tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post5047740507193230475..comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00Comments on My ASD Child: Bullying: How Parents Can Take Legal Action To Get It StoppedUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-49451274534054645482016-01-11T18:19:43.352-08:002016-01-11T18:19:43.352-08:00What should you do if you file a complaint as desc...What should you do if you file a complaint as described in this article, but the school still refuses to investigate the harassment?<br />David Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01078849865093478060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-18578915980134360932012-09-27T06:42:48.038-07:002012-09-27T06:42:48.038-07:00Please help me. My son is getting caught up into ...Please help me. My son is getting caught up into the system. He had so many violations.. I need an attorney. I can't do this alone anymore. My son is bright and getting abused from the students, vice principal, and they don't care about his disability. They are using it to hurt him... he got suspended for his disability.. he was being bullied and this boy kept [utting his face in his face and then turning off the computer more than once and my son melt down and pushed a wire basket on the floor and it hit the boy in the foot and the boy picked up the wire basket and threw it in my son face.. then a fight broke out. He has been damaged his whole life and is one of the sweetest child I know. They did not follow his IEP and was put in a self contained room, and he can talk and is so smart.. did not want to give extra books, said Robotics was above him then later lied about saying it. It is too much to write but every law has been broken... and I can't fight any more I need an attourney. There is not one here. Help I can't stop crying I can't stop fighting for him but I feel as though I have to give up because there is nothing but talk about helping him and never any real action. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-15487252645016931052012-02-26T15:55:20.236-08:002012-02-26T15:55:20.236-08:00As parents with children with Aspergers Syndrome o...As parents with children with Aspergers Syndrome or individuals with the syndrome I wish you well in your fight, BUT how about sparing a thought for some of the parents whose children are in the same class as your child and also at the "pointy end" of the negative aspects of their behaviour. In the last two weeks my son has been "called" to explain on five different occasions "why he was looking at this child" "talking about this child" or "laughing about this child". My son whose, until this happened (he's twelve), only interest in this child was vague curiosity as to why his mother bought him to class, why he burst in to tears when he was disciplined by the teacher and why he was allowed to trip, push and kick other children in the playground with impunity is now very upset at being constantly falsely accused. I am now at a point of taking the school to task (and yes, I will follow the articles advice)on how to put safeguards in place to protect my son against the ongoing harassment of the Aspergers Child. (For the record my child had never had a detention or even a first warning' for bad behaviour of any sort until this child started his vendetta, he has an Uncle with severe Austism and several friends outside school with Aspergers who he met when I as an OT was treating them. <br />AnonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-31898766990793435272012-01-19T08:33:30.208-08:002012-01-19T08:33:30.208-08:00Hello, I'm the mum of a 10-year girl with Aspe...Hello, I'm the mum of a 10-year girl with Aspergers. Does anyone know of any Aspergers girls groups in North London? My lovely daughter is bullied in school and finds it hard to make friends. We have been to local groups but the kids are primarily boys. She is arty and creative and eccentric -- not mathematical or teccy in the slightest. Her self-esteem would be boosted enormously i think if she could spend some time with some girls like her, or even just find a pen-friend girl who has AS.<br />Can anyone help?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-15415097917436693222012-01-11T03:15:11.511-08:002012-01-11T03:15:11.511-08:00Thank you so much for this information. My lovey ...Thank you so much for this information. My lovey sweet 13 yr.old Aspie has an IEP scheduled 1/24/12 but I am holding him out of school and weighing home schooling... I am a nurse I can always work 3rd shift and not sleep, lol, until his bullying is resolved. He said to me (with great eye contact!) Mom...I don't feel safe at school. I never know what's going to happen to me day by day. Please don't make me go. I'm so depressed at school I just want the pain to stop. I'm happy at home.. except when Dublin (our cat) died. <br /> And they say Aspie's can't express emotion..huh :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-8841586569309298322011-12-20T06:54:33.658-08:002011-12-20T06:54:33.658-08:00In the USA sections of the AWDA (Americans with Di...In the USA sections of the AWDA (Americans with Disabilities Act) requires that all schools no matter the size or accreditation must provide a safe and educational environment for all students. With that said The first Thing if not already done is legal documentation of your child's diagnosis be put in their permanent file, Then a SFST (Student and Family Support Team) should be formed (most school districts require their own testing to be done) AN IEP(Individual Education Plan) will be decided upon if your school does not comply go to your local Disability Office and ask for representation(this is free) And I guarantee if you walk in there with Lawyers your child will get the safe learning environment they deserve. Please Feel Free to contact me personally with any other questions and I will direct you to the proper websites for your area.