tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post3670584795601125408..comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00Comments on My ASD Child: Spouses with AspergersUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-86011369624232308352022-10-25T05:23:56.992-07:002022-10-25T05:23:56.992-07:00Hi Bernard, i absolutely understand you completel...Hi Bernard, i absolutely understand you completely, for me it's almost 5 years of marriage and I'm already tired and burned out, I am absolutely leaving him and I need to work on myself because I have become something else, I am exhausted and I want to breathe. I wil not try to save thi marriage or else I'll end up in blood rage because he pushes every buttons no matter how much patient I'm, i am human and I'll break because my husband is evil and vicious so I need out like yesterday. I hope you will find yourself back and you will absolutely feel alive even though it hurts, you will be okay. Stay strong, we will be fine. I wish the rest of you well if you're fighting for your marriages and always remember to not forget who you are and turn to something you hate. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-91364011385774284832011-01-30T09:53:56.060-08:002011-01-30T09:53:56.060-08:00Hi All!
Thank you for this wonderful post. A verit...Hi All!<br />Thank you for this wonderful post. A veritable oasis in the desert of despair!!! I was married to a woman for 22 years with what I now suspect is Aspergers!!! All the symptoms described above were present. The things that hurt the most was the loneliness and the feeling of loss of oneself. She couldn't get me....or the kids!!! And in fact, she would often vocalize her inability to empathize. <br />While I am sympathetic to the Aspergers couples - and wish them all the luck in the world - I personally cannot live without empathy....without understanding and reinforcement from my spouse. <br />I realized early in the relationship that something was missing and tried to make due. Now two years after our split, I realize how I was kidding myself, how I had deluded myself into thinking that I could live without it!!! She tried, but it just didn't work! I realized that she just didn't get it!!! <br />I had lost myself and am now at age 55 working on myself....on "bringing myself back." I wish I could be more positive for those who find themselves in this predicament, but I can't. <br />Thanks for reading my post!Bernardhttp://bcbea@videotron.canoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-92152766212920963402010-10-05T05:40:44.959-07:002010-10-05T05:40:44.959-07:00Mark I have often wondered if my ex husband was mi...Mark I have often wondered if my ex husband was mis diagnoised as a teen with paranoid scychophania instead of aspergers, sometimes he comes off as someone ois out to get him but I also see traits of aspergers from the social aspect that my son has, could doctors have diagnoised someone with paranoid schycophania ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-82004719950215968522010-10-05T05:32:25.592-07:002010-10-05T05:32:25.592-07:00Thank you.
I’m hoping we will get some ideas. We...Thank you.<br /><br />I’m hoping we will get some ideas. We have a very intelligent 21 year old classical improvisational piano player, who sleeps all day and is up all night, and doesn’t communicate much. He talks a lot to himself. We are in need of ideas.<br /><br />Thank you,<br /><br />L.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-86610159824967107532010-10-04T09:39:09.127-07:002010-10-04T09:39:09.127-07:00Hi Mark,
Well, it seems that everytime a situatio...Hi Mark,<br /><br />Well, it seems that everytime a situation arises with my 14 year old grandson, you happen to post something related to the specific problem we are having.<br /> <br />Today's message about spouses with Aspergers could not have come at a more likely time. My son and his wife have been divorced for over a year and it has been very hard on all concerned. All four children have been greatly affected by this. I have thought for a long time that my son had bi-polar issues, but now I seriously believe that the Aspergers was probably a real possibility with him in youth...we just did not know about it back then. It is beyond repair, his marriage, and he needs counseling. Hopefully we will find the right outlet for him to learn to cope with the situation.<br /> <br />Thank you for your posts....they are very helpful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-2794920835416635072010-10-04T09:05:41.509-07:002010-10-04T09:05:41.509-07:00"The Five Love Languages" is a good book..."The Five Love Languages" is a good book for a couple dealing with Asperger's to read. My husband and I refuse to use Asperger's as an excuse to leave me feeling stranded. Someone with Asperger's CAN learn how to speak a love language they do not understand. It takes a bit longer and takes more effort and communication, but it CAN be done. He can learn what fills me up and connects with me. Then he can make it a part of his routine and I can accept that what may feel "mechanical" at times, is actually a HUGE step out of his comfort zone that he is making because he does love me so much.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-63693922043081796572010-10-04T08:30:37.000-07:002010-10-04T08:30:37.000-07:00My husband has not been officially diagnosed, but ...My husband has not been officially diagnosed, but has taken the online test and we have suspected he has Asperger's ever since our daughter was diagnosed.<br /><br />I actually have found that knowing what I now know, I have become much more understanding and less peevish. What used to drive me crazy with frustration is now just a part of life with the man I love.<br /><br />The most important thing I have found to remember is that the things that drew me to my husband in the first place and the things I love about him have not changed with the diagnosis. The only thing that has changed has been the day-to-day dynamics. I now know to communicate with written messages and notes rather than blast him with a long list of verbal expectations. I am more sensitive to "zone out" times and understand why he has them and why he sometimes needs them.<br /><br />Knowing doesn't remove challenges, but it helps my creativity kick into gear and it actually enlivens the marriage - we aren't just any other boring couple. We get to go about life and marriage in a new way with new little twists and in the end we will be closer and stronger than ever before.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-60926420201232099892010-10-04T07:49:51.208-07:002010-10-04T07:49:51.208-07:00I can 100% relate to you! I will be married to my ...I can 100% relate to you! I will be married to my husband (who has Asperger's) coming on 19 years...it is a day to day struggle. Our oldest daughter (soon to be 15) also has it, but milder. Its nice to know I'm not alone...but yes, very lonely and overwelmed! =(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com