tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post3111451026540009439..comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00Comments on My ASD Child: Aspies Get a Bad Rap!Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-40243888783423860472018-02-20T23:51:39.042-08:002018-02-20T23:51:39.042-08:00Aspies are human beings, first of all, so they hav...Aspies are human beings, first of all, so they have qualities and flaws, like everybody else. The article seems to wnat to show how incredible Aspies are, but this isn't true, as it isn't true for anybody on Earth. However, I can see where the author is trying to get, which is showing that not all the traits a cnsiderable numebr of people consider bad are actually bad, and they can be good instead. Neurotypicals often think everything they do is the right thing just because they are the majority in the world, which makes them become the "role model", but Aspies can also see mant bad things in their behavior, which would surely collect enough features for us to have the "neurotypical syndrome", where good and bad things would also be possible to be pointed out. Finally, though there are neurotypicals which become assassins, for example, and there are Aspies who become teachers and wonderful inventors, both have a bad side, and Asperger's does have its bad side too. Parents who raise Asperger's kids often have so much more trouble and suffer from depression and anxiety four times more than those who raise neurotypical kids. Also, couples where one is an Aspie and the other is a neurotypical person often tend to be unhappy, mainly on the neyrotypical side, which is the one who ends up having to adapt, accept and give in. So, Asperger's does bring problems, but not all the syndrome symptoms and traits are actually as bad as many say, while nneurotypicals aren't so incredible as they think they are. Estrela da Terrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08498794404884246659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-37438670137988720832016-11-17T07:50:38.218-08:002016-11-17T07:50:38.218-08:00This is a huge obstacle for my son. When we moved...This is a huge obstacle for my son. When we moved into our neighborhood it took less than a year to for him to alienate all of the neighbors on our cul-de-sac. When he was little, any small incident on the playground would cause every kid and adult to turn into the Aspie police and watch him like a hawk. He has been outcast from every class/group situation since toddlerhood. The problem is, he thinks he needs to do the things from #1, #2 and #4 on the list to be 'cool' but when he tries, he goes overboard and gets into trouble. :( My husband and I are constantly trying to show him the boundaries but he's a slow learner in that area.MartinKidshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15953342866838014220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-4959190542413670022015-05-23T09:46:26.223-07:002015-05-23T09:46:26.223-07:00I've been down this road hundreds of times as ...I've been down this road hundreds of times as a kid growing up. I did manage to fight threw some of my social awkwardness since I believed it has much more to do with battling social anxiety. Instead of using one's own learning disability as a main factor for not necessarily "Being one of the cool kids." Most kids with ADD are a victim in those situations for fitting in for the wrong reasons. My mother did those things once herself, doing drugs getting in trouble in school because she felt this was normal. I hated most kids for obvious reasons not because I felt alone or single outed in some social situations but mostly because I feel these kids are nothing more but blind sheep, or common(do forgive my french) Attention Whores. I don't wish to label people but sometimes I can help how I see these people plus teens. Everyone does want to be loved, have friends but one shouldn't do these things for stupid reasons that may be. I do suffer from Aspergers and I've been trying to cope with it ever since I gotten properly diagnosed. I don't like how I'll still have an occasional melt down whenever feeling overwhelmed but there not as bar nor frequent as when I was younger. That drove my mother insane because we didn't know what was wrong with me than. I did had a few people in my brief social circle in school and off campus who were NT's they did expected me but my resentment for others teens, or from past events hinder my connections with them because i couldn't trust anyone. I never saw them as a potential threat but never wanted to take that risk so I didn't want to bother getting to know them more and vise vice versa those are my only biggest regrets.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14798958082922504525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-48278639819971489702011-01-26T15:25:45.378-08:002011-01-26T15:25:45.378-08:00As a mom of an autistic son, I just want him to be...As a mom of an autistic son, I just want him to be able to function as a productive member of society when it's time for him to be on his own. I hope maturity helps. I've already seen he isn't accepted into groups and has been bullied by numerous kids. He is homeschooled now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-73013625470228156822011-01-26T12:39:06.834-08:002011-01-26T12:39:06.834-08:00I liked the sarcastic way you put our word's s...I liked the sarcastic way you put our word's standards. As a child I was definitely this way but I fought for my relationships and my individual recognition. My son is now officially diagnosed. He has his issues of concern- but don't we all? No matter what we have. I like having the diagnosis because then I can understand him and create moments to teach him how to understand his world and emotions. However, I want him to always keep his unique perspective- the world needs it. he just needs guidance on how to use it. Just like I needed guidance and still need guidance to make wise choices and wise relationships.