tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post7614398495740321722..comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00Comments on My ASD Child: Avoiding Meltdowns and Tantrums While Shopping: Tips for Parents of Kids on the Autism SpectrumUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-20031775625938512232017-06-04T13:07:19.890-07:002017-06-04T13:07:19.890-07:00Hi, I have an 8 year old boy diagnosed with Asperg...Hi, I have an 8 year old boy diagnosed with Aspergers and ADHD. I spent a lot of years yelling at him to listen to me and stop being what I thought was so defiant. It never worked and it made him see me as a scary person who he could not trust. I have learned a better way which is acceptance, compromise, negotiation and nurturing. Their brains are wired differently and the discipline that typical developing kids may respond well too, will not work on Aspie kids. They also have difficulties with handling their emotions especially anger so hitting them is modeling the inappropriate way to handle anger and frustration. We still have many meltdowns and tantrums but our relationship has grown a lot stronger! Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03578134724479347841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-20506140647505254982011-11-28T07:40:53.877-08:002011-11-28T07:40:53.877-08:00I am happy I found this sight. It makes me feel go...I am happy I found this sight. It makes me feel good to know that I am not alone. I have a question that o Pray I will get honest responses from it. I have 2 children a daughter 12 & son 13. My daughter's diagnosis is borderline ADHD & Aspergers, where my son's is moderate to severe Aspergers & ADHD. My question is am I wrong for spanking them if after talking to them several times and they are still not doing what they are told or they are yelling at me and/or their Dad? I do not care to spank them until they push me to the limit and I am embaressed for even asking, but I am at my witsend and could use some advice on how to handle the disobedients and back talking in any other way. Thank you for any input.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-52865676467374473572011-11-27T11:06:36.719-08:002011-11-27T11:06:36.719-08:00I could cry out of happiness that I found this gro...I could cry out of happiness that I found this group. My son isn't officially diagnosed but have been suspecting it for awhile... His guys if rage lately convince me even more. At his bday party today my friend who has a daughter with Aspergers aasutee me my gut feeling is right. Later on I told my grandma what she said and she said my sister said the same thing. I'm new at this and a single parent..I'm very scared at how I'm going to do this alone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-54436575730480723352011-11-26T10:19:54.760-08:002011-11-26T10:19:54.760-08:00we are careful when we go out in public but someho...we are careful when we go out in public but somehow somewhere that day there will be some kind of problem. i ignore the looks what gets me is when someone comes up and offers advice like " i would just spank his but" and other parenting info when they have no clue as to what is happening. we have gotten good at the shopping we have a little one on the spectrum and my oldest who has aspergers and we always shop with two of us if we have more than one kiddo... makes it easier for one of us to duck out to the car for a calm down period if needed. my oldest does better but my youngest usually has to have a time out to calm down.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-77753140018154563912011-11-26T07:46:04.381-08:002011-11-26T07:46:04.381-08:00hi to all www.myaspergerschild.comers this is ...hi to all www.myaspergerschild.comers this is my first post and thought i would say hi - <br /> thank yous speak soon <br /> garry mooreAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-69549982008260769942011-11-25T12:48:03.692-08:002011-11-25T12:48:03.692-08:00Good reminders, but it also important to know that...Good reminders, but it also important to know that maybe the best strategy is to go shopping without the child. For now, while our son is small, we made a promise to our family that the default is that we won't shop with him. It is too much for him, especially with his sensory concerns. I'd rather see him succeed than set him up for another failure.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-34901620276039241222011-11-25T12:47:09.675-08:002011-11-25T12:47:09.675-08:00yes I do love it when people pretend they're n...yes I do love it when people pretend they're not looking but they are. Sometimes it annoys me but then people judge before even knowing someones circumstances.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-83344462130377624902011-11-25T12:24:39.003-08:002011-11-25T12:24:39.003-08:00My aspie used to go with me when I shopped at thri...My aspie used to go with me when I shopped at thrift stores for costumes for plays that I was working on. We would spend literally hours shopping. He would settle into the cart, make himself a nest and find something that entertained him. Once when we were checking out he announced the number of ceiling tiles in the building... he had been counting while I was shopping. And he still - at 17 - still breaks into a cold sweat if we have to go shoe shopping. HE HATES it!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16177522637630437113noreply@blogger.com