tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post6422358521608669806..comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00Comments on My ASD Child: The Walmart Woes: Help for Over-Stimulated Kids on the Autism SpectrumUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-59932689282513711322017-01-28T20:36:42.073-08:002017-01-28T20:36:42.073-08:00I'm in desperate need of some advice. My 24 ye...I'm in desperate need of some advice. My 24 year old step son recently moved back home for umpteenth time. He moved out because he thought he was smarter than us. Didn't speak to us for three or four months and then gets kicked out of his friends place and is forced to come back. Cries and says it'll be better but NOTHING has changed and I'm going crazy. He can't do even the simplest tasks but is always quick to be a smart mouth when you call him out on something. He's totally disrespectful to me and my 16 year old son. My husband won't say anything because he says he won't understand. I'm having a very hard time having him back. It's such simple things. I cleaned up His mess on the stove from several days ago this morning and tonight I go into the kitchen and he made a HUGE mess again. Gets mad at me when I say something to him. Can't abide by rules. How can I keep from going crazy???? I'm at a total loss. I can't take care of him for the rest of my life. I love my husband but he makes me nuts. Jenni B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14445946969344825328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-46062895337347440082012-02-29T13:39:57.212-08:002012-02-29T13:39:57.212-08:00Even for the quickest trip to any store I have to ...Even for the quickest trip to any store I have to plan for all my six year old's inevitables. He will get tired/ bored. He will want to run around and acream. He will get mad when I say no to something. He will throw a fit for no apparent reason sometimes. I pack him a portable "Camp" in a backpack we take everywhere. I bring another adult always so I can put him in one basket with his camp set up inside and someone else can push the purchases. I bring snacks, one toy (which he picks),drawing paper and pens on a clipboard and whatever else I can do to keep him busy. For Department stores or Walmart I bring a blanket to put over the top of the basket. He likes this because it makes the basket his secret hideout and he can hide or pop out and scare me. I like it beacause he doesn't pay attention the store so I can avoid the "Buy Me That Meltdown".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-68218688429933098752012-02-24T18:31:06.536-08:002012-02-24T18:31:06.536-08:00My son is 5 and was diagnosed with Aspergers, O.D....My son is 5 and was diagnosed with Aspergers, O.D.D. and severe ADHD the Aspergers was the most recent diagnosis (January). I have dreaded going to the store for a "quick" trip even because he is all over the place. would love to find him something that can withstand his amazing ability to destroy everything in his path to keep him preoccupied. I have a love for anything educational Please helpKarennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-25011043405396448152012-02-21T09:08:47.720-08:002012-02-21T09:08:47.720-08:00Dear Mr Hutten
I forward your newsletters on to ...Dear Mr Hutten<br /> <br />I forward your newsletters on to parents in two family support groups in the North of England - Tourettes Action North East (for families affected by Tourette Syndrome and associated disorders), and also Forever Families Northumberland (for adoptive families - for many of whom disorders of attachment are a significant difficulty). Our parents really appreciate the advice sheets we have been receiving for the last eighteen months or so, and I have just signed up again with you. Many, many thanks for all your help.<br /> <br />With best wishes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-18195656120041404852012-02-20T15:27:51.588-08:002012-02-20T15:27:51.588-08:00we found with ours if he takes his music on his cd...we found with ours if he takes his music on his cdplayer and keeps the headphones on it does not bother him :PAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-69943335343490896722012-02-20T12:18:47.709-08:002012-02-20T12:18:47.709-08:00I agree... Nintendo DS was great for us and now th...I agree... Nintendo DS was great for us and now that my Aspie is 17 and has a cellphone, he's happy if he has a distraction. Back when mine was elementary school age I worked as a costumer for local theatres to supplement my income. This meant A LOT of shopping, usually in thrift stores. I found that if I included him in the process, "we can't stop shopping until we find a purple blouse in size 8" he did much better. Once, after spending over an hour in one particular thrift store he announced to me the number of ceiling tiles that were in the shop. I have no idea if he was right but he had spent the entire time laying in the back of my shopping cart (he was a tiny boy) staring at the ceiling so I bet he was right! We still go grocery shopping in the wee early morning hours so that there are no crowds. (I need his help lifting because of a bad back). I still have to limit our shopping trips to whatever I've promised ("today we're getting groceries and then going to the pharmacy") And I have to include some type of incentive for him. He still, bless his heart, breaks out in a cold sweat if I mention going to DSW (the shoe warehouse). I do a lot of shopping online and that spares him.