<br />I will always have a different wiring of my brain, a different way of looking at things, but thanks to counselling and help with sensory overload issues- I have many amazing relationships- I live for them ...and according to the text book I wasn't supposed to turn out this way.<br />I actually am finding a positive shift in the culture around me- so many 'normal' people are beginning to see they have flaws and differences- or they are having children who do- which are making them understand more. Understanding and Awareness is key. We don't need to judge or label the 'NTs' either. We all have things to work on but more importantly we all have things to give.<br /><br />Thanks for your encouragement and words today.Kmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947797743800775255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-21774793958376700572011-01-26T10:22:02.591-08:002011-01-26T10:22:02.591-08:00All humans on the whole in my estimation are littl...All humans on the whole in my estimation are little more then glorified bacteria running ancient survival programs that are not designed for our modern technological world, they are very petty and tribalistic, its small wonder the world is filled with war and poverty and yet mankind has had the gift of a large brain and ability to control his own behaviour and curtail his own feral instincts for thousands of years. Which leads one to only one conclusion: People are barbaric, and their lives are too short to really change much of anything because so much time is spent on their animal passions or simply surviving they never achieve total self-mastery, like many smaller groups of humanity have over human history. They are for the most part, overgrown, half-animal children, quite literally... no one on earth is an "adult", if there were real, true, responsible adults, there would be no war or poverty.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-80187085792574720022011-01-26T10:21:41.781-08:002011-01-26T10:21:41.781-08:00AS is negative to me.AS is negative to me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-72809092312737918592011-01-26T10:21:33.705-08:002011-01-26T10:21:33.705-08:00I don't see AS as positive or negative, It'...I don't see AS as positive or negative, It's just who I am and I like it that way. I'm against finding a "cure" for autism, we have an entire subculture just like deaf people and people who like anime (otaku)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-49284269698309165872011-01-26T10:21:21.154-08:002011-01-26T10:21:21.154-08:00Being unwillingly, genetically stripped of all ins...Being unwillingly, genetically stripped of all instinctual understanding of human to human interaction (quite important in this social world) is not individuality. In fact, it makes us the same as every person with AS out there (though with different degrees of difficulties, of course).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-89796292602566086872011-01-26T10:21:12.993-08:002011-01-26T10:21:12.993-08:00I dont really see aspergers as a negative thing ei...I dont really see aspergers as a negative thing either. It's just part of who I am. None of my friends have aspergers and they are very accepting of me. to most people i don't seem autistic and most people i know don't even know what autism is. People just need to stop being ignorant and realize that there is no cure for individuality.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-31118465834138198002011-01-26T10:20:43.842-08:002011-01-26T10:20:43.842-08:00AS has it's good and bad aspects.... the good....AS has it's good and bad aspects.... the good... most of the negative aspects of AS stem from hypersensitivity, and other characteristics that are not exactly universal in the AS population. Most of it revolves different ways in how their mind processes data, so you have social data processing "deficiencies" (or should I say enlightenments?) and emotional processing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-82417301286073800792011-01-26T10:20:35.502-08:002011-01-26T10:20:35.502-08:00Who says people are trying to fix it? Or treat it,...Who says people are trying to fix it? Or treat it, for that matter. As I said, I don't consider myself to be mentally ill, and neither does my family. I haven't undergone psychological treatment since I managed to get round my depression, and in fact I stopped NEEDING to be toted along to psychiatrists and psychologists once I got my diagnosis, as that enabled my mother to understand why I freaked out in certain situations, hated change, etc. etc. and helped her to help me work round it. Personally, I also think it's nice to know that I'm not the only one who goes into overload in football stadiums or finds perfume absolutely vile.<br /><br />So... yeah, I rather like my diagnosis, thanks ever so much.