak$. Oh, and speaking of the cure, you only "cure" autistic folks by killing them. Cold hard fact. We don't need nor want to be cured; we just want to be accepted for who we are. Again, I hope you don't have kids, especially if you cannot find it in your heart to commit to loving them unconditionally, because you're just going to make a lousy parent. One more thing, children, autistic or not, are NOT extensions of yourselves; they're their own individual persons like everyone else. Having an autistic child is NOT God's punishment from any of your sins and you think otherwise, then you're a monster!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12042062209162435964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-64042322049181502652013-12-01T16:42:46.185-08:002013-12-01T16:42:46.185-08:00I cannot dare not leave the comment that is in my ...I cannot dare not leave the comment that is in my heart for fear someone in the family would read this. Aspergers is a TERRIBLE thing - a hateful, hurtful thing, something with NO cure. An loving a child with aspergers is a dead end. That child may HATE YOU with all his/her being and not know why, even though you bent over backwards to cuddle, coddle, educate and nurture. <br /><br />Being threatened by the child with bodily harm- is that better or worse than the child threatening suicide? <br /><br />There are NO answers, NO cures, NO reason as to why so many children has this terrible terrible affliction. <br /><br />Nana paladinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09597588427477744449noreply@blogger.com