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-14036883872503336472011-12-16T05:55:48.834-08:002011-12-16T05:55:48.834-08:00http://www.passionaustralia.org/blog/articles/some...http://www.passionaustralia.org/blog/articles/some-homeschooling-questions-answered/ @Sarah, I found this artcile. Is says it's legal in Australia. Schools don't neccesarily want to loose a student so might not be very helpful. Also if it's uncommon in Australia, they just might not have the answers for you. You might be a trendsetter! :) I hope it goes well for you. And thanks, "Parenting Asperger's Children" for the great article you posted. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-53231108011632435542011-12-14T06:13:32.592-08:002011-12-14T06:13:32.592-08:00Hello all... I just wanted to add my 2cents to the...Hello all... I just wanted to add my 2cents to the bullying thread. I like the lawyer's advice, give them notice. If you click the link and look at the list is the most important part. What, specifically, do you want them to do about it? Before my kid's principal even met the kids I was getting the origional IEP, I asked about bullying and was told "some times these kids are the bullies" - sounds to me like a great excuse "I'm not going to do anything but turn it around and blame your kid" eventually, working with others at the school I asked for and received "better eyes" on my son on the playground. An aide is assigned to know where he is at all times, and if he's bothered by some other child's behavior he can run to a specific spot known to the aides. This way she approaches him and it does not look like he is running to a grownup to tattle. If the eyes are on him, it meets the principal's goal - we know it wasn't him because Mrs. X was watching. Mrs. X also can stroll over and stop the problem before it gets too far. This plan also worked in an unexpected way. My son was always getting in trouble on the playground, but nobody could tell me (or even him) why - when they watched more closely, it stopped. It was because my son, with known (to most of the staff) stomach problems was rushing to the bathroom to get sick from running around right after lunch, without asking permission to go inside. When they were looking at him, they noticed he was looking sick or heading to the bathroom, not just getting a ball to play with. My point is that unfortunately, it works best if you not only identify the problem but figure out and propose the solution. Also helps if the solution works for them too - principal knows now that it's not my kid (probably thought my kid knew he was being watched and behaved better for awhile when the child isn't at all capable of noticing people's behavior that well, but not many children could keep that up for months). Also, this solution would work if your child is sometimes the aggressor, because the adult does see and interrupt the problem. CDC's new anti - bulling recommendations recommend the staff to student ratio at recess be the same as in the classroom. It's not even close here, but they are watching, and watching out for my child now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-157220604960508942011-12-13T05:51:38.703-08:002011-12-13T05:51:38.703-08:00What is the first step in starting homeschooling? ...What is the first step in starting homeschooling? I live in qld Australia, and have tried to discussed it with our school, but cant get any info frm them...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-80141402007946229792011-12-13T05:51:27.083-08:002011-12-13T05:51:27.083-08:00In my experience I would offer the following advic...In my experience I would offer the following advice. Firstly - if your son is acting out and having such severe problems he is in desperate need of support at school. You would first need to have an interview with the head of the school. Take notes prior to attending the interview so you can refer to them. Most important - take a support person with you. Ask them what they are doing to help your son and what you think needs to change. Tell them you want it in writing as to what is planned for your child. Keep notes of every phonecall/conversation/interview. Hand them a letter also requesting that your son needs help and that you respectfully require them to reply in 14 days with an individual education plan. If they do not satisfy their requirements complain to the head of the school again in writing. If still no luck, then complain to the appropriate government authority. Don't give up. Get as much help and input as you can from the appropriate therapists, ie: OT, psych, speech etc. Getting detention repeatedly is NOT the answer to your sons situation. Maintain a confidential communication book at your sons classroom between you and the teacher. Your son obviously needs a designated area just for him to go to - find out how this can be accomodated at your sons school. Research aspergers on the net and print up as much information as you can and hand it personally to your teacher. You'd be surprised at how many teachers do not know enough about this syndrome. If all else fails - change schools - or as suggested home school. Bullying is bad enough for a neurotypical child, let alone an aspie. Dont let it go on. You don't want to have to wait to deal with this when they're are a teenager as we all know what the risks will be then.