tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post1045478254282271665..comments2023-09-17T04:34:33.856-07:00Comments on My ASD Child: How to Get Capable Adult Children on the Autism Spectrum to Move OutUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-21464149832345971922022-12-08T02:21:06.865-08:002022-12-08T02:21:06.865-08:00I agree partially with this article but Autism is ...I agree partially with this article but Autism is on a spectrum hence each individual with the condition will have a different degree of abilities in their functioning. Most people with ASD have anxiety which is a challenge in itself as it makes navigating the world for them for more challenging. ASD is a disability thus cannot be overlooked whilst contemplating throwing our children into the Lion's den. Adults without disabilities end up Iving on the streets without support from their families. There isn't a "real world' lesson to be taught to someone that has autism by throwing them into it because they are not neurotypical and see the world differently. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-23112690103830411742022-11-27T02:30:26.179-08:002022-11-27T02:30:26.179-08:00I have a 19 year old that lives at home he has ad...I have a 19 year old that lives at home he has add, non verbal learning disorder and to a high degree OCD . He’s very lazy and won’t work but even if he were to work he would spend all his money on cannabis. I believe it calms him and helps him cope and I’ve given him money for weed because the house becomes unlivable.<br />He just badgers for money, gets verbally abusive , I believe he’s 19 in a number only very immature me and his mother are trying to advise him but he won’t do anything to better his life . <br />I want him to attend a day program and get on medication but he won’t go . He vapes cannabis that gives him headaches and heartburn but continues and deals with discomfort. When he runs out of pot or money the constant badgering starts it’s relentless. He smokes uncontrollably <br />He doesn’t make healthy decisions but trying to get medical assisted decision making in order to help him is a nightmare in my state. The relationship between me and his mother is ruined and I just want to live alone. Although I love my son I just can’t take no more . Any suggestions very desperate and can’t find answers in Rhode Island.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-62670686074268300192022-08-30T06:21:52.560-07:002022-08-30T06:21:52.560-07:00You can be high functioning with badly impaired ex...You can be high functioning with badly impaired executive functions, must have assistance to maintain a work schedule. Going out in your own-then must locate assistance - but where, how, if not parents/ family. We had a spectrum daughter go out to rent and return after the stress became suicide inducing. I assist my brother (severe childhood based anxiety disorder, insomnia, health failing) and we also have young adults on the spectrum. We try to balance assistance vs independence, but to me the executive function impairment requires a personal administrative coach or assistant, or else the job attendance will fall off. Where do you get that and it does not eat up wages…Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-86146984432102115372022-07-27T22:15:41.743-07:002022-07-27T22:15:41.743-07:00My 21 year old daughter moved out and lost contact...My 21 year old daughter moved out and lost contact on purpose. We had no idea what was happening or how to help. She became very angry and distant until she was picked up by the police trying to run in front of cars on the main road to end her life. She had been sex trafficked by a close family member, to our absolute shock and horror, booking up to 10 men per day and being given only a bedroom and food in return. She was sexually assaulted,became pregnant and miscarried. By the time she came home it was a million times harder than before. Definitely don't force your child out if they aren't ready. In my gut I had a feeling that she might not cope, but she's high functioning and I thought it would be ok... Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-82080553400488450902022-07-09T00:59:39.693-07:002022-07-09T00:59:39.693-07:00I am so sorry for everyone here that's sufferi...I am so sorry for everyone here that's suffering, I am as well. I have an adult Daughter with Asbergers. She has had depression, anorexia, bulimia and anxiety is on Meds which help a bit, but her rituals and obsessions and dirty ways drive me insane. She also has a taste for online unsavoury websites and shopping for "cute" clothes and makeup. She lives in her head too and like the other reader I would be afraid of what would become her if she were to live out. No support, I just have to keep out to avoid confrontation, the life is sucked out of me. I'm sure I was chosen as the parent for a reason but I haven't found it yet lol.<br />Good luck to everyone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-16844659426035343812022-07-07T07:15:44.639-07:002022-07-07T07:15:44.639-07:00My Daughter, aged 45, did leave home at one time, ...My Daughter, aged 45, did leave home at one time, but unbeknown to us, she didn't cope, but didn't communicate to us her problem, so after 15 years of apparent independence, lost her car, £70,000 debt, misunderstanding and general naivity, we ended up coming to the rescue. She gave up her job because of bullying fro. outhouse who didn't understand her, and now after 15 years, we are stuck with her refusing to work, refusing to allow us to seek helping. Having meltdowns when people try to help. If I threw her out and confronted her? the most likely scenario would be that she got herself into debt again. She would hide away, possibly kill herself. I'm tired of seeing these simplistic instructions on how to deal with difficult situations. Easier said than done. No-one is prepared to help. She has just had her Universal Credit stopped? and so I am left having to support her. If she did go back to work she would give it up as soon as there was any misunderstanding. I am at my wits end.<br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-53045761602134261262022-07-05T02:09:06.779-07:002022-07-05T02:09:06.779-07:00I too am shocked by many of the comments! As someo...I too am shocked by many of the comments! As someone else said, go learn about about Autism! These people, our young adults on the Autistic Spectrum are not neuro typical, they not wired like you and me so navigating life is just not the same or as simple as it is for someone who doesn't have Autism. There are answers but difficult to find and navigate and unless you're financially loaded it is almost impossible to set up independent living for one's Autistic young adult. Period!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-28409224205241235542022-06-12T08:34:58.329-07:002022-06-12T08:34:58.329-07:00I'm a bit shocked by the tough love comments a...I'm a bit shocked by the tough love comments as well. Am I the only one who sees the vulnerability of these "kids"? They do not have the same abilities to navigate difficulties and the subsequent feelings and emotions that follow as neuro typical adults. Many of you might say, that's her choice. But while she may be chronologically 24, she is emotionally much younger and functions more like a middle schooler. I would not kick my middle schooler out. I totally agree with the writer of the article. The sooner we stop coddling the better. Put a stop to the easy life. But I am worried about my daughter being homeless, raped, pregnant, etc. All situations she is not capable of managing, which would eventually come back to my doorstep. While I would LOVE her to move out, that presents a new set of problems to be managed from a distance.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13540691686984871042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-50747611440910731602022-05-02T07:10:10.099-07:002022-05-02T07:10:10.099-07:00Wow, just wow...sounds like my son who is about to...Wow, just wow...sounds like my son who is about to be 20 behavior wise but when I read your son's age and the fact that he was able to attend college, earn a degree and win money online playing poker...this is different. My son has aspergers and depression. I really want him to MOVE out at this point because he acts entitled and is rude and lazy. He attended a special school for years that coddled him and didn't really focus on college readiness and before we knew it graduation came and went and we were adrift in the ocean without a paddle lol. He doesn't have a plan that is reasonable and lives in a world of fantasy basically so that doesn't help and again no rescources or real help. SSI just keeps denying us..with that he could at least afford to live somewhere else like a group home because friends are important. My son is a hermit and makes friends online ( not real friends) your son really sounds capable and just taking advatage of his diagnosis and you :( I would find him a small cheap apartment near by and rent it and move all of his stuff in it, he can pay the rent with his online winnings ...that is a start I think. I wish I had an answer for my situation though lol- GOOD luck...update us please <br />~JenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1527055659904040434.post-52362736405366661042022-03-26T02:19:03.900-07:002022-03-26T02:19:03.900-07:00Just so shocked at these comments; 'tough love...Just so shocked at these comments; 'tough love', 'change the locks' etc. I have an autistic son. It drives me to the edge. There is no help from any source - and that explains a lot of the homeless people on our streets. Very sad Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01850652296595752744noreply@blogger.com