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Anonymous said...


I just wanted to say thank you. I look forward to your emails. They have helped me with my understanding as a whole and also have helped me with how to handle situations and so much more.

Have you ever thought about emails directly to the teens?.... to help them with situations and understand that their feelings and situations are not unique just to them?

You have helped me and I think it would be so helpful to my 15 year old son. The social at school is so hurtful. He has no peer friendships and is treated poorly and does not understand why. (and nether to I) He eats lunch alone and is not included in anything. It hurts him and breaks my heart. It is very much a clique atmosphere with of course sports as a major. The community is small needless to say the school is also.

I could go on and on... but I'm sure you understand what i"m saying. :)

Thank you

Anonymous said...

I am so grateful for your newsletter. I work with families and schools as a behavioral specialist and educational consultant, sfter 36 years of classroom experience. I forward your newsletter with the hope that they will subscribe. You're insights are so helpful. Thank you so very much.


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I LOVE getting your newsletters. They have been so very helpful.

Anonymous said...

Thanks so much for your newsletters. I really appreciate them so much. For 21 years I have thought I was crazy!!! You can't imagine how I've been living----Two months ago my husband was diagnosed with Aspergers. I'm quite relieved to know that I'm not crazy!!!
But I am afraid that my son has it. He is the nicest kid in the world, but he just won't do his homework. For instance, in Science he gets great grades on his tests, however, he doesn't do his homework on time and his grade suffers. The teacher said the other kids struggle on the tests but their homework holds up their grade---for JP, it's totally the opposite. He just wants to play on his XBox 360. He won't advocate for himself at school---he just keeps quiet and doesn't let the teachers know when he doesn't understand. I know he is extremely shy. I just am worried that he might have Aspergers. What is the difference between shyness and Aspergers? Christmas vacation is just so nice because I don't have to come home from work and struggle with trying to get him to do his own homework--negotiating with him so he can do it on his own terms etc ....Anyway----I know it's not your problem, but I do appreciate your newsletters.

Anonymous said...

Dear Mr. Hutten,

I am subscribing again to your newsletters and just wanted to let you know how helpful I've found them this past year. My son is a 9 year old fairly high functioning Aspergers child. The tips and education you provide in your newsletters have been so enlightening and useful to my husband and me. It's clear that you know and understand these children and the needs of parents. Thank you for being so generous with your expertise. My husband and I have been to two different therapists with our son over the last few years and neither of them have been as helpful, compassionate, or skilled as you via your newsletters have been. My son is now on ADHD medication and it has been a gift to him. Yet, there are still the social and emotional issues that we find challenging at times. The targeted topics in your newsletters have so often given us the perspective and encouragement to problem solve and support our son in just the right way.

I've told several other parents and even social service groups in our area about your web site and newsletters. Thank you again for offering such wonderful support to us parents!

Anonymous said...

Thanks, Mark, for a dose of good perspective this morning! I appreciate receiving your newsletter, there's always something that encourages or helps or makes me think.


Anonymous said...

Hi Mark,

Thanks so much for your wonderful website and advice. It helps parents like me all over the world.

Best wishes for 2012!
Sarah in Ireland..mum of 2 wonderful boys with Aspergers

My child has been rejected by his peers, ridiculed and bullied !!!

Social rejection has devastating effects in many areas of functioning. Because the Aspergers child tends to internalize how others treat him, rejection damages self-esteem and often causes anxiety and depression. As the child feels worse about himself and becomes more anxious and depressed – he performs worse, socially and intellectually. Thus, the best treatment for Aspergers children and teens is, without a doubt, “social skills training.”

Click here to read the full article…

How to Prevent Meltdowns in Aspergers Children

Meltdowns are not a pretty sight. They are somewhat like overblown temper tantrums, but unlike tantrums, meltdowns can last anywhere from ten minutes to over an hour. When it starts, the Asperger's child is totally out-of-control. When it ends, both you and the Asperger’s child are totally exhausted. But...

Don’t breathe a sigh of relief yet. At the least provocation, for the remainder of that day -- and sometimes into the next - the meltdown can return in full force.

If your child suffers from Asperger’s Syndrome, expect him to experience both minor and major meltdowns over incidents that are part of daily life. He may have a major meltdown over a very small incident, or may experience a minor meltdown over something that is major. There is no way of telling how he is going to react about certain situations. However, there are many ways to help your child learn to control his emotions.

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Parenting Defiant Aspergers Teens

Although Aspergers is at the milder end of the autism spectrum, the challenges parents face when disciplining a teenager with Aspergers are more difficult than they would be with an average teen. Complicated by defiant behavior, the Aspergers teen is at risk for even greater difficulties on multiple levels – unless the parents’ disciplinary techniques are tailored to their child's special needs.

The standard disciplinary techniques that are recommended for “typical” teenagers do not take into account the many issues facing a child with a neurological disorder. Violent rages, self-injury, isolation-seeking tendencies and communication problems that arise due to auditory and sensory issues are just some of the behaviors that parents of teens with Aspergers will have to learn to control.

Parents need to come up with a consistent disciplinary plan ahead of time, and then present a united front and continually review their strategies for potential changes and improvements as the Aspergers teen develops and matures.

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Aspergers Children “Block-Out” Their Emotions

Parenting children with Aspergers can be a daunting task. In layman’s terms, Aspergers is a developmental disability that affects the way children develop and understand the world around them, and is directly linked to their senses and sensory processing. This means they often use certain behaviors to block out their emotions or response to pain.

Although they may vary slightly from person to person, children with Aspergers tend to have similar symptoms, the main ones being:

=> A need to know when everything is happening in order not to feel completely overwhelmed
=> A rigid insistence on routine (where any change can cause an emotional and physiological meltdown)
=> Difficulties with social functioning, particularly in the rough and tumble of a school environment
=> Obsessive interests, with a focus on one subject to the exclusion of all others
=> Sensory issues, where they are oversensitive to bright light, loud sounds and unpleasant smells
=> Social isolation and struggles to make friends due to a lack of empathy, and an inability to pick up on or understand social graces and cues (such as stopping talking and allowing others to speak)

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Older Teens and Young Adult Children With Aspergers Still Living At Home

Your older teenager or young “adult child” isn’t sure what to do, and he is asking you for money every few days. How do you cut the purse strings and teach him to be independent?

Parents of teens with Aspergers face many problems that other parents do not. Time is running out for teaching their adolescent how to become an independent adult. As one mother put it, "There's so little time, yet so much left to do."

Parents face issues such as college preparation, vocational training, teaching independent living, and providing lifetime financial support for their child, if necessary. Meanwhile, their immature Aspergers teenager is often indifferent – and even hostile – to these concerns.

As you were raising your child, you imagined how he would be when he grew up. Maybe you envisioned him going to college, learning a skilled traded, getting a good job, or beginning his own family. But now that (once clear) vision may be dashed. You may be grieving the loss of the child you wish you had.

If you have an older teenager with Aspergers who has no clue where he is going in life, or if you have an “adult-child” with Aspergers still living at home (in his early 20s or beyond), here are the steps you will need to take in order to foster the development of self-reliance in this child.

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