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-37088780739064067872011-01-26T10:20:15.779-08:002011-01-26T10:20:15.779-08:00I'm trying to say personality traits in genera...I'm trying to say personality traits in general are being classified into medical conditions. I don't think asperger's syndrome is a mental illness and I don't hold hostility towards people who don't have it. I find it annoying that there is needs to be psychological treatment for personality traits that seem a little out of the ordinary, whatever that means. I meant that nearly everyone (including those who don't have asperger's) can be diagnosed with a psychological disorder because there are so many. I'm sorry if someone got the wrong interperatation, my intention wasn't to insult anyone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-75526072623458238242011-01-26T10:20:03.138-08:002011-01-26T10:20:03.138-08:00I don't regard my AS as negative or positive. ...I don't regard my AS as negative or positive. I try not to use it as an excuse for anything; outside of this forum, very, very few people know I have a diagnosis. It's part of my personality, and helps me to pinpoint what I need to work on with regards to dealing with others. It gives me some strengths and weaknesses. Beyond that? Doesn't matter. And as a note, I regard myself as a very mentally healthy person most of the time. I certainly don't regard my AS as a mental illness or something to be "corrected," as there are many positive aspects as well as negative. There are negative aspects to being NT as well. Nothing is perfect.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-5954771667518740492011-01-26T10:19:49.315-08:002011-01-26T10:19:49.315-08:00Honestly? I haven't noticed any real positive ...Honestly? I haven't noticed any real positive or negative general feelings about me from NTs where I am (that is, I'm not universally liked or disliked). I have, however, noticed some serious anti-NT prejudice from Aspies and auties on this forum. Just saying.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-44486623669578694442011-01-26T10:19:34.989-08:002011-01-26T10:19:34.989-08:00Aspergers isn't a negative thing, i think it i...Aspergers isn't a negative thing, i think it is a positive thing as we excel in areas others don't and i don't see my other things a drawbackAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-10611760209614141832011-01-26T10:19:24.173-08:002011-01-26T10:19:24.173-08:00You will find Nt's will not take to you as wel...You will find Nt's will not take to you as well as AS people will, with some exceptions, 2 of my 3 best friends are NT, with the other one being an Aspie. however it seems all NT seem to dislike or are uncomfortable around those who are different. Just because are see things differently and we act much different, and it's not what NT's come to expect, which is sad, as they need to achknoledge us and understand us, one issue with AS is the lack of awareness from NT's, they expect everything to be like them. However as much as they wish to find a so called 'cure' for us. I say you need to stand tall, you are not diseased, and you may feel that AS has it's issues, when i was first diagnosed at 13, i first saw AS as a big problem, however 5 years later, i am more at ease with it asi have discovered more about it, thanks to books,Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-73167597887418671012011-01-26T10:18:58.572-08:002011-01-26T10:18:58.572-08:00I have noticed instant hostility from some NTs. I ...I have noticed instant hostility from some NTs. I know it is not personal, it is someway I am walking or holding my body that sends the signal to them and they react to it like a magnet reacts to iron. I sat with NTs and said something, I don't know. . anything I suppose, and get called out of line, or have them recoil (yes, recoil) in horror from something I in ignorance said. The list goes on and on. Especially because I am very loquatious so they are lulled into some sense of security with my 'normalacy' and then. . pow! they get it right between the eyes (the 'it' being how ever my autism reveals it'sself to them)<br />They really can't help it, and they really can't understand what goes on inside of us. They just don't have the capability.<br />That's why it's so much fun to watch once you take your hurting ego/heart out of the mix.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-65872048869327071312011-01-26T10:18:46.178-08:002011-01-26T10:18:46.178-08:00Humans ( or at least NT's) are naturally wired...Humans ( or at least NT's) are naturally wired to dislike those who are different from them. They cannot comprehend something that is as different from the norm as autism or Asperger's, so they view it as defective. Since body language is a very important factor in the opinion of a person for NT's, the different body language is a huge difference in the eyes of an NT, something that they think must be a defect.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-63370420332369028332011-01-26T10:18:37.697-08:002011-01-26T10:18:37.697-08:00There are so many personality disorders now. It se...There are so many personality disorders now. It seems like there can be no such thing as a mentally healthy human being. Asperger's syndrome doesn't have to be seen as an issue that needs to be corrected in order to live a healthy life. It's strange, but I feel most content when I'm alone and depressed. It's comforting. What's wrong with seeing the negative side of things before the positive. Everyone is different. Why do humans have to find a cure everything. Sorry to spew, but it has just been bothering me. Does anyone else here think about this?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com