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How will Asperger’s affect my other (non-Asperger’s) 7 yr old son as he grows up?


How will Asperger’s affect my other (non-Asperger’s) 7 yr old son as he grows up?


Living with a sibling who has Asperger’s Syndrome is not always easy. One minute the two are playing a game or sharing a special toy and the next minute, the child with Asperger’s is in the middle of a meltdown while the sibling sits wondering what happened to cause it.

Everyone in your home should learn about Asperger’s Syndrome. Even small children can be told why their sibling acts the way he does in a way they can understand. Simple, matter-of-fact explanations will satisfy the younger ones. Allow the children to ask questions. Negative effects on siblings will be diminished if they are informed. Young children do not like personal mysteries.

Here are some additional ideas for you to use to help your other children deal with Asperger’s Syndrome.

* There are books written specifically for the siblings of children with Asperger’s Syndrome. These books are available for all ages and come in the form of non-fiction essays by real children, fictional storybooks, books written by teens with Asperger’s, and personal accounts written by parents or adult siblings to name a few. You should be able to find just what you need for your child’s siblings. A possible choice is “Views from Our Shoes: Growing Up with a Brother or Sister with Special Needs” by Donald Meyer, editor. This book is a collection of essays written by the siblings of children with Asperger’s Syndrome. They range in age from four to eighteen.

* Special attention is a necessity for the siblings of a child with Asperger’s Syndrome. The child with Asperger’s unintentionally demands attention. His behaviors are questionable in his sibling’s eyes; they would never get by with doing some of those things. Schedule regular one-on-one outings or play dates with each child. Give each one your undivided attention and make them feel special as often as possible. They need you and yes, you need them.

* Family counseling can help with all sorts of negative feelings, especially once the siblings get older. The child with Asperger’s can embarrass them. Having a safe place to vent frustrations and negative feelings will keep your household feeling positive while everyone makes the most of having a compassionate listener.

Siblings of a child with Asperger’s should suffer no ill effects when living in a balanced, supportive home. Take steps when they are young to minimize any negatives and help them grow up to be caring, compassionate adults.

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1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Brandy Dusenbury Balting My 9 yr old non asd daughter is starting to withdraw herself from my home, where her 10 year old aspie brother lives, she lives w/ her dad, but w/ us daily too. Its really hard. For her to see us have to drop what we are doing & give full attention to him sometimes. She hates that he is selfish & bossy. I explain till I'm blue in the face about asd, but she doesn't get it. Maybe someday. :(
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Tish Newman U poor thing!!!! My two youmg kids 7 & 4 are learning real bad habits. Ive gone more then. blue.... A frw books that r simple. to explain help sometimrs and a. mutual person like a councellor. can help heaps coz it comes from. someone else and she is getting attemtion... Goof luvk xo
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