tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post3025630169947179923..comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00Comments on My ASD Child: Anger and Violence in ASD ChildrenUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger37125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-61539564920186907252023-01-12T18:50:02.959-08:002023-01-12T18:50:02.959-08:00My son is 16 non verbal severely autistic. Adhd an...My son is 16 non verbal severely autistic. Adhd and ptsd. I am a single mom he is in boarding school during the week but comes hone to me on the weekend. He gets so aggressive he has broken doors windows sinks cabinets dishes etc. I have to keep everything locked up for our safety. He kicks me punches me bites me pulls me over by pulling my hair. Tackles me to tge ground. I have tried everything my biggest problem is tgat I have no services I have tried to get help from all over and I'm still waiting for help. I have a feeling that help will come to late for us. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-1293420006763716302022-12-22T13:03:53.381-08:002022-12-22T13:03:53.381-08:00Mom of child with challenging son Mom of child with challenging son sharon Robinsonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-33688809102226611882022-12-22T13:01:48.447-08:002022-12-22T13:01:48.447-08:00I could cry I've found you both my son has epi...I could cry I've found you both my son has epilepsy autism challenging behaviour his 17 on boxing day yes was the first time he really assaulted me I love him so much so I couldn't get police his got a 2nd degree bun on hand if anyone touch it his so angry Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-88609002278322833842022-06-18T03:42:54.654-07:002022-06-18T03:42:54.654-07:00Have you got him off all artificial colours & ...Have you got him off all artificial colours & flavours especially the 600’s? Try going gluten free with no wheat. That will make a difference 😀Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-60889488133148391372022-06-18T03:36:37.936-07:002022-06-18T03:36:37.936-07:00I wouldn’t send him to his room. His room is for s...I wouldn’t send him to his room. His room is for sleep & peace. Sounds like a lot of violence & power struggles in your family. Maybe read Ken Greenes Explosive Child book. Do you take time out for yourself? Do you dress sell & take care with your skin & hair? Self nurturing is what ee need to do. Avoid conflicts as it creates habits. GoodluckAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-32497998652649823622022-05-26T18:57:14.063-07:002022-05-26T18:57:14.063-07:00Thank god I’ve found someone who is experiencing t...Thank god I’ve found someone who is experiencing the same thing as me. Not meaning that I’m glad ur experiencing that cause man I’m in same boat have been since my son was 9 and he is 22 now and I also have another son with autism which has angry outbursts to some times but not as bad. My 22yr old though man I’m struggling with him and just can’t talk to him unless we end up in a screaming match. Everything is an issue with him. I’m sure he waits for me to wake up. Come home etc just to cause an argument. God there is so much more I could tell I wish we could speak in person or on the phone. But just remember ur not alone in this. Reach out to all the help u can find it will help ur sanity. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-17300099453043001252018-05-27T06:05:02.696-07:002018-05-27T06:05:02.696-07:00Omg please hold on. Im so sorry you have been abus...Omg please hold on. Im so sorry you have been abused. Can you relocate to N.Y. its not perfect but there is more support especially for Aspergers. My son is struggling with it and it hurts me how he treats me bc I am his biggest fan and I could help him if he would just let me. Big sigh. I feel like alot of ppl dont care and so you can forget about the ppl who do. Reach out to a mental health hotline its free google it you can chat online and its anonymous. Please dont kill yourself you have so much to offer you could miss your blessing. Trust me I know from experience. God wouldnt bring you this far for no reason. Its hard on me bc Im the mom and the dad so I looked at as bad cop anyway hang in there and God does love you 💘 take careAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10367787334461224629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-14894631158368378812018-05-27T05:57:13.632-07:002018-05-27T05:57:13.632-07:00This blog is amazing and dead on. I go through thi...This blog is amazing and dead on. I go through this with my son amd yes mood disorders is underneath the Aspergers. My son needs a mood stabalizer as well as coping skills and cbt. I feel bad that he cant understand emotions and other ppls perspective but it doesn't give him the right to be violent towards me I am his biggest fan and it just hurts to go through this....Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10367787334461224629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-68567936149367178942018-03-10T02:29:06.426-08:002018-03-10T02:29:06.426-08:00I was born with Aspergers in 1956. Doctors were s...I was born with Aspergers in 1956. Doctors were so stupid then that they did not even know how to diagnose the illness in children. I exhibited intense anger, depression, irritability, learning problems, a lack of empathy and I have few friends. Instead of getting good treatment, I was abused by my parents, spent two years in an institution where I was physically, emotionally and sexually abused, and finally incarcerated in a maximum security mental hospital because I beat up my car one day. Even now, I suffer the same symptoms. I have no confidence in doctors. They are quacks who only care about making as much money as possible. If they really cared about people like me, they would help alleviate the problems I have. I have spent thirty years trying to get the right medication. In Canada, the health care system is so bad, that trying to access a psychiatrist is almost impossible. As a victim of child abuse, I carry the scars each and every moment of my life. THe abusers are dead now, but there acts live on in me. I am angry that no one loved me as a child. No one cared about me. At least now, children are somethimes treated better. Yes, even now in Canada, adults cannot get the help they need. There are no facililties to treat us. Suicide is constantly on my mind. I have been hospitalized twice for over doses. Someday, I hope somone truly cares for people like me. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14364563625841792111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-35339930434019631492017-12-27T16:45:28.501-08:002017-12-27T16:45:28.501-08:00Karol Mooney I absolutely agree. My aspergers son ...Karol Mooney I absolutely agree. My aspergers son 24 has a huge amount of control over our family through his rages. It’s like living under a dictator in our household with a dread fear of not upsetting him or knowing what devious thing he will try next to cause family upset. He has never admitted it to us but I just know he is conscious of exercising and using this control to get what he wants, certainly in his adult years. I have often caught him weirdly smiling during rages as if he is enjoying the distress and mayhem he is causing. It’s really good that your son has opened up to you about his insight into his own state of mind. I think it will give others hope including me!. I think they start out young having these rages simply because it goes with the condition. As time goes on It dawns on them the power their rages have over other people to get their own way. They then exploit this advantage ruthlessly because the lack of empathy inherent with this condition. I must say living under this fear has virtually destroyed my marital relationship. I feel so angry that this has happened to us. When we started out I certainly never dreamt that we could come to a situation like this. I had such a close relationship with my son as he grew up into his early teens but we have drifted far apart as his life span out of control and he started to hate me. My wife thinks she can ‘love’ him better and gives into him from of fear of his rages. She is now an alcoholic. My wife and my son are like two children who keep throwing tantrums all the time. I am the only one working and feel everything is depending on me. I’m getting to the stage of walking out because I just can’t take it any more. They are just not trying to improve their lives.Greghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13581508114768521248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-30105382217986083302017-10-11T07:02:32.129-07:002017-10-11T07:02:32.129-07:00Prozac causes this behaviour. Should not be presc...Prozac causes this behaviour. Should not be prescribed for patients with anger management problems. Can't believe someone did.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02547102560583522833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-64970616212512446982017-09-04T05:04:39.350-07:002017-09-04T05:04:39.350-07:00My son is no longer a child, and he managed to ser...My son is no longer a child, and he managed to serve in the army. He still struggles, but has learn to manage much better than he used to. Who's anger and depression stems from just being unhappy with life. He has learned to take a step back, sometimes before saying something, sometimes after, and calm down rethink and also he has learned some empathy and others perspective. This is something he is going to struggle with for the rest of his life, but he refuses to give up and so do I. Know that there is hope!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16909495275882446678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-64361802272512639472017-02-15T12:35:57.176-08:002017-02-15T12:35:57.176-08:00Hi everyone. What medicine works for the violent o...Hi everyone. What medicine works for the violent outbursts? Please help. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01782965707332704956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-3657636618403368642016-12-27T08:06:33.330-08:002016-12-27T08:06:33.330-08:00This thing of any child hitting himself has been a...This thing of any child hitting himself has been abused in being hit, put down with words telling him/ her that they are a loser..with held from food and just not treated as being important and valuable... Marking a child with 'Aspergers' is right from the pits of HELL... ALL children are trained to hit themselves.. and others..NOT born that way!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01307941628420693817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-55109884989720633392016-12-19T04:46:18.137-08:002016-12-19T04:46:18.137-08:00I'm 15 year old girl I have Aspergers.I feel c...I'm 15 year old girl I have Aspergers.I feel completely mental and out of control when I feel angry to the point I could kill myself I broke things and smashed things then I turned to self harm this time I was 11/12 years old.I am 15 now and nothing's changed I could kill myself in one of these out bursts it's very scary<br /><br />I have severe chronic social anxiety body dysmorphic disorder and also I was adopted.I was abused in the past.<br /><br />My birth parents are both schizophrenic mental health runs in my family 2of my siblings are schizophrenic too and the rest of my 4siblings have had chronic depression and borderline personality disorders.<br /><br />Aspergers is very hard to deal with I haven't gone to school for 3years since I was 12/5 I and 15and a half now.<br /><br />Aspergers people really can't help it because if it's not you there hurting it's normally themselves through self harm....Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15320318983049715160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-10727156160454025482016-11-29T16:22:10.744-08:002016-11-29T16:22:10.744-08:00I'm experiencing this now with my 12 year old ...I'm experiencing this now with my 12 year old son who's on the autism spectrum. I feel like my son know what he's doing in his rage moments. I'm glad to hear that it can be controlled. Thanks Karol MooneyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10793432550276383897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-23942901396588481482016-08-20T10:10:27.380-07:002016-08-20T10:10:27.380-07:00I call BS at the control part...and the anger one....I call BS at the control part...and the anger one...we can get angry at the situations when we feel we can't help it but we learn to control our anger fits with time, just like a kid who learns a new skill...social skills aren't a 100% built-in function in our system but just like every human we can improve with time<br /><br />and I wanna make a point on something that really made me mad...don't put all autists in the same bag...never EVER have I threaten my parents to get something that was catching my interrest...like every kids this that age I did in fact tried the puppy eyes and the''pretty please'' tough x)<br /><br />what I mean is...we all have a character on our own and we know that we can improve just like every other human.<br /><br />for the ones searching ways to control the emotions of their youngsters at a certain age...look up for a technique called ABA, this and social abilities group, which are made especially for the ones struggling with social skills and that need to develop these.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04364290753931236456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-3072538071799112212016-06-06T06:12:35.056-07:002016-06-06T06:12:35.056-07:00I call BS on anyone who really thinks that an Aspi...I call BS on anyone who really thinks that an Aspie "can't control and/or doesn't know what he is doing." I have lived with an Aspie s9n for 28 years. He now shares with me a lot about what it is like to be an Aspie teen. His anger episodes were explosive and resulted in a lot of rage. He did state that he knew exactly what he was doing (although at the time he was happy letting us believe he wasn't in control). He used this as a manipulative because it consistently worked. Everyone was terrified and gave in. He did share with me that the frustration and the "wanting" his way were kind of like an urgency, BUT he would PUPOSELY talk himself into a tantrum to get his way. It didn't matter if police were called or he'd end up in the mental facility..... it is also very much hormonal too, so it does die down A LOT by the mid twenties.