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16177522637630437113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-10955357439752423182012-02-20T11:52:15.001-08:002012-02-20T11:52:15.001-08:00I have an 11 year old and she still melts down in ...I have an 11 year old and she still melts down in stores and malls no matter what interventions or stories were used. This is good advice because when it cones down to it there will be a melt down at some point.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-48883433634981006012012-02-20T11:51:54.650-08:002012-02-20T11:51:54.650-08:00My son is 5 and I find the more I bring him to the...My son is 5 and I find the more I bring him to these places,the better he does. We keep our visits short and go when it is not busy,where possible. We also find the social learning stories helpful!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-30171499885999391852012-02-20T11:51:23.607-08:002012-02-20T11:51:23.607-08:00for our D.S. - turns 6 in April - it isn't qui...for our D.S. - turns 6 in April - it isn't quite as easy as social stories yet - he's still maturing - with Great Leaps of Success - but when it comes to his Sensory Needs/Struggles/Challenges & even - just everyday fun & joy with them - it is very ~ very unpredictible - this article will offer some additional insight - although - not everyone sees all of this in "Full Bloom" - our D.S. is Exceptionally Social - so when it goes well - it goes Very well - but when it doesn't well - thankfully we don't have to do it unplanned as a rule....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-45252485139859307152012-02-20T11:50:15.132-08:002012-02-20T11:50:15.132-08:00You can use "social stories" to help pre...You can use "social stories" to help prepare your child for such situations. This allows the child to learn expected and unexpected behaviors - lifelong coping skills they will need in order to go retail shopping as adults. We take our son to stores all the time without issue. Only bigger malls pose any problem and we use the "time limit" method in fairness to him (and it is a great excuse for getting me out of the mall as well).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-39217792283670327772012-02-20T09:07:31.426-08:002012-02-20T09:07:31.426-08:00oh - I can't wait to read the entire article -...oh - I can't wait to read the entire article - I am very lucky - I don't have to do this on a regular basis - I look back at successful trips & EXHAUSTING semi-successful trips & trips which are best left as "Experience" for the next try.... even with best laid plans - never truly predicitble - & that means - lots of trial & error for the next time & so on.... the biggest mistake we make & have learned from = Not extending the trip & when there are signs it is too much - weight the options - leave when you can & that does include - before the job is done - our D.S. with H.F. Autism (yet to be assessed for Aspergers) doesn't take that as a "Win" for bad behaviour - he just knows it is time to go.... it is all about getting him back to a place or state of mind - where he is just himself again.... he's so very sensory driven/sensitive - & he needs us to work through it all - & give him tools & use the tools that will allow for better tries.... life is so much more than a trip to a store....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-10413170451172712922012-02-20T08:39:48.912-08:002012-02-20T08:39:48.912-08:00It's funny, I have already used some of these ...It's funny, I have already used some of these strategies without thinking about it. It is getting others to understand his tolerance.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-82794687363368579152012-02-20T08:29:32.776-08:002012-02-20T08:29:32.776-08:00The Nintendo DS has saved us soo many times...just...The Nintendo DS has saved us soo many times...just remember the charger! Even at family functions (we are Italian and it gets loud) our 7rd old w/ Aspergers will sit in another room and play his game alone just to stay in his safe zone. Its what works and we are thankful for it! (we actually have 2 in case of battery failure!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com