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-52461781374348629962011-12-13T05:51:16.486-08:002011-12-13T05:51:16.486-08:00I have a 9yo aspie who is also being bullied. We h...I have a 9yo aspie who is also being bullied. We have decided to change schools, to a tiny 20student Christian school with a very proactive view on any kind of bullying (not that there will be much with ony 20 students) I simply found that no matter how good his teacher was about the bullying, being in a bigger school (500+ students) and not having access to supervised social experiences at recess and lunch breaks means that he is open to bullying during those times.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-67944945950044944382011-12-13T05:51:08.299-08:002011-12-13T05:51:08.299-08:00Calling is a good first step but you must follow u...Calling is a good first step but you must follow up with a letter (e-mail is fine) covering all details of discussion with all details of what happened in the incedent(s). Unfortunatly in schools if it isn't written down and on the record it never happened. Also ask in the letter that "Please place this letter in my childs permenent file" this will make the document part of childs perment recoard and always be available as a ongoing recoard of issues happening if necessary. REMINDER keep copies for yourself too!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-78037768420633322112011-12-12T09:54:46.647-08:002011-12-12T09:54:46.647-08:00I have had several problems like this. Of course ...I have had several problems like this. Of course as many as our kids, my son, 13, forgets to tell us right away and a month or more later tells us what is going on. We have been blessed that I have been to the school the next day to see the assitant princial and he has taken care of the problem the same day. But, like you he still has a class (gym) with this kid from hell and there is no good supervision because the coach time is for the sport oriented stars and leave the special ones to play on their own.<br /> <br />The school must a have a anti-bullying policy. So printed, read it, highlighted and meet the the administration. It is against the law and they must make changes for both kids.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-85454034235759189422011-12-12T09:53:18.748-08:002011-12-12T09:53:18.748-08:00Sadly we had similar issues in school. The school ...Sadly we had similar issues in school. The school likes to double-up the kids who an aide (in our case triple or quadruple up). In both K & First grade my son's aide was being shared by 3 other children who had behavior issues. Even though they weren't the same kids from year to year, the results were the same. These kids were truly violent children, hurting someone on a daily basis, and they scared the heck out of my son, and on more than one occasion physically attacked him. In my opinion that behavior should not be tolerated from any student, no matter what their issue. <br />What I learned is that our school's "zero tolerance" for bullying is non-existent for kids on IEPs. My son can be provoked to violence when under huge amounts of stress, and he ended up attacking another child at the end of the year. They never even informed me. There were no repurcussions at all. <br />This really bothered me, and I feel like it certainly doesn't prepare any of these children for success "in the real world". When you are 20 years old and you hit someone, the consequence is the same whether you have ADHD or PPD-NOS, or not.<br />We ended up homeschooling our boy, and he is much happier and we are all much saner, but I'd love to find a better school him, I just don't think it exists in the public school sector right now. There are great private schools around here,but I just can't afford $17,000 a year for school.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-1149219998702017532011-12-12T09:49:04.657-08:002011-12-12T09:49:04.657-08:00I know this isn't the answer for everyone and ...I know this isn't the answer for everyone and my heart breaks for you all and your Asperger kids, but we now homeschool (I have 4 boys, 3 identified with Asperger's) and we LOVE it! I can't even tell you. I never thought it was something I could do, but low and behold, I can and the boys are so happy. I'm so happy. I've discovered, the more I learn about Asperger's, that my husband and I almost definitly have it as well. Keeping that in mind, you have to be bold and pushy and vocal (things that don't come naturally to those of us with this "gift") with the schools. Hang in there!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-2395994153810278152011-12-12T09:48:48.689-08:002011-12-12T09:48:48.689-08:00My son is 9 and has been bullied for the last 3 ye...My son is 9 and has been bullied for the last 3 years. He "tattles" when the kids call him names but keeps quiet when they punch and push him around. He's often the one who gets in trouble. I feel so helpless and so bad for him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-4251952789680186722011-12-12T09:48:35.054-08:002011-12-12T09:48:35.054-08:00My son is bullied also and nothing gets done !My son is bullied also and nothing gets done !Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com