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02294100770854974687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-68611301564284898822016-04-15T05:42:05.005-07:002016-04-15T05:42:05.005-07:00My 14 year old son has Aspergers and tourettes wit...My 14 year old son has Aspergers and tourettes with ADHD. He is very inappropriate. He cusses and talks sexual at home a all the time. He even does inappropriate gestures. He seems to be trying to provoke me. He has these rage attacks when he destroys property and tries to hurt people. Yesterday he chased me with a bat. He seems to be getting worse. I wonder if it could be a mood disorder or bipolar also. It seems to get worse during periods of time. He destroyed a school room and attacked the teachers. We have some therapist but none seem to help us or him. How much can we take before we need to send him to residential? I have three other kids. He does this in front of them and they are younger and scared. michhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04324039892276151286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-91149713507241253872015-12-08T01:23:12.614-08:002015-12-08T01:23:12.614-08:00Give them love and redirect them to their favorite...Give them love and redirect them to their favorite activity but also build a rapport in case the activity is not available when anxious and or aggressive. What are steps to keeping your child calm? Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06925325591669158596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-11078995080353819352015-10-27T10:19:56.273-07:002015-10-27T10:19:56.273-07:00I'm not sure where to start. I have an 11 year...I'm not sure where to start. I have an 11 year old son. I was called to the school yesterday after he had a major meltdown, during which he threatened to stab the RTC officer's daughters to death and laugh at them while they burned in hell.<br />He hasn't been diagnosed with anything other than ADHD and has been in a special needs school for speech delay and occupational therapy. This is his first year in a mainstream school. He is having a lot of difficulty adjusting to it. I didn't know he was having these behaviors in his old school because they never told me. I do know that he has had these types of outbursts at home and has had to be restrained to keep him from destroying things or hitting himself when he is frustrated or angry. He has made threats of harm to others when in these "rages" but has never actually hurt anyone other than himself.<br />I'm wondering if I should insist that he be tested for Asperger syndrome. The new psychologists have mentioned having him tested for high functioning autism, but not Asperger syndrome.<br />I also have a 16 year old bipolar daughter. As a mom, I feel like I'm drowning and can't get my head above water to get a breath. I'm actually starting counseling myself, which I had never considered before, but have been depressed quite a bit lately and have started having some social anxiety issues.<br />I'm so lost.Christy D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02747651866530946666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-19287489548624277522015-03-21T08:37:05.134-07:002015-03-21T08:37:05.134-07:00what annoys me about having aspergers is how annoy...what annoys me about having aspergers is how annoying people are telling me to do stuff for them, even from my parents which really irritate me since im not that smart. it stresses me out so much at how they do that and i try my best to tell them and they keep saying 'come on matt your smart' while cracking a smile or smirk which tells me they are only messing with me. ive come to the point of getting aggesive to them telling them to leave me alone.Matthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02784494268598697242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-82305288806216876932014-07-31T16:16:45.242-07:002014-07-31T16:16:45.242-07:00Some people with autism have very sensitive nervou...Some people with autism have very sensitive nervous systems. They are easily irritated, frustrated etc. They can get violent because they are having difficulty regulating their emotions and physiological responses under stress. If retreat is not possible the anger and attack can come out. These folks would do well with an Occupational Therapist to work on sensory modulation; some might use programs such as Zones of Regulation or How Does Your Engine Run as part of the treatment. The whole family can learn the program to support the kiddo.<br />Dr DeLaCroix, Cerebral Fitness IncCerebral Fitness Inchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15571184725036996977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-88922333057384633302012-12-22T20:00:34.208-08:002012-12-22T20:00:34.208-08:00The media experts who are saying aspergers isn'...The media experts who are saying aspergers isn't related to violence--what planet are they living on? Surely they cannot be living with someone with this problem.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12902480836824971753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-15902416983858403712012-09-29T20:54:19.428-07:002012-09-29T20:54:19.428-07:00I'm. Afraid my lil brother is going to kill my...I'm. Afraid my lil brother is going to kill my mother one day he has aspergers and she lets him get away with everything and buys hike everything it seems to me he. Will not make it as an adult...............https://www.blogger.com/profile/12599775557785851534noreply